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I miss head

Discussion in 'The Vault' started by Nicoftime, Jan 9, 2017.

  1. When we first went out she went down on me all the time. She even took the load and once said she usually didn't like it but liked swallowing mine.

    Once chastity started she used it during teasing but rarely, and now I can't remember the last time.

    I don't know if she just doesn't want to or feels that a "domme" shouldn't cause it's a symbol of weakness.

    I don't want her to feel she has to act a certain way to fit her "role". I also don't want to ask and make her feel obligated. If she truly doesn't want to I'm ok with it, will miss it but comes with the territory.

    By the way I'm not talking about orgasms, they only happen when she wants, just the act itself.

    Anyone else here suddenly lose aspects of normal sex when the decisions were up to her?
  2. Steve chime in on this one
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  3. We didn't discuss it I swear lol!!!
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  4. I wonder if my husband misses head ... hahaha
  5. Mmmhmmmm I believe nothing you to say
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  6. You once mentioned his size, so I wouldn't think that happened much anyway.
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  7. Could probably reach his own!!! I would have to be a circus attraction to reach mine.
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  8. HAHAAHAHAH.... he'll be the first to tell you how much he use to get head and how amazing it was ....
  9. Used to, I take it that it's off the menu for awhile
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  10. I don't get it as often as I used to, but I would be disappointed if it were removed from rotation completely!
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  11. I didn't get much in the past. Now more :) but it doesn't do much for me. Never did.
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  12. Not in at least 5 years. Head is something that I give, not receive!
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  13. It used to be a big part of our play even when first starting out with chastity. It's lessened and lessened over the last year. I was lucky enough to get a little with my naughty xmas gift from mistress but I'm thinking it was part of the xmas gift and only on special occasions will I receive that.
  14. Yeeeah she has definitely taken it away from me as well, buddy. It's a major bummer and I know LadyS does it as part of "the game."

    Ps I can reach.
  15. Head is a prerequisite to all of our play. If she took it away I may very well go postal. Hell I barely make it through most days as it stands.

    And my GOD can that girl give a BJ.
  16. I've never gained a huge amount of pleasure from head. I like it but it isn't a mind blowing act (pun intended) for me. That being said, I really like the feeling but it is few and far between in my relationship with or without chastity.

    Is the slowing down of BJ's just a thing that typically happens in relationships or is it her moving more into a Domme role and she should be receiving and not giving?
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  17. Head, like any so called normal sex act is a thing well in the past ! The only time her mouth goes to my cock is to wet the bell end when she's polishing it .
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  18. I told hubby that it's off the menu for him for good - since he's in the cage he can't take it for more than a few seconds without coming, so it's hardly worth doing. His job is to give and not receive now :)
  19. If he's in chastity, of course, he doesn't get it. If he's under discipline, he doesn't get it. In those cases, I'm the Disciplinarian more than the GF. When I'm not the Disciplinarian, I'm the GF, so of course, he gets it. We're not in this as a full time lifestyle. which might be the difference between us and alot of other couples on here.

    I love giving it to him and watching how he reacts to it. After I've gone down on him, he always wants to return the favor, in fact, return it several times. How to give to your fave charity---YOURSELF!
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  20. I always loved giving more than receiving. Wish she would let me go down on her often. She still goes down on me mostly to me ready to ride me. My KH has trouble unlocking just to play. Almost always ends up having full sex or nothing. Why can't cuddling and play go together. Any attention is good attention love that women. Just hard to get into her head.
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  21. Do you think 'going postal' is an appropriate term to use in the context of loving chastity?
  22. I'm going to assume it's a thing of the past. She never did it much anyway, and never to completion. And now that she has said I'm probably never going to be allowed to put my penis in her vagina again, she probably won't want it in her mouth either.
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  23. Thing of the past for me too, along with penetration.I do remember one occasion when she gave it to me on a remote and deserted beach behind some big rocks, and just after she swallowed, a guy appeared from behind the rocks and walked past with a big smirk on his face. We're going back there later this year, many years on, but this time if anything happens it will be me swallowing her juices.
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  24. Our first sexual act was her giving me a great blowjob and swallowed in the back of my van while parked in the parking lot of the club where we met even before we started dating, I later found out she did it then because I had a van at the time and she needed help with her and her room mates move. After that blow job I would have done anything she asked. Then as our relationship grew I got it most of the time prior to us having PIV sex.

    But since we included chastity into our lifestyle the dice gets to decide what kind of sex I get and only two possible combinations of the dice will let me have a blow job, one without an orgasm and one with a ruined orgasm and both have low odds of me hitting the number twice to get a blow job.

    Occasionally I will get a blow job just because she likes to give them but now I am rarely permitted to have a full orgasm so when I do get one it feels so good! So yes... I do miss getting one of her expert blow jobs.

    LOL... the dice combinations with the best odds are mostly me taking matters into 'my own hand' as she watches and encourages me with whispers in my ear.
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  25. Interestingly enough, I get more oral sex now than before we started chastity. My wife just got back into it because she loves to make me moan in sexual frustration and giving head does that the best. When she allows me to orgasm, half of the time she does it with oral. Although she does not swallow anymore, she does not always pull away as fast as she should.