At this risk over generalizing. I have noted two tracks on the dynamic of male chastity coupled with FLM. The first is where the Key Holder makes it very clear that her husband/partner is to serve her needs, obey her commands, and never expect anything. This gets some chaste submissives extremely excited lauding the strictness of it all. Great for them where this works. The other scenario is where the wife successfully leverages her effort she invests in the 3 Ts (tease, touch, & thongs) to keep her locked man on the delicious sexual edge that has him doing back flips to make her happy.
Again, in general, it appears that the brilliant idea to lock one's penis up 'forever' comes from the man. There seem to be many reasons. Curbing the habit of masturbation, re-introducing sexual intimacy in the relationship, keeping a man faithful, heightening the build up of sexual energy are just a few.
I will quote my own journey with my KH and our exploration of a FLM after almost a decade of me being a Dom and her my obedient submissive. I masturbated too much for my own liking. I wanted to rekindle our sexual spark (after our child we were head on into parenting mode), and I sought to turn her diminished interest in sex into a turn on to be quite candid. I presented the notion of MC and FLM to my wife. She graciously but cautiously entertained and embraced it. We discussed it a lot. I liked the way it affected my brain. I wanted to dote on her, serve her, and make her happy. Without any doubt, in my mind, this loyal and obedient service would (and has been) be equally rewarded by regular, daily does of 3Ts.
Perhaps other couples began as we did. But some dynamics evolve. The chaste submissive man is told in no uncertain terms after a while that he is to have zero expectation on any level when it comes to teasing or sexual intimacy. Many men may well love this strict development. I suspect others, like me, would find that a tough spot to be in. We asked our loving and supportive wives to entertain something that in today’s world could be viewed as pretty radical. They gradually embrace it and the 3Ts go out of the window. What is a chaste and obedient husband to do. He asked for her to be his Key Holder.
I have certainly made it very clear to my Key Holder that I wish to commit, serve, and obey her and in short, make her happy. Period. I also shared in the beginning that I would want the 3Ts to be evident in our lives. She delivers this at her own pace, in her own way and will not put up with any passive aggressive ‘suggestions’ from her cuck. To some this is a contradiction of FLM/MC…surely I am now topping from the bottom if I made the deal that she could hold my key in return for 3Ts.
Having been her Dominant for a decade (a full 24/7/365 lifestyle), I was very aware there is a major difference between taking on the responsibility (gift) of being her Dom as opposed to simply being domineering. In the typical D/s world, domineering men are shunned. Domineering takes little effort, no finesse, and is a course instrument that mostly does not end well for the submissive. To be a true Dom one has to practice the art of balancing forcefulness with consideration for your submissive. It is striking to observe others in the MC/FLM dynamic some of who lean heavily to the domineering side of things with their wives while others artfully balance.
I am curious what the thoughts of others are CM. Did yours journey evolve or was it clearer at the get go which path you would follow?
Please note, my observations are not in any way meant to be a critique of any choices made. I am a naturally curious HausCuck
Happy Saturday evening to all.
Again, in general, it appears that the brilliant idea to lock one's penis up 'forever' comes from the man. There seem to be many reasons. Curbing the habit of masturbation, re-introducing sexual intimacy in the relationship, keeping a man faithful, heightening the build up of sexual energy are just a few.
I will quote my own journey with my KH and our exploration of a FLM after almost a decade of me being a Dom and her my obedient submissive. I masturbated too much for my own liking. I wanted to rekindle our sexual spark (after our child we were head on into parenting mode), and I sought to turn her diminished interest in sex into a turn on to be quite candid. I presented the notion of MC and FLM to my wife. She graciously but cautiously entertained and embraced it. We discussed it a lot. I liked the way it affected my brain. I wanted to dote on her, serve her, and make her happy. Without any doubt, in my mind, this loyal and obedient service would (and has been) be equally rewarded by regular, daily does of 3Ts.
Perhaps other couples began as we did. But some dynamics evolve. The chaste submissive man is told in no uncertain terms after a while that he is to have zero expectation on any level when it comes to teasing or sexual intimacy. Many men may well love this strict development. I suspect others, like me, would find that a tough spot to be in. We asked our loving and supportive wives to entertain something that in today’s world could be viewed as pretty radical. They gradually embrace it and the 3Ts go out of the window. What is a chaste and obedient husband to do. He asked for her to be his Key Holder.
I have certainly made it very clear to my Key Holder that I wish to commit, serve, and obey her and in short, make her happy. Period. I also shared in the beginning that I would want the 3Ts to be evident in our lives. She delivers this at her own pace, in her own way and will not put up with any passive aggressive ‘suggestions’ from her cuck. To some this is a contradiction of FLM/MC…surely I am now topping from the bottom if I made the deal that she could hold my key in return for 3Ts.
Having been her Dominant for a decade (a full 24/7/365 lifestyle), I was very aware there is a major difference between taking on the responsibility (gift) of being her Dom as opposed to simply being domineering. In the typical D/s world, domineering men are shunned. Domineering takes little effort, no finesse, and is a course instrument that mostly does not end well for the submissive. To be a true Dom one has to practice the art of balancing forcefulness with consideration for your submissive. It is striking to observe others in the MC/FLM dynamic some of who lean heavily to the domineering side of things with their wives while others artfully balance.
I am curious what the thoughts of others are CM. Did yours journey evolve or was it clearer at the get go which path you would follow?
Please note, my observations are not in any way meant to be a critique of any choices made. I am a naturally curious HausCuck
Happy Saturday evening to all.
