How to attract more Keyholders to chastity/this site?


Just thought I’d point out that this question was cross-posted in the Women’s Forum and has exactly one reply. Don’t know what to make of that.

A valid observation, and a perfect way to highlight why the original question was posed.

The Female community here is very small, perhaps 10-12 total, with only half of those visiting, chatting and posting regularly, so out of the regular members only 1 replied which was myself, probably the most active Female member on the site.

Goddess Jade.
 
Women want to be told they are right, sections like "you don't owe him sex" "he wants to love you with chastity" , "Chastity helps him realize your a busy woman"
The main forum list is targeted to men, what forum list would target a woman?
Those are specifically good topics.

"He wants to love you with chastity"

Oh shit! 👀👀
 
Here's the rub though. I paraphrase here but this site is aimed at men in chasity, not their keyholders. You go making every topic aimed at women it's no longer for men in chasity. As in all things some balance must be achieved.
 
Again another well constructed and valid point that furthers the discussion.

The Female only forum section would suit this purpose as per his suggestion but as you can see, from the limited Female members use of this section, there does not warrant much in the way of return on investment there.

I think the answer lies in some form of curated concierge at the door perhaps?
 
That would help @Goddess Jade
In general, I feel like many of the discussions at CM are informative and thoughtful.

Unrelated, I'm with the prevailing wisdom of the group that it's the dick pics, memes and unwanted attention that need to either be gonzo or partitioned some way. The first two can possibly be accomplished through better site organization and moderation. I'm not sure how to stop the unwanted attention.
 
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Back to the question.

Make it so that avatars cannot be NSFW.
This is a good one: I really don't want to see your dick for your profile pic!!!

I'm not a prude. I just don't want to see dick pics all over. Just like some people don't want to have sissy stuff all over. Or whatever. Everyone has their comfort zones, and a lot of posts go outside those zones for a lot of people.
 
Why do you want more women to join?
I had a different reason many years ago 👀.

I think of CM as, among many other things, a support group of sorts. Men who like to lock their junk in metal tubes can conversate, congratulate, and commiserate. For many of us, our Keyholders are not just holding a key to a metal tube.

They are also our locus: the axis around which our lives, thoughts, and being revolves. They are intregal to our chastity journey. Having a support group for Them can be a valuable resource, not only to help introduce Them to the paradox that is male chastity but also as an outlet for Their thoughts and expressions.

Generally, in a wide, over-broad brush, Women are more social than men. A couple's chastity walk is by nature very private and discreet. A Female-friendly CM can provide a social "club" in which both Keyholders and chastes can connect and be encouraged. It could also provide a medium for them to feed a need inside themselves of encouraging others.

Plus, think of having a larger audience of kink-friendly babes to show all my dick pics! A win-win!!!
 
I see a definite need for somewhere that explains this chastity stuff for wives and partners who are freaked out about this weird thing their husbands are asking them to do, than the need for a place for the women already doing it to discuss chastity. The problem is the unhinged males who frequent the mansion cannot be trusted to provide an experience that will gently introduce chastity to the uninitiated. So while we don’t necessarily need a place for women to discuss chastity (my wife would also be uninterested in this) we do need a place where new female members of the mansion can be mentored until they get to a point where they are confident to move forward alone.

If I said to my wife “there is a female only section of chastity mansion” I doubt she would be interested. But if I said ”there is a lady on CM asking why the heck should she lock up her husbands penis, she thinks it’s weird and is worried her husband is losing the plot” she might offer her thoughts. The problem is the first time some idiot starts wailing at my wife to be his Keyholder and she should make me wear pink frilly underwear and get a bull to give her a good seeing to, she would say bye bye and never return.

Therefore the only answer as I see it is a verified female process on joining the mansion, and a very well curated female only area for them when they first join. Only once they understand how the door to the rest of the mansion will expose them to all the crazy nonsense and pictures of dicks in cages should they be given the choice of whether to risk it or not. I have no problem with some of the mansion being a place where more extreme posts are allowed, but I would also avoid that area as well. If someone posts their weird shit outside of that zone, then they should be moderated and made to read ‘how to behave in the mansion’ before being allowed to post again.

I recently rejoined the mansion after a long sabbatical, and started replying inappropriately to someone else’s journal. A member of the mansion reminded me of the more normal etiquette expected, and I was very happy for the reminder.
 
Me: Is there anything that could be done to attract you to join the CM website?

Her:
No.

Me: Why?

