Hello,
I am new to chastity, and forums of any kind, so I have several learning curves to deal with.
Due to health reasons I wasn't particularly interested in dating or sex until I was in my late 20s and even then I didn't actually loose my virginity until my late 30s. Everything still feels new and strange (I'm now in my early 40s). My boyfriend likes to play with BDSM and I love when he gets all dominant but we also play with different roles. Maybe about a week ago I made what I thought was an empty threat to cage him. About four days ago we ordered a cage, and THEN I realized there was more to it and how into it he was. So I am here at the encouragement of my boyfriend.
He wants help as he feels he has no self control. I am both turned on by the idea of controlling his orgasms and feel bad as I think of controlling someone else as a bad thing. I struggle with the idea of putting myself first when it comes to sex. I also worry about putting him in a cage, as I REALLY like it when he takes charge, such as I am babbling on about nonsense and he puts his cock in my mouth to shut me up. He doesn't do it often, but I love it when he does.
Additionally we are long distance.
Basically I am trying to learn all I can before the cage gets here in order to make this the best experience for both of us.
I am new to chastity, and forums of any kind, so I have several learning curves to deal with.
Due to health reasons I wasn't particularly interested in dating or sex until I was in my late 20s and even then I didn't actually loose my virginity until my late 30s. Everything still feels new and strange (I'm now in my early 40s). My boyfriend likes to play with BDSM and I love when he gets all dominant but we also play with different roles. Maybe about a week ago I made what I thought was an empty threat to cage him. About four days ago we ordered a cage, and THEN I realized there was more to it and how into it he was. So I am here at the encouragement of my boyfriend.
He wants help as he feels he has no self control. I am both turned on by the idea of controlling his orgasms and feel bad as I think of controlling someone else as a bad thing. I struggle with the idea of putting myself first when it comes to sex. I also worry about putting him in a cage, as I REALLY like it when he takes charge, such as I am babbling on about nonsense and he puts his cock in my mouth to shut me up. He doesn't do it often, but I love it when he does.
Additionally we are long distance.
Basically I am trying to learn all I can before the cage gets here in order to make this the best experience for both of us.
