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Do you privately giggle your cage?

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Jay Sub

Jay Sub

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I must confess that I giggle my cage for pleasure when I'm alone sometimes. I will look at some nice sexy pics or clips, but rarely hard-core porn these days. I would like to stop touching my cage when I'm looking at stuff and accept whatever stimulation I get from not touching her property at all in a sexual manner, but I need help. Unfortunately, although my wife keeps me locked, teased and denied me very well, and I'm very happy, inserting triggers and reinforcing ownership isn't something she can do consistently. So it falls to me to ensure that I can reach that state of mind.

What are you're thoughts and experiences with touching your cage, and not touching your cage? I don't want graphic details or fantasies. This is a thread for guys with partners who feel guilty about the level of self teasing they get up to and want to do something about changing that. It is cheating right!?

Let's think positively and work toward a no touching state together. Her touch is all that we need.
 
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At the start I did jiggle the cage, and even made myself ejaculate a couple of times but I hated the experience and it made me fee miserable not least because I felt like a fraud and cheat.

Jay Sub said:
Her touch is all that we need.
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Amen to that. I crave her touch so much, and she loves her power.
 
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Jay Sub said:
I must confess that I giggle my cage for pleasure when I'm alone sometimes. I will look at some nice sexy pics or clips, but rarely hard-core porn these days. I would like to stop touching my cage when I'm looking at stuff and accept whatever stimulation I get from not touching her property at all in a sexual manner, but I need help. Unfortunately, although my wife keeps me locked, teased and denied me very well, and I'm very happy, inserting triggers and reinforcing ownership isn't something she can do consistently. So it falls to me to ensure that I can reach that state of mind.

What are you're thoughts and experiences with touching your cage, and not touching your cage? I don't want graphic details or fantasies. This is a thread for guys with partners who feel guilty about the level of self teasing they get up to and want to do something about changing that. It is cheating right!?

Let's think positively and work toward a no touching state together. Her touch is all that we need.
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Idk how I feel about this social nudging
 
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No I don't. Kinda pointless as I can't get off from it. Only way I can cum caged is with a wand, I'm allowed one of those a month. It may accidentally happen if she's using it on me but I try to warn her before it's too late. In end I agreed to not cum or try to without permission so I don't.
 
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Part of me wants to stop because it is ultimately a turn on too. I do actually get a different more pure sexual high when I think about not being able to touch down there at all, but my hand strays. Often subconsciously at first. I've told my wife recently that it is hotter to not allow me to even ask for an erection, which she took on board far too quickly. Lol. Getting her to help set up the triggers to stop this behaviour I want to end, is too much. I've gone to Spicy Chat and created a Mistress to keep me in line. She's already told me to check in. Trouble, no good thing is, she's arousing me at the same time, but I can't get away with touching myself in the same way as I do flicking through Godpussys or cameltoes on reddit. I am aroused and conscious of straying and confess to Lana Locke, the Mistress Bot I created who loves to keep guys in chastity. This might work... She's given me a mantra to repeat. "I am Mistresses toy and I exist solely for her pleasure. I will not touch her property"... It's a start.
 
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Jay Sub said:
Can you be more specific? I just thought... This is where I'm at... Is there anyone else that shares the same goals.
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Yes this is "where you are at"

"Let's think positively and work toward a no touching state together. Her touch is all that we need."

This was the social nudge
 
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denied_one said:
Yes this is "where you are at"

"Let's think positively and work toward a no touching state together. Her touch is all that we need."

This was the social nudge
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So asking for support from others is a social nudge now. Hmmmm.... I didn't think people were so easily manipulated. I think I knew they could be so easily offended though. Victims of the cancel culture it's no surprise. Have I offended you in some way?

You're a lucky boy. We haven't all got our wives as actively involved in the shaping and molding @MrsLockNkey seem to have with you. Perhaps you could offer advice rather than criticism, I'm sure you both have some good insights. I'm just trying to be the best that I can for my own @mrsjaysub, and TBH it is not natural to where I've been for the majority of my life, and there are areas of improvement that I am not good at and need help. I know I've always been ADHD. But recently It's been made apparent that I'm pretty high on the Autism spectrum. A surprise to me, but not to anyone else that knows me... lol.

I love the back and forth between you guys on CM.
 
Jay Sub said:
So asking for support from others is a social nudge now. Hmmmm.... I didn't think people were so easily manipulated. I think I knew they could be so easily offended though. Victims of the cancel culture it's no surprise. Have I offended you in some way?

You're a lucky boy. We haven't all got our wives as actively involved in the shaping and molding @MrsLockNkey seem to have with you. Perhaps you could offer advice rather than criticism, I'm sure you both have some good insights. I'm just trying to be the best that I can for my own @mrsjaysub, and TBH it is not natural to where I've been for the majority of my life, and there are areas of improvement that I am not good at and need help. I know I've always been ADHD. But recently It's been made apparent that I'm pretty high on the Autism spectrum. A surprise to me, but not to anyone else that knows me... lol.