Her: Chastity isn’t complicated. I don’t need a website.
But what if she hadn't heard about chastity, and her partner hadn't introduced it. I think we're talking about encouraging newbies and promoting chastity as being something with the potential to have a positive impact on people's partnerships. I'm guessing your wife (our wives) are already persuaded of the benefits.

You don't keep looking at the menu once you've chosen your starter and main course, but you might briefly pick it up again for dessert.
 
A meet and greet system?
This is rather a good idea….. and with some work it might help get more females engaged and active….but It doesn’t help the larger issues with the site. 🤔 Maybe an adaptation of it for the whole site ?
 
But what if she hadn't heard about chastity, and her partner hadn't introduced it. I think we're talking about encouraging newbies and promoting chastity as being something with the potential to have a positive impact on people's partnerships. I'm guessing your wife (our wives) are already persuaded of the benefits.

You don't keep looking at the menu once you've chosen your starter and main course, but you might briefly pick it up again for dessert.
If you’re not finding chastity, then you’re not very interested in sexual exploration. When you do find chastity; books and owners of bespoke chastity device makers are superior sources of information compared to sifting through all of the BS sprinkled throughout the internet.
 
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But what if she hadn't heard about chastity, and her partner hadn't introduced it. I think we're talking about encouraging newbies and promoting chastity as being something with the potential to have a positive impact on people's partnerships. I'm guessing your wife (our wives) are already persuaded of the benefits.

You don't keep looking at the menu once you've chosen your starter and main course, but you might briefly pick it up again for dessert.

In our case, what would have been useful was:

1) A good way to introduce chastity to her (not happy marriage site or other manipulative/projecting ways to "get her into it for her benefit"
2) A place for her to read about it on her on, at her own pace, and absorb the idea
3) A place for her (if she wants) to bounce ideas off of other women and validate her concerns (will the kids find out, will it hurt, does he really want me to do this, what am I supposed to do next, etc)

Beyond that, it would be interesting to see if relationships develop among a community. It would be a guys dream, but quite likely not reality unless it satisfies a need for women (community, something to scroll as a distraction (ala Facebook).
 
I think it's mostly due to perception.

I mean the first thing someone will find when they actually Google chastity is porn. Which most of us would agree, is not the reality of this type of situation.

I think the best way to improve this would be to have a type of environment where as soon as they open a web page, the first thing they would need to see is some reality based truths.

An idea I had would be as soon as you land on the Chastity Mansion home page, the very first thing seen would be an article titled "Chastity from a Woman's perspective. As shared by real site Verified Women." Only Woman who have been officially Verified would be allowed to contribute to this article/page. Rather like the Woman's only section here. That way the first thing any Female would see/read about Chastity would be actual useful information, not fantasy driven porn.

Below that would the male equivalent. However, only those who have been part of the Mansion for awhile (to keep out the riff raff) would be allowed to post.

The only way to fight ignorance or the unknown is with information. Having a place where the first thing someone comes upon is real, actual information as told by people who are actually living with Chastity, would go a long way into promoting and promoting healthily, this lifestyle.

Just my two cents.

Iso.
 
An idea I had would be as soon as you land on the Chastity Mansion home page, the very first thing seen would be an article titled "Chastity from a Woman's perspective. As shared by real site Verified Women."
What if you are a man who has fantasised about being chaste for a v1.0 woman?

Also, how do you reconcile that with the fact that there are men that have verified as v2.0 women?
 
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What if you are a man who has fantasised about being chaste for a v1.0 woman?

Also, how do you reconcile that with the fact that there are men that have verified as v2.0 women?
I'm not even sure what point you're trying to make here. Nor is it obvious to me that your use of the term "fact" is the same definition as Mr. Merriam and Ms. Webster use. (But I'm not policing the site as heavily as you are, so maybe you are aware of deviants doing sex changes behind Lucy's back, or something.)

Honestly, if someone here is a trans woman (or whatever you're suggesting, who knows?) and they got verified as a woman, that is a problem for Lucy and the mods to deal with, not for you and me to interject ourselves into. If you can't deal with that reality, then either (a) buy the site from Lucy and fix it yourself, or (b) ask to become a mod and fix it yourself, or (c) find another site that doesn't offend you so greatly.

And if you're somehow worried about your fantasies being violated by this silliness, then you've got more serious problems than any of us can help you with.

On the other hand, there is a 71% chance that you're just trolling again and none of this was serious, in which case I'm going to go to the girls' volleyball practice now.