Hello,
I am a submissive male married for 15 years. We started exploring my wife being more dominant about a few months ago. It has definitely added a spark to our relationship! We have mainly explored CFNM, restraints (on me of course), and whipping/spanking. I have enjoyed this a ton and I feel so much closer to my wife. In exploring my submissive side, I have come to love her control over me.
I have been interested in chastity for a while and have regularly checked out this site. I thought, I love being tied up, why not also tie up my package? So I did some research and it seemed like the CB-6000s was the right one for me. I bought it from keptforher and tried it out for sizing and fit. To be honest, I thought this was going to be too extreme for my wife, and I didn't think she would be interested. I struggled to find a way to tell her and finally did in a "pour your heart" out session. After some time, she agreed to play with it.
Just this past week, we had our first experience. It would take me a while to write exactly what we did, but it involved a lot of teasing, whipping, and her orgasming. This play was one of the few times where I had very high expectations and they were exceeded! I loved just about everything about her having control over my erections. I must say that I am intrigued by orgasm denial. I suggested this when we played, but she didn't seem to be interested. Ultimately, she took my cage off and wanted penetration. I have much to write about and little time, but I wanted to thank this site for helping me pick out my MCD and am hoping to get some added feedback. I think we will play more in the future. I discussed how much I enjoyed it with her and suggested that the next time she has a girl's night out, I should be locked up. I realize that (especially with my wife), I need to take it slow, but she reiterated that that interested her. No joke: when she said the words "chastity belt" as we were driving, I immediately got an erection. I am late 30s and though I don't have erection problems, it is not normal for me to get that easily aroused.... just by words. In any event, a few thoughts / questions for the group:
I wanted her to see me put it on, to know how it works. I couldn't get my erection down. I thought I would have a hard time (sorry for the pun) so I brought some ice up. It didn't really help. I got in the shower, full cold and that didn't help. I basically had to leave the room and it finally got to the point that I could get it on. I showed it to her and she "clicked" the lock, but it still wasn't quite right. I later had to re-adjust it on my own. Is that normal? Is it hard for you to put it on in your partner's presence? This is weird, because I am long past the days of seeing a woman in a bikini and getting a boner.
While I don't think we will be doing this as a lifestyle per se, I think it's possible that I would wear it for a few days at a time. Really the ONLY thing I don't like about it is peeing. I have successfully gone standing up most times, but did have an accident
What do most men do? Do you just get better with practice? I really don't want to sit down to pee.
How can I tell if she's really into this, or just "going along with me". In some of the femdom activities we've done, she does seem genuinely interested, but other times it seems like she is just going out of her comfort zone to make me happy. How do I really know? I'm not sure she knows. Kind of weird, because I get a physical reaction to the restraints, whipping, and even thinking about chastity. I only know that one time after she gave me a good whipping and I had not given her any foreplay, I started fingering and licking her and she was SOAKING wet. But other times, she just doesn't seem that into it.
I am getting verbose, but I thought I'd introduce myself and get a little feedback. I hope to post more if anyone is interested. Can't wait for her next girl's night out.... pretty sure I will get locked up again!
I am a submissive male married for 15 years. We started exploring my wife being more dominant about a few months ago. It has definitely added a spark to our relationship! We have mainly explored CFNM, restraints (on me of course), and whipping/spanking. I have enjoyed this a ton and I feel so much closer to my wife. In exploring my submissive side, I have come to love her control over me.
I have been interested in chastity for a while and have regularly checked out this site. I thought, I love being tied up, why not also tie up my package? So I did some research and it seemed like the CB-6000s was the right one for me. I bought it from keptforher and tried it out for sizing and fit. To be honest, I thought this was going to be too extreme for my wife, and I didn't think she would be interested. I struggled to find a way to tell her and finally did in a "pour your heart" out session. After some time, she agreed to play with it.
Just this past week, we had our first experience. It would take me a while to write exactly what we did, but it involved a lot of teasing, whipping, and her orgasming. This play was one of the few times where I had very high expectations and they were exceeded! I loved just about everything about her having control over my erections. I must say that I am intrigued by orgasm denial. I suggested this when we played, but she didn't seem to be interested. Ultimately, she took my cage off and wanted penetration. I have much to write about and little time, but I wanted to thank this site for helping me pick out my MCD and am hoping to get some added feedback. I think we will play more in the future. I discussed how much I enjoyed it with her and suggested that the next time she has a girl's night out, I should be locked up. I realize that (especially with my wife), I need to take it slow, but she reiterated that that interested her. No joke: when she said the words "chastity belt" as we were driving, I immediately got an erection. I am late 30s and though I don't have erection problems, it is not normal for me to get that easily aroused.... just by words. In any event, a few thoughts / questions for the group:
I wanted her to see me put it on, to know how it works. I couldn't get my erection down. I thought I would have a hard time (sorry for the pun) so I brought some ice up. It didn't really help. I got in the shower, full cold and that didn't help. I basically had to leave the room and it finally got to the point that I could get it on. I showed it to her and she "clicked" the lock, but it still wasn't quite right. I later had to re-adjust it on my own. Is that normal? Is it hard for you to put it on in your partner's presence? This is weird, because I am long past the days of seeing a woman in a bikini and getting a boner.
While I don't think we will be doing this as a lifestyle per se, I think it's possible that I would wear it for a few days at a time. Really the ONLY thing I don't like about it is peeing. I have successfully gone standing up most times, but did have an accident
What do most men do? Do you just get better with practice? I really don't want to sit down to pee.How can I tell if she's really into this, or just "going along with me". In some of the femdom activities we've done, she does seem genuinely interested, but other times it seems like she is just going out of her comfort zone to make me happy. How do I really know? I'm not sure she knows. Kind of weird, because I get a physical reaction to the restraints, whipping, and even thinking about chastity. I only know that one time after she gave me a good whipping and I had not given her any foreplay, I started fingering and licking her and she was SOAKING wet. But other times, she just doesn't seem that into it.
I am getting verbose, but I thought I'd introduce myself and get a little feedback. I hope to post more if anyone is interested. Can't wait for her next girl's night out.... pretty sure I will get locked up again!
