I have already posted in Inroductions, but I want to detail what is going on. My extremely attractive girlfriend had some experiences with chastity in a previous relationship and kept talking to me about trying it. She got a chastity cage and locked me in it for a couple of hours several times, while teasing me. Each time we had amazing sex when she unlocked me. After a few weeks, she locked me and kept me locked overnight, while sleeping with me, both of us naked. Again, we had really amazing sex when she unlocked me. She told me that she wanted to lock me for 24 hours but I told her that was too long. However, yesterday evening, she locked me saying it was just for an hour or two, but then changed her mind and told me I would be locked until 8 pm tonight. I argued with her and told her I didn't want to do this but she said that if I didn't stop she would keep me locked for two days! So, I am still locked and very much not liking it. She drove me crazy last night walking around topless and then cuddling with me in bed, both naked. I am going kind of crazy with frustration and wondering if she is crazy or what. I hate this cage thing and think she is going way too far. I don't think I really understand her motivation. I came on this site to learn about chastity but some of what I read on here is scaring me a lot. I don't want this chastity thing to keep expanding but not sure what to do.
My Chastity Experience
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I'm guessing she didn't overpower you to put the cage on, so you are able to be influenced. If I were you, I would enjoy her ability to persuade. You've got a rare one.
I thought it would just be for a couple of hours, like it was before. I am going crazy locked in this thing all day.
There are many types of folks on this site. There's one end which include sissies, feminization, etc. On the other side are the vanilla folks. So there's never only one answer. In terms of what to expect, you will only find out with communication. Why is she into it? Is she into bdsm, is she a Dom, does she want you to be a submissive. Is it foreplay? There's a bunch of possibilities. You probably need a conversation.
I have asked her repeatedly to explain why she wants to do this, but she does not give any definite answers.
There's nothing scary, just don't go anywhere you're not comfortable with. Part of what's going on is you're learning about each other. Maybe you'll learn more about chastity and maybe you'll learn if you like it or not. If she won't answer why she wants it, you answer for yourself why you'd consider it and where you'd be willing to go. Then go there and see if it works. Maybe you're on this site to do just that. What is chastity and what might it be like. I think you'll find that here. It's really a lot of things. For some it's submission. For others it's deference. That deference may go as far as worship, or it might be devotion. For others, it may be a way to break the ice. Relationships have a way of getting rusty. It's hard for people to get out of their box. Chastity definitely does that. Usually, I think it's the guy that is motivated and the woman to be hesitant. In your case, it sounds like your girlfriend wants to control the physical relationship. If your ok with that, then go for it. Stop when/if you want.
Hell, give it a shot.
It’s a real trip being horny all the time and it sounds like it turns her on too.
Orgasms are great, but imagine how much better it can be when she is teasing you and having sex with you for days, just not letting you cum! The orgasm afterwards is like nothing you have ever had before!
It’s kind of addictive.
I’ll bet there are guys on here that would give their left nut to be in your position.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
Assuming this is genuine, don't worry about what you read on here. The majority is fantasy and the parts that are real are typically pushed for by the man.
Common theme on here being "how do I get my wife to engage in [whatever kink progression]."
She's unlikely to want to cuck, sodomize, and/or feminize you. Those are more male fantasies.
But as others have said, a conversation is best. Just in case
Maybe have her do one of those online kink surveys. You do it, too. Compare notes. It's good to know what you're into, she's into, both open to, etc.
Common theme on here being "how do I get my wife to engage in [whatever kink progression]."
She's unlikely to want to cuck, sodomize, and/or feminize you. Those are more male fantasies.
But as others have said, a conversation is best. Just in case
Maybe have her do one of those online kink surveys. You do it, too. Compare notes. It's good to know what you're into, she's into, both open to, etc.
She got home last night, immediately stripped naked and insisted that I do the same. I told her I could not repeat this 24 hours in chastity but after teasing me for a while, she unlocked me and gave me the best oral sex of my life. Incredible! Then, a couple of hours later we had amazing, absolutely amazing normal sex. Then this morning, another very good round of sex.
When she wanted to lock the chastity cage on before she left, I refused. She told me that if I refused to wear the cage when not with her, to prevent sex with anyone else or getting myself off, we were done. No chastity cage, no sex ever again, and I would have to move out. We argued a bit, but I ended up with the chastity cage locked on, at least until this evening.
She says she gets a real thrill out of locking me in chastity and if I won't do it we will never have any type of sex ever again and she will find someone else. So, here I am locked in the cage again. Thinking hard about whether to continue or break up.
When she wanted to lock the chastity cage on before she left, I refused. She told me that if I refused to wear the cage when not with her, to prevent sex with anyone else or getting myself off, we were done. No chastity cage, no sex ever again, and I would have to move out. We argued a bit, but I ended up with the chastity cage locked on, at least until this evening.
