I met mistress Teresa when she was invited by a woman I was seeing to join in. Being a swinger, this Was good and fun til the woman suddenly got jealous and decided to back away so there we were with all kink and stuff. Moved in together and after couple of years took her to the courthouse and got married. Jump ahead one year. Swinging was no longer good for her. I still enjoyed but it caused tension and several fights. Being the kinkster I am, I found an option to hopefully save our marriage. You you guessed it. I discussed with her , then handed her the key.She decided I look sexy as hell in my cage and loves holding the key but is still wary I think a little. Or maybe that's my expectations versus reality. I found this site and browsed it for a while attaining support and advise then asked her to research here too. We still argue but not so much and usually happens when unlocked. I attempt to be a 24/7 for her but difficult as I can't get past the morning wood issue and find myself begging for release knowing it'll be back on before I go to work. New cage us in the works but not in budget.