Are You Missing the Point?

[enslavedbyc]

You being excellent in anticipatory service does not mean you are in an FLR.

You being submissive does not make her dominant.

Your self locking (if she’s not on board with it) could be seen by her as more selfish than you masturbating.

In other words, if it doesn’t enhance the relationship for both of you, you should maybe try something else.


At least that’s the way I see it.

 

[Claire’s good boy]

That’s a controversial comment but true I guess.

We have had a slow start to our new lifestyle with my Goddess over the last 18 months, warming to the idea as we travelled the journey. My wife now prefers all the benefits of keeping me locked as it keeps me in a more submissive mindset which she now prefers.

My Goddess is not a whip wielding dominatrix but we are very happy in our universe of our version of an FLR. She lovesto be treated as a Princess and she has learnt how to push my buttons as her sub.

Im now permanently locked and she is the only person enjoying orgasms, which suites her fine. As the months have passed I have opened up more and more to her about my desires (she is quite vanilla) and my Goddess decides what may or may not be indulged.

Life seems pretty good with some new sterotypical ‘house cleaning attire on order for me with the promise I will work even harder once dressed appropriately. My Goddess is happy for me to open my soul to her and I trust her implicitly and know she wants me to be happy as in turn I live to please and serve her.

My new outfit is not to be worn except for house cleaning and initially only when my Goddess is out. I am lucky to fulfil this lifetime fantasy and in time I hope to serve my Goddess dressed accordingly but that will be her decision alone to make.

We all have buttons that need pressing occasionally and I feel so lucky to be able to share my desires (that’s all they are until Goddess decides otherwise) in an open and healthy relationship.

We have discussed at length numerous times (to assure me) which ‘me’ she prefers to live with and it is definitely her ‘sub’ at home and her husband when out and about with friends.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

What was it you accused me of about making comments with such bold certainty? Though in case I do agree. If she isn't playing an active role or it doesn't go beyond a bedroom kink it's not really more then that. Trying to narrow down what's a real flr beside that however is kinda splitting hairs.

 

[JaySaysYes]

We need clear definitions of tthese things, and a clear set of rules.

I mean, the whole female led thing is confusing. Surely you aren't led by all females, such as horses or cats or the ugly one-toothed hag that scratched your car last week? Surely it's woman led or wife led, but what if the woman has a penis, or the woman you are being led by is not your wife.

Indeed, the whole thing is starting to break down as soon as you start looking at it properly.

I think, before anyone continues, we need to have a meeting to decide what the whole thing should be called.

 

[Goddess Jade]

Not really controversial or anything beyond an opinion.

Is a car defined by how many wheels it has, some cars have 3 wheels or even as many as 8.
None of this matters in the grand scheme of things when the one who is driving gets to steer.

Goddess Jade.

 

[enslavedbyc]

Is a car defined by how many wheels it has, some cars have 3 wheels or even as many as 8.
None of this matters in the grand scheme of things when the one who is driving gets to steer.

Regardless of the number of wheels, If I made myself into the greatest car ever made and my wife would rather ride a bike than take me out for a drive, then I would like to think I would change course. Either try to make myself into a bike or perhaps try to interest her in my becoming a motorcycle.

 

[Dr MBogo]

You being excellent in anticipatory service does not mean you are in an FLR.

You being submissive does not make her dominant.

Your self locking (if she’s not on board with it) could be seen by her as more selfish than you masturbating.

In other words, if it doesn’t enhance the relationship for both of you, you should maybe try something else.


At least that’s the way I see it.

Agreed. It needs to work both ways. We (my wife/kh and I) searched for a awhile, trying to find the best way to move forward, and finally decided that I should be permanently locked, and that we adhere to her version of an FLR. It (our FLR) might not be as strict or as comprehensive as some (perhaps most) are, but we like it, so it's good.

 

[Jail Bird]

Agreed. It needs to work both ways. We (my wife/kh and I) searched for a awhile, trying to find the best way to move forward, and finally decided that I should be permanently locked, and that we adhere to her version of an FLR. It (our FLR) might not be as strict or as comprehensive as some (perhaps most) are, but we like it, so it's good.

How often does she remove your belt for cleaning etc.?

 

[Dr MBogo]

How often does she remove your belt for cleaning etc.?

About once a week, for 10 minutes or so.

 

[CuriousAndy]

In other words, if it doesn’t enhance the relationship for both of you, you should maybe try something else.

I totally agree. If she didn't love being in charge we wouldn't be doing this. Helps that I'm a switch, or at least used to be (she hasn't let me have a turn at being a Dom for a long time).

 

[enslavedbyc]

I totally agree. If she didn't love being in charge we wouldn't be doing this. Helps that I'm a switch, or at least used to be (she hasn't let me have a turn at being a Dom for a long time).

I had to go back and find your reply to my post. It so happens that last night I had a very realistic dream about switching with my wife (what used to be a regular thing hasn’t happened in decades). I told my wife about it today; she said that a dream was as close as I could get to that ever happening again! Great dream though!

 

[this muppet]

Regardless of the number of wheels, If I made myself into the greatest car ever made and my wife would rather ride a bike than take me out for a drive, then I would like to think I would change course. Either try to make myself into a bike or perhaps try to interest her in my becoming a motorcycle.

What if you made yourself into one of those modern air fryer kitchen gizmos? Women seem to love those things!

 

[enslavedbyc]

What if you made yourself into one of those modern air fryer kitchen gizmos? Women seem to love those things!

Thanks for helping me make my point, if I went with the air fryer, despite all of the great attributes that it has in the kitchen it’s not her fetish and would just sit on the counter unused. But, being the observant husband that I am, I would make myself into an Espresso Machine with an integrated burr grinder. Therefore, not a day would go by without my getting “well used” (usually twice a day and sometimes three times a week), she’s insatiable!