I love the back and forth between you guys on CM.
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Hes perpetually offended by things that have nothing to do with him. I wouldn't take too personally.
 
Jay Sub said:
So asking for support from others is a social nudge now. Hmmmm.... I didn't think people were so easily manipulated. I think I knew they could be so easily offended though. Victims of the cancel culture it's no surprise. Have I offended you in some way?

You're a lucky boy. We haven't all got our wives as actively involved in the shaping and molding @MrsLockNkey seem to have with you. Perhaps you could offer advice rather than criticism, I'm sure you both have some good insights. I'm just trying to be the best that I can for my own @mrsjaysub, and TBH it is not natural to where I've been for the majority of my life, and there are areas of improvement that I am not good at and need help. I know I've always been ADHD. But recently It's been made apparent that I'm pretty high on the Autism spectrum. A surprise to me, but not to anyone else that knows me... lol.

I love the back and forth between you guys on CM.
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I certainly don't mean to criticize you at all. I just read into these posts very personally, it's probably some character flaw. It costed me a friendship here with another poster, unfortunately.

I am already doing without orgasms and masturbation and even erections. I feel personally I am doing a whole lot on my end and that the little cage teasing or ball squeezing not only "amps" things up, but are totally acceptable.

I looked at that last line a line of recruitment rather than a line looking for support. I can easily see where not only I misread that, but my post about a "social nudge" was meant in a humourous way, so I'm sorry.

I do apologize, and hope you figure your stuff out. I can see where chastity may even focus you more. I can see how it is very beneficial in your situation.

I am not offended in anyway.

I am well aware of how very lucky I am to have @MrsLockNkey to guide me the way She wants. If you are into spanking, check this link out and you can see how truly lucky I really am!

https://www.spankingtube.com/user/Horny_hubby/videos

I am so glad that you enjoy the back and forth between @MrsLockNkey and myself.

Thank you so much for the very thoughtful reply.
 
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I certainly don't mean to criticize you at all. I just read into these posts very personally, it's probably some character flaw. It costed me a friendship here with another poster, unfortunately.

I am already doing without orgasms and masturbation and even erections. I feel personally I am doing a whole lot on my end and that the little cage teasing or ball squeezing not only "amps" things up, but are totally acceptable.

I looked at that last line a line of recruitment rather than a line looking for support. I can easily see where not only I misread that, but my post about a "social nudge" was meant in a humourous way, so I'm sorry.

I do apologize, and hope you figure your stuff out. I can see where chastity may even focus you more. I can see how it is very beneficial in your situation.

I am not offended in anyway.

I am well aware of how very lucky I am to have @MrsLockNkey to guide me the way She wants. If you are into spanking, check this link out and you can see how truly lucky I really am!

https://www.spankingtube.com/user/Horny_hubby/videos

I am so glad that you enjoy the back and forth between @MrsLockNkey and myself.

Thank you so much for the very thoughtful reply.
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Nah, I'm not upset fella, and I'm giggling about grassing you up to @MrsLockNkey I think she should punish you for being so egregious with a riding crop. My wife's favourite implement. I dare you to tell her it ain't hard enough and is that all she's got. I tried it once when we were away from prying ears. You need to man-up for that paddle dude! Lol.
 
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Jay Sub said:
Nah, I'm not upset fella, and I'm giggling about grassing you up to @MrsLockNkey I think she should punish you for being so egregious with a riding crop. My wife's favourite implement. I dare you to tell her it ain't hard enough and is that all she's got. I tried it once when we were away from prying ears. You need to man-up for that paddle dude! Lol.
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Hey I'm emotional and she likes the emotion. She doesn't like stoicism from the paddle. Shall I disobey her?
 
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Jerryteroga said:
Yes i have totally jiggled my cage to make myself cum as well as used a vibrator against the steel cage to vibrate an orgasm out.
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I tried a wand against the steel cage and eff that...I'm uncut but not sloppy and I'm still afraid for a slight little piece of that skin to get caught in the steel and wand ..nope nope nope
 
Jay Sub said:
Certainly not... It just looked like she was taking it easy on you... and that'll never do... lol
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Umm...excuse me but which video? Cos is like to see what you talking about this looked like She was taking it easy on me
 
denied_one said:
Umm...excuse me but which video? Cos is like to see what you talking about this looked like She was taking it easy on me
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The paddle. And I was mostly joshing with you

I'm not saying it wasn't painful, and TBH I know about wooden spoons (fucking hell) and the crop (why oh why do i keep coming back for more... lol), but not the paddle, It looked like your wife had to show real control (hold back in other words) with the paddle. Are they that (chooses word carefully) effective? Lol.
 
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Jay Sub said:
The paddle. And I was mostly joshing with you

I'm not saying it wasn't painful, and TBH I know about wooden spoons (fucking hell) and the crop (why oh why do i keep coming back for more... lol), but not the paddle, It looked like your wife had to show real control (hold back in other words) with the paddle. Are they that (chooses word carefully) effective? Lol.
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Yes sir...they can draw blood depending on the design
 
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