Hi. Introduction is a bit overdue. Not my first time on CM, but its the best time. I have been into chastity for almost 7 years. My wife has been done with sex for quite some time because of health. She is mentally and physically completely asexual. I started wearing a cage too take the pressure off myself and my inordinately high libido. It was difficult. But now that I found a Mistress to control me and hold my key, I am finally in the place I belong. I have been informed that I am done. There will be no releases for me. I will be permanently locked other than emergencies. It is exactly what I need.
Lol. No. I have a Mistress key holder and it is not my wife. I had one in the past, was without one for a short time, and am just starting with new Mistress. We have discussed the details, or, should I say, Mistress told me how it will be, and, of course, I will comply. Self locked is great if you have the will, but I don't. So I am happy to submit.
It was a joke, dude. I said it like it was, OMG. You said, Is your wife okay with the mistress? You didn't ask if I told her. Lol. Yes, its a fair question. The answer is no. She does know I am locked and why, and is pleased that I am. Despite that, she does not care to participate. She doesn't realize that I am unable to control myself and stay chaste and be MO free. (The P, porn, is a non issue for me.) Self locking had only limited success. I don't need some success. I need to be all in. I cannot be trusted because I lack self regulation. So I have to have a key holder to control me. It is better this way. My key holder gets to have the power they lust after, I get directed by someone that knows what is best for me, its a win win. So she may not approve of a mistress, but she sure likes that she never has to have any intimacy (which is non existent) and not feel bad and guilty about it, like she did before. Sorry if that was a long answer to a short question.
I didn't come here to be judged. I came her to share thoughts and experiences. I am also not judging anyone for their choices. I hate to oversimplify it for you, because I thought you could figure it out. I needed a key holder. The best ones are the kind that are going to demand good behavior and remind you that there are things you just cannot and will not do, and why. I cant do this on my own. When someone offers to help, you take it. Done.
Hey if you're willing to risk wrecking your marriage over a kink that's on you. Just realize you're prioritizing a kink over a wife. I say that with no judgement, just so you're aware of what's at risk.
I have contemplated and written and erased and rewritten and decided to erase it all. There is no compromise of my marriage. There is no prioritizing a kink because there really isn't one. I am just a dude trying to behave, stay humble, and accept correction and discipline where it is needed. Willing compliance. I have been married more than 30 years. Doesn't happen by accident. Chastity caging for the last 6 plus years has only helped. Its about compliance and respect. Respect for my wife, for Mistress, for women in general. Otherwise we follow the path of least resistance and start to behave like.... males. Lol. I don't want to behave like that. When someone is willing to guide me to know my proper place, well... that is great. I praise Mistress for that.
Are you trying to convince me or yourself? Look you're an adult do whatever you want. Just do me the favor of not trying to convince anyone this is for anyone but you. Reverse the roles and some guy controls your wife's sex life, ponder how that would make you feel.
This is an introduction page. Thank you for welcoming me to CM. I have no sex life. If I had one I wouldn't be here. That is the whole point of being caged. Do you also consider my doctor my Mistress since she agreed with and supports me being locked in a chastity cage? She also told me to stay locked because of the mental health benefits connected to it. Would you like to see that in writing, since she included it as part of my personal medical history on file in her office? Just wondering if that's ok since my wife knows that my doctor is fully aware of or situation, just as her doctor knows of her physical limitations. I also am not judging your ignorance to other factors involved, so I thought I would tell you those things to help you in your judgment. Not everything life is as it appears when you peel back a layer or two. Thank you all for welcoming me. Please no more posts here.
Are you seriously saying you have a Dr's note so it's ok to deceive your wife? No wonder women don't trust us.