So ever since I was about 8 my first fantasy was being tied up. Never even got into porn until I was about 15 and went straight to bdsm until I found femdom. At the time I didn’t even know it existed and had been watching submissive girls wishing I could be them in the video rather than the male. As soon as I found femdomeverything else became a bore. I know this probably gets said a bunch but I feel like I need some aspect of femdom in my life. However I definitely have a porn problem.
So my wife and I were virgins when we got married. She had never masterbated or even watched porn before and she still hasn’t. She’s not a super sexual person but I love her regardless. We’ve tried femdom in the bedroom but it’s obviously not her thing so far. It’s very difficult to explain to a vanilla person what you want in that aspect. I have all the knowledge from the porn I should have never watched and she has the knowledge from 50 shades lol. She doesn’t believe in watching porn wall so how can I improve my sex life so that porn is not my only outlet for femdom?
I can understand how this could be overwhelming to someone who is not attracted to it by nature and has never watched porn. She’s know about my fetishes for about 6 years now but hasn’t done much with them. When she try’s to be dominant it feels like a g rated movie in comparison to what I feel I want. We’ve had conversations about how much it would mean to me if she read some books or searched online but nothing has worked.
Am I doomed and need to cut out femdom completely? I’m not sure I can do that it seems involuntary.
So my wife and I were virgins when we got married. She had never masterbated or even watched porn before and she still hasn’t. She’s not a super sexual person but I love her regardless. We’ve tried femdom in the bedroom but it’s obviously not her thing so far. It’s very difficult to explain to a vanilla person what you want in that aspect. I have all the knowledge from the porn I should have never watched and she has the knowledge from 50 shades lol. She doesn’t believe in watching porn wall so how can I improve my sex life so that porn is not my only outlet for femdom?
I can understand how this could be overwhelming to someone who is not attracted to it by nature and has never watched porn. She’s know about my fetishes for about 6 years now but hasn’t done much with them. When she try’s to be dominant it feels like a g rated movie in comparison to what I feel I want. We’ve had conversations about how much it would mean to me if she read some books or searched online but nothing has worked.
Am I doomed and need to cut out femdom completely? I’m not sure I can do that it seems involuntary.