How to attract more Keyholders to chastity/this site?


enslavedbyc said:
Just thought I’d point out that this question was cross-posted in the Women’s Forum and has exactly one reply. Don’t know what to make of that.
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A valid observation, and a perfect way to highlight why the original question was posed.

The Female community here is very small, perhaps 10-12 total, with only half of those visiting, chatting and posting regularly, so out of the regular members only 1 replied which was myself, probably the most active Female member on the site.

Goddess Jade.
 
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captivatedbyher said:
Women want to be told they are right, sections like "you don't owe him sex" "he wants to love you with chastity" , "Chastity helps him realize your a busy woman"
The main forum list is targeted to men, what forum list would target a woman?
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Those are specifically good topics.

"He wants to love you with chastity"

Oh shit! 👀👀
 
Here's the rub though. I paraphrase here but this site is aimed at men in chasity, not their keyholders. You go making every topic aimed at women it's no longer for men in chasity. As in all things some balance must be achieved.
 
Again another well constructed and valid point that furthers the discussion.

The Female only forum section would suit this purpose as per his suggestion but as you can see, from the limited Female members use of this section, there does not warrant much in the way of return on investment there.

I think the answer lies in some form of curated concierge at the door perhaps?
 
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That would help @Goddess Jade
In general, I feel like many of the discussions at CM are informative and thoughtful.

Unrelated, I'm with the prevailing wisdom of the group that it's the dick pics, memes and unwanted attention that need to either be gonzo or partitioned some way. The first two can possibly be accomplished through better site organization and moderation. I'm not sure how to stop the unwanted attention.
 
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JaySaysYes said:
Back to the question.

Make it so that avatars cannot be NSFW.
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This is a good one: I really don't want to see your dick for your profile pic!!!

I'm not a prude. I just don't want to see dick pics all over. Just like some people don't want to have sissy stuff all over. Or whatever. Everyone has their comfort zones, and a lot of posts go outside those zones for a lot of people.
 
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JaySaysYes said:
Why do you want more women to join?
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I had a different reason many years ago 👀.

I think of CM as, among many other things, a support group of sorts. Men who like to lock their junk in metal tubes can conversate, congratulate, and commiserate. For many of us, our Keyholders are not just holding a key to a metal tube.

They are also our locus: the axis around which our lives, thoughts, and being revolves. They are intregal to our chastity journey. Having a support group for Them can be a valuable resource, not only to help introduce Them to the paradox that is male chastity but also as an outlet for Their thoughts and expressions.

Generally, in a wide, over-broad brush, Women are more social than men. A couple's chastity walk is by nature very private and discreet. A Female-friendly CM can provide a social "club" in which both Keyholders and chastes can connect and be encouraged. It could also provide a medium for them to feed a need inside themselves of encouraging others.

Plus, think of having a larger audience of kink-friendly babes to show all my dick pics! A win-win!!!
 
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I see a definite need for somewhere that explains this chastity stuff for wives and partners who are freaked out about this weird thing their husbands are asking them to do, than the need for a place for the women already doing it to discuss chastity. The problem is the unhinged males who frequent the mansion cannot be trusted to provide an experience that will gently introduce chastity to the uninitiated. So while we don’t necessarily need a place for women to discuss chastity (my wife would also be uninterested in this) we do need a place where new female members of the mansion can be mentored until they get to a point where they are confident to move forward alone.

If I said to my wife “there is a female only section of chastity mansion” I doubt she would be interested. But if I said ”there is a lady on CM asking why the heck should she lock up her husbands penis, she thinks it’s weird and is worried her husband is losing the plot” she might offer her thoughts. The problem is the first time some idiot starts wailing at my wife to be his Keyholder and she should make me wear pink frilly underwear and get a bull to give her a good seeing to, she would say bye bye and never return.

Therefore the only answer as I see it is a verified female process on joining the mansion, and a very well curated female only area for them when they first join. Only once they understand how the door to the rest of the mansion will expose them to all the crazy nonsense and pictures of dicks in cages should they be given the choice of whether to risk it or not. I have no problem with some of the mansion being a place where more extreme posts are allowed, but I would also avoid that area as well. If someone posts their weird shit outside of that zone, then they should be moderated and made to read ‘how to behave in the mansion’ before being allowed to post again.

I recently rejoined the mansion after a long sabbatical, and started replying inappropriately to someone else’s journal. A member of the mansion reminded me of the more normal etiquette expected, and I was very happy for the reminder.
 
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enslavedbyc said:
Me: Is there anything that could be done to attract you to join the CM website?

Her: No.

Me: Why?

Her: Chastity isn’t complicated. I don’t need a website.
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But what if she hadn't heard about chastity, and her partner hadn't introduced it. I think we're talking about encouraging newbies and promoting chastity as being something with the potential to have a positive impact on people's partnerships. I'm guessing your wife (our wives) are already persuaded of the benefits.

You don't keep looking at the menu once you've chosen your starter and main course, but you might briefly pick it up again for dessert.
 
Goddess Jade said:
A meet and greet system?
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This is rather a good idea….. and with some work it might help get more females engaged and active….but It doesn’t help the larger issues with the site. 🤔 Maybe an adaptation of it for the whole site ?
 
Jay Sub said:
But what if she hadn't heard about chastity, and her partner hadn't introduced it. I think we're talking about encouraging newbies and promoting chastity as being something with the potential to have a positive impact on people's partnerships. I'm guessing your wife (our wives) are already persuaded of the benefits.

You don't keep looking at the menu once you've chosen your starter and main course, but you might briefly pick it up again for dessert.
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If you’re not finding chastity, then you’re not very interested in sexual exploration. When you do find chastity; books and owners of bespoke chastity device makers are superior sources of information compared to sifting through all of the BS sprinkled throughout the internet.
 
Jay Sub said:
But what if she hadn't heard about chastity, and her partner hadn't introduced it. I think we're talking about encouraging newbies and promoting chastity as being something with the potential to have a positive impact on people's partnerships. I'm guessing your wife (our wives) are already persuaded of the benefits.

You don't keep looking at the menu once you've chosen your starter and main course, but you might briefly pick it up again for dessert.
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In our case, what would have been useful was:

1) A good way to introduce chastity to her (not happy marriage site or other manipulative/projecting ways to "get her into it for her benefit"
2) A place for her to read about it on her on, at her own pace, and absorb the idea
3) A place for her (if she wants) to bounce ideas off of other women and validate her concerns (will the kids find out, will it hurt, does he really want me to do this, what am I supposed to do next, etc)

Beyond that, it would be interesting to see if relationships develop among a community. It would be a guys dream, but quite likely not reality unless it satisfies a need for women (community, something to scroll as a distraction (ala Facebook).
 
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