Well, maybe not a problem. I am never allowed an orgasm, but I can lick my wife's pussy and ass almost any time I want, even drink her pee, but she acts like she could care less, she just talks about shopping or the events of the day and all I want to think about is sex. Ok, about once or twice a week she wants an orgasm with her Magic Wand, I sit between her legs and she works her pussy with the wand and it takes 5 to 10 minutes for her to get off. Now is the only time she really enjoys me licking her pussy and ass, she is really turned on with my tongue in her ass. She says it extends her orgasms. About every 3 hours of the day I ask her if I can lick her ass...she always says ok, but acts like she could care less.
As long as you are both being honest, genuinely happy with the current arrangement, and understand your partner could change their opinion about what they want in the present & future... you should be happy. What could be better than this understanding?
Sounds like she is very giving! But I thought it was normal for a woman to just not be thinking about sex much at all compared to a man.
Woman here. I usually only feel a desire for orgasm once a week, sometimes less often. I think the rest of the time she's just letting you go down on her to make you happy. She probably likes knowing that you're enjoying it, even if it isn't doing much for her. It's more of an act of emotional intimacy and bonding with you for her on those days.
My lady also sometimes doesnt want me between her legs. Sometiems she orgasms, sometimes she just enjoys it with a sigh and sometomes she orgasms a lot. You can be happy, that she urinates into your mouth. I am craving for this. Sometimes i get a few drops. Which makes me crazy.
I had a girlfriend many years ago the liked to urinate in my mouth, she got a massive thrill out of it. Not as much as me. 20 years later, I have been urinated on but never drunk a drop. You are a lucky man
So you eat her ass every 3 hours…..it may be the frequency that has made her disinterested. Try for a few times a week and sprinkle in foot massage for the rest. As you rub her feet while she talks about shopping and the events of the day, you’ll find that you are able to listen to her better, as your ears won’t be so trapped between her thighs. As things are, it seems she is letting you use her. Using her for your snack time like this is probably not pleasing her. Or maybe….she’s messing with you by acting disinterested and she actually loves it
Yeah maybe you should find a hobby or interest other than sex. She’s definitely doing things for your pleasure… which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. But you should save that for when she’s actually in the mood and do something productive with the rest of your time. If she was commanding you to lick her ass while she told you about her day… maybe that would be a fantasy situation, this seems odd. I wouldn’t enjoy it.
For me, there is no problem here. She commands, you obey and that's it. But considering that each relationship has its characteristics, perhaps a frank conversation between you two, since reality is now fantasy, is important to align some points.
The path to enlightenment is (as are most issues in relationships) very straightforward. Talk to her about it. I guarantee she knows more about this than the internet does.
IMHO, if you can’t communicate openly and honestly about sex with your wife then the possibility of “hurt feelings”, are likely the least of your problems.