Do men like this stuff?

My Wife (KH) told me I like it, so yes, I do like it...
When we first started Male Chastity, it was the two of us playing.
Now after 5 years it is our life style. My Wife (KH) really got into it right away. She loves having full control. It's hard to explain why I like it. I don't find it
"weird", it's just the way it is now. If my Wife told me tomorrow it was all over, I think I would miss it. I have said this many times here... My Wife wishes she would have know about this way sooner. She has told me I would have been wearing a cage a long time ago.

 

I want to quit often. My erections and orgasms are punishingly seldom and pegging and torture frequent. I'm not allowed to make comments about releases and orgasms and I'm still expected to thank her for keeping me in chastity often during body worship. So i keep most of these feelings to myself. I can either do chastity her way or not at all and that would not be return to party time when it came to her body. She prefers having a caged slave to fulfil her every whim. I'm obedient and if I have nothing to say other than express gratitude for being her slave I'm expected to keep it to myself. Last time she said, "don't be silly, you love it. You're doing good, this is good for us. I'll decide when you get a release and if you're well behaved rewards will come". Giving up owning your own penis is a difficult lifestyle and I often wonder why I do it. But if I quit one more time I think she will have lost her patience in doing chastity with me.

 

Short answer = yes.

Longer answer...

I have learned over the years of being in chastity that there are things I wasn't prepared for despite my desire to be in a cage and controlled by my wife.

I miss erections. She can be very strict on removing the cage and nothing about erections were pleasurable for me until I wasn't permitted them on a regular basis.
I miss coping with a bad mood or stressful day by 'rubbing one out.' It was something I did more than I ever realized and I had to learn other ways to deal with adversity.
I miss thrusting. I love it when she allows me to lick her to orgasm and being between her legs is extremely rewarding for me sexually. It never occurred to me that thrusting my hips would be such an important part of my world.

When she is in control and dictating terms while I am blind with lust, there isn't much better on Earth.

 

Same. I'm not sure how I'm gonna make it through the 3 month lock up she wants us to do. Currently on day 5, but if I say express anything other than gratitude, she will quit the whole thing, and like you, that won't be a fun thing. What did we get ourselves into???

 

I do enjoy it most of the time. I love the constant suspended arousal state, the edging, the bondage, and the power exchange to name a few. However there are definitely times that I regret my predicament and wish that I could be free from this lifestyle.

 

I think many men love to climb mountains for the women in their lives. When a woman denies her man because its what she wants, he does so with no complaint because its his way of climbing that mountain to bring her pleasure and to try and impress her. As such it is fulfilling which is why we like it.

I think part of the enjoyment too is the gadget appeal. I have spent the best part of 20 years building a better mousetrap, even though I thought I had built the the perfect inescapable one (pictured left), I had to build modified one in plastic so she could zap me with greater intensity.

Of course I wish I could impress her more often....haha

And of course the above involves the dick

 

It's crazy how when we started I had all these fantasies about it being very long term or permanent, at least in the sense that we don't get holidays not living this lifestyle. About having a keyholder that would become power crazy about owning my willy. This is where we're at. I've done a couple of 3+ months. I have found it easier to cope with not masturbating and my cages and her system are really quite secure... enough that I wouldn't risk a ball slip during pull out so I don't. Tamper proof rather than inescapable. 3 months I think all chastity people would have read as a long but not unreasonable time and I kind of wanted to achieve it. I think you can't really not try to comply with that and still expect her to be keyholder. 4 orgasms a year is what I may be facing though, that's the problem if you do complete it.

 

If it isn't rude, I'd like to understand this more because it is very foreign to me. No judgment, just curiosity... "X" is really important to me... What if I give you a version of X you aren't comfortable with, and if you disagree, you don't get anything close to "X" at all. I'm sure I am missing something because it seems harshly coercive.

