When we first went out she went down on me all the time. She even took the load and once said she usually didn't like it but liked swallowing mine. Once chastity started she used it during teasing but rarely, and now I can't remember the last time. I don't know if she just doesn't want to or feels that a "domme" shouldn't cause it's a symbol of weakness. I don't want her to feel she has to act a certain way to fit her "role". I also don't want to ask and make her feel obligated. If she truly doesn't want to I'm ok with it, will miss it but comes with the territory. By the way I'm not talking about orgasms, they only happen when she wants, just the act itself. Anyone else here suddenly lose aspects of normal sex when the decisions were up to her?