Jerking Off....

When it comes to jerking off

  • I would of I could

    Votes: 31 59.6%
  • Eh, I can go either way on it

    Votes: 6 11.5%
  • No, I'd rather not

    Votes: 15 28.8%

  • Total voters
    52
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Soooo, chastity, applied properly can really change a guys psyche...and that's not a bad thing at all

I know for me, when I wore the cage specifically to bed every night from January-February 2024 and then did 87 days orgasm free from April-July, masturbation completely changed for me.

Solo masturbation has literally zero appeal

In fact

I'd rather not even do it unless my Wife is present and allows me to do it in Her presence. In fact, that's the only way She allows it. She needs to be involved
 
Soooo, chastity, applied properly can really change a guys psyche...and that's not a bad thing at all

I know for me, when I wore the cage specifically to bed every night from January-February 2024 and then did 87 days orgasm free from April-July, masturbation completely changed for me.

Solo masturbation has literally zero appeal

In fact

I'd rather not even do it unless my Wife is present and allows me to do it in Her presence. In fact, that's the only way She allows it. She needs to be involved
Sounds very similar to me. Solo is so dull now.
 
Im 5 days in and cant stay away from my wife / KH. Then she tells me she doesnt have the keys her friend does, and will let me know. Im bursting but deffo making me think about all sorts atm
Oh SNAP!!
 

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Soooo, chastity, applied properly can really change a guys psyche...and that's not a bad thing at all

I know for me, when I wore the cage specifically to bed every night from January-February 2024 and then did 87 days orgasm free from April-July, masturbation completely changed for me.

Solo masturbation has literally zero appeal

In fact

I'd rather not even do it unless my Wife is present and allows me to do it in Her presence. In fact, that's the only way She allows it. She needs to be involved
That's what I want to achieve, to reprogram my brain that way
 
If I wasn't wearing a cage, I would go back to "jerking off". But Male Chastity has change a lot of things.
At first when my Wife (KH) allowed me the odd orgasm, she made me jerk off in front of her. She was never into "hand jobs", she would go right to oral to tease me, then make me finish myself off.
Now that I'm wearing a cage, the only time I get to maturbate is when my Wife makes me "edge" myself, and never do I get to have a orgasm.
 
Absolutely - when free I don't want to - I may have an urge but that is easily qwelled .
Yep! Same. In fact, my last solo masturbation attempt was April 3rd 2024

It was easily the most hollow, shallow sexual thing I've ever experienced.

That experience easily, as you said. qwells ANY thoughts, if I do happen to be uncaged.
 
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I miss it very much so.
I thought I was inclined to miss it as well

But here is the thing...

My lizard brain wants me to miss WHO I WAS, back when I did engage in solo masturbation.

But my Wizard brain knows that this is the absolute best way for things to be for me and @MrsLockNkey.

So ultimately I don't miss it when I see how good things are with my Wife and i
 
Yep! Same. In fact, my last solo masturbation attempt was April 3rd 2024

It was easily the most hollow, shallow sexual thing I've ever experienced.

That experience easily, as you said. qwells ANY thoughts, if I do happen to be uncaged.
Couldn't agree more!
 
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Soooo, chastity, applied properly can really change a guys psyche...and that's not a bad thing at all

I know for me, when I wore the cage specifically to bed every night from January-February 2024 and then did 87 days orgasm free from April-July, masturbation completely changed for me.

Solo masturbation has literally zero appeal

In fact

I'd rather not even do it unless my Wife is present and allows me to do it in Her presence. In fact, that's the only way She allows it. She needs to be involved
Same here, no solo masturbation for me, i have to ask my wife and she has to be present and supervise, she loves to watch me.
 
I love wanking. But I love the thrill of being told I'm not a allowed to so much more.

I have the key, I could remove the cage if I wanted at any time. But she has told me that she would be disappointed, and she wants me to test myself. And I would be disappointed in myself too.
 
Just because that's your experience doesn't mean it can be for everyone else. Why? Because you can't imagine the circumstances that drove them to begin using this compulsive behavior at a very young age and turned that into an addiction over decades of use. Nor do you understand or comprehend the trauma they experienced that they used this "drug" to medicate.
 
Just because that's your experience doesn't mean it can be for everyone else. Why? Because you can't imagine the circumstances that drove them to begin using this compulsive behavior at a very young age and turned that into an addiction over decades of use. Nor do you understand or comprehend the trauma they experienced that they used this "drug" to medicate.
So someone in that position could choose option A., that's actually why I included that option.

It wasn't there at first.

But then I realized that some people haven't reached this same mindset, or as you have pointed out some have circumstances where this is a drug they are compelled to use, and would masturbate alone if they could. That's also why I made the results anonymous or voters non viewable....

For those of us who have "beat this addiction" it's quite an accomplishment. For the very reasons you list

The title of the thread is "Jerking off.." not "Can you quit jerking off...."
 
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I have a girlfriend now and still jerk off when she is not here. I feel guilty about it and I know it annoys her, and also adversely affects my performance.

I aim to have a discussion with her about it. I'll give her the remote login for my timer box so she can open it in an emergency, but otherwise am going to start trying to stay locked 24/7 except for when we meet up a couple of times a week.
 
This is what my Wife was going for with us.....and it happened
To my delight or chagrin matters not.

It's the situation I find myself in now.
 

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Seriously though, it's a big step to go from being able to wank whenever you want to giving up completely.

Us human's are a lot more easily sucked into addiction than we think. This can be hardcore addictions like narcotics, smoking, booze or more mundate like seeing Facebook likes or looking for an argument. Masturbation is one of the hardest to give up as it is hard to separate yourself from the ability to act out. An alcholic can keep the house free of booze. But our penises are always there. That's why chastity is so effective.

One thing is that the stronger and more ingrained the addiction to masturbation the more turmoil you will go through when giving up. A regular boozer will find it incredibly paniful to stop, or even do a dry week. Conversely a social drinker will find it easy. My point being is chastity is hardest for those that need it the most.

I'm currently going through this process myself. I know it's the right decision though.
 
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Same here, no solo masturbation for me, i have to ask my wife and she has to be present and supervise, she loves to watch me.
My Wife (KH) loves to watch me masturbate. She will have me edge myself several times and them make me lock myself up again, fighting my errection to put the cage back on. She loves to coach me while I do, telling me to go faster, slower, stop, start. She gets a kick watching my penis twitch when I stop and is amused to see how much pre cum I leak.