 

Be careful this exact thing is happening to me presently....going through rough patch after rough patch realizing im totally done and locked for the Spring/Summer of 2024

 

It's just the way my wife rolls, she doesn't want to hear me complain at all, and who could blame her, certainly not me.

 

YES.

 

Like many chastity was introduced to add a bit of spice, after almost 40 years together. Luckily me and my wife are very similar when it comes to the bedroom. What started as a temporary thing, as I work away a lot, it has now become permanent, I have 2 cages, one for home and one for work. I am only unlocked for travelling or when goddess wants to play.


When we started this journey my wife said she missed the spontaneous intimate moments, where as I didn’t really mind as my moments of pleasure were more intense, and I wasn’t locked when at work, but I never relieved myself when I was away. Now we are about 4 years into this journey, and I recently asked my wife if she still missed those spontaneous moments, her reply was “oh god not at all”, ironically I do. Suppose for me chastity has become love/hate but way more love. My wife has a sparkle back in her eyes that disappeared quite a few years ago, and I have told her if that sparkle disappears that is the end of chastity for us. I love that we are more touchy and tentative, we hold hands or my hand is in her back pocket of her jeans, she knows it drives me nuts if I stand behind her on an escalator, very nice view lol. Even writing this is and thinking about her stirs my desire for her. For us chastity has done more than put a spark back into the bedroom, it’s re light the fire of passion we have always had for each other, but allowed life to dampen it. For me sometimes I do miss satisfying my needs when I want to, but I do know the pleasure I’m given when goddess decides, is way more intense that a 3 minute quickie. I also find it strange that I now get pleasure from just being allowed to be fully aroused. Still not used to going to the loo and sitting. I don’t t miss self gratification but sometimes I think it would be nice to have the option. I know I could end chastity if I wanted, as we would never do something the other didn’t want, but as long as the positives outweigh the negatives I will remain locked for my goddess.

 

Yes I enjoy the frustration and arousal. The heightened energy and focus. And ability to better serve my wife. Plus happy wife happy life so I won’t focus on what she likes about it on a thread asking about the men but anything that makes her happier makes me happier

 

I would like it, but she isn't into it...I would love to have her interested enough in my penis to put it under lock and key and take charge of it.

 

Funny really. It was my idea to start Male Chastity. Mrs Chaste was certainly up for it. Over the years (nearly 13 now) Mrs Chaste genuinely does not want me unlocked at all if possible. If I was to say "no more chastity please", she would do her utmost to talk me out of it. Ultimately she would agree to end it, but she would do so reluctantly.

 

@IB-Chaste , I have met a handful of other men here who's wives initiated chastity, so it isn't only me, but clearly men initiate far more. My hunch is that is because men are "hornier" and more likely to fantasize, read porn and learn about kinks than the average woman. Especially when the sexual supply is less.

But you've followed my journal and know my theory is that there is some pool deep in many men's subconcious that is tapped by chastity. And once tapped it provides tremendous motivation/satisfaction despite (or because of) the frustration. Almost a Freudian thing.

That would be my explanation of why men DO love Chastity regardless of who initiated, as long as it is pursued in a mutually supporting way. So I am very similar to others - there are times I truly want out of, even regret, chastity - but the constant dopamine high when it's working and the closeness it creates can't be beat.

 

It's nice knowing I'm with like company.

This all is relatively new to me. It's not so much that I'm learning to like it. I found elements of it that I instantly liked, but many aspects that were/are still very frustrating. As time goes on and I spend more time in the cage and less time cumming and being erect, I find myself enjoying it more. Certain aspects anyway. And things I wasn't so keen on are becoming much less of an issue.

 

My wife and I had one of those moments when I was ill and really feeing under the weather some time ago, but with a very different result.
We both came to the conclusion that if was likely to hinder my recovery in any way then it would immediately come off. As neither of us could identify any adverse effect it might have had on me getting better, it stayed on. One of those moments that reinforced the realisation that male chastity really was our "normal".

 

I live for the Journey.. it seems you are too!