She says she gets a real thrill out of locking me in chastity and if I won't do it we will never have any type of sex ever again and she will find someone else. So, here I am locked in the cage again. Thinking hard about whether to continue or break up.
Obviously, although I am sure I could cut the locking pin with time and patience.
Imagine you break it off with her over this.
Will this very attractive and kinky woman haunt your mind afterwards or can you just move on?
That will tell you lots about yourself.
There's a lot of fish,...but this one is a rare breed and she might have already gotten to you.
Will this very attractive and kinky woman haunt your mind afterwards or can you just move on?
That will tell you lots about yourself.
There's a lot of fish,...but this one is a rare breed and she might have already gotten to you.
She is incredible in appearance and the best sexual partner I have ever had. I don't like this chastity stuff, but not ready to walk away. I am locked for the whole day today, but frankly, I am sexually exhausted so it is not that big a deal.
She is taking babysteps with you, she knows what she's doing and judging by your report not willing to negotiate that part.
The inevitable decision still lingers....
We should take wageres...
Since you didn't dismiss the whole thing and INSTEAD joined CM, I know how I would wage my bet.
It's a blast and you will be with her, the hottest lover ever.
The inevitable decision still lingers....
We should take wageres...
Since you didn't dismiss the whole thing and INSTEAD joined CM, I know how I would wage my bet.
It's a blast and you will be with her, the hottest lover ever.
I think she’s just going to turn this into an every day chastity thing. I’m jealous
She came home, unlocked me and told me that as long as I stay in chastity when not with her, she will be my sex toy when I am unlocked. I told her to strip, get on her knees and suck me, and she did an amazing job! This chastity thing may be worth it!
you have a bit to learn about women.......they always win.
So, yesterday I had to go out for a while to do some things. Since we would be apart, she locked me in the chastity cage before I left. When I got home, she was naked on the couch. I told her to unlock me, but she didn't right away. She told me to strip and lie down next to her. She was rubbing up against me and making me crazy. I reminded her that she had promised to unlock me when we are together, but she smiled and told me to beg for release so she would know how much I wanted her. I tried but she wasn't satisfied. I eventually had to get on my knees with her standing in front of me and really beg. She made me say that I was a dickless neuter and beg her to let me be a man again. And other embarrassing things. I am starting to think she is a little bit crazy, but she reminded me that if I refused chastity we are done and would never have sex again.
She made me lick her pussy and breasts and I was going nuts when she finally released me. Once again, the sex was incredible but I really did not like what led up to it. This female superiority thing is weird and distasteful. I told her that later but she says it is just a game. I have to think what to do about this.
She made me lick her pussy and breasts and I was going nuts when she finally released me. Once again, the sex was incredible but I really did not like what led up to it. This female superiority thing is weird and distasteful. I told her that later but she says it is just a game. I have to think what to do about this.
I noticed in several of your posts that you told her what to do. I suggest that you try reversing roles a little. Treat her as your Queen and be her Knight. That doesn’t mean that you grovel and become her slave, although if that ended up as what you both wanted, it could. I recommend reading a book or two about female led relationships and/or male Chastity. They are in print as well as e-books on Amazon. My favorite authors include Lucy Fairborne, J.M. Scott, and Marissa Rudder. But I also echo others in getting into conversation with her as to why she likes caging her men and what she wants to get out of it.
I did try to talk to her about her interest in chastity. It wasn't very useful. All I got is that she needs to feel the power. She says that normally men dominate women sexually and chastity evens things out. She was unhappy about having this discussion and locked me in chastity last night even though we were together. She said she was too tired for sex and had to get a very early start this morning. So, I am locked in this stupid cage and will be locked all day. This morning she said something about keeping me locked until I stopped bothering her about chastity and just accepted it. Instead of making me sympathize with her chastity craziness, this is just making me want to dominate her when I am unlocked.
I think you need to ask her the end game. She may be wanting long term 24/7 chastity with little orgasm for you...Down the road. This is just the beginning...maybe. There is a progressive way this takes place and you may want to see the site: www.happy-marriage.neocities.com. It is not just for married couples. But, while the site is not based on any real research, many take it as gospel for how to control a man in a FLR... You have to ask her where she is getting these ideas and how far is she wanting to go (in terms of locked time). If what she wants is more than you want, say goodbye.
Now, after all that, I believe you have never been locked for more than a day...and, eventually, you get unlocked and the sex is normal and great. Maybe that is a good thing. Again, define limits. Further, do you have an emergency key, etc.
Asking her where this is going does not work. She won't tell me. That link does not work. I am reallyi thinking about ending this and saying goodbye but she is amazing in appearance and the sex in unbelievable, so it is not an easy choice. I do not have an emergency key or any key. Right now I am locked in this cage with no way to remove it without serious tools. I have asked her repeatedly what happened in her previous relationship that involved chastity but she won't tell me.