My wife outed me to our best friends last night. We were having drinks when they asked us if we were going to go home and do it. My wife, who had a lot to drink, blurted out “he can’t, he’s locked up”. They didn’t fully understand, and we had to leave to get our kids, so I told them I would explain the next time we were together. After getting home and putting our kids to bed, she offered me 1 minute out of my cage for some play if I promised to show them my cage. So it looks like I’ll be showing it to them next week.
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Have you considered that they may not particularly want to see it and may not want to be used in this way to enhance your kink?
You could be about to ruin a nice friendship.
You could be about to ruin a nice friendship.
any other friends, we would not cross that line, but they already know about the “odd” stuff we do in the bedroom.
There is a distinction between knowing some odd habits and being exposed to someone's junk. You know your relationship, but just beware.
Yes, you might tell them about it and offer to let them see if they are interested. That way, no lines are crossed without all knowing about it. My guess is, the wife will want to see but the husband may not be so enthusiastic. Sounds like fun. Good luck.
Full explanations and understanding don't have to result in a physical display. If anything, the better the explanation, the less you'll need to actually show it, having some images on a mobile is an easy way to show exactly what's involved without the risk of breaking a friendship.
Images from an online chastity shop would be best, then there's no suggestion that you're surreptitiously showing 'his junk', and it'll lead on to the conversation of them possibly buying one! Which might not happen if the 'show and tell' is done another way.
I'd plan to do just that, show them images of both plastic and steel cages, easily bookmarked or downloaded to your mobile, explain the effects and benefits of chastity, but there's no need to put any pressure on "showing the junk". Even "offering to show/see" might be a step too far, the request really needs to come from the other side if all are going to be comfortable with it.
the very fact that even on here you have received an underwhelming response to this proposal may make you want to reconsider. What's exciting to you isn't always so to someone else.
I guess I am not in favor of "outing".....may really change or affect friendships and relationships with others. Outing to me seems a little like 'humiliation'
I would be very hesitant about actually showing the junk! When I was accidentally outed to a woman friend, we chose to take my extra cage in a paper bag the next time and do a little "show & tell" and then explain how it feels and what the effects are for both parties. I had to explain what was in the bag first and ask of she was interested in seeing it before ever bringing it out. It turned out to be a nice and interesting conversation, mostly about my chastity, and she has been discrete about telling others, which is yet another concern.
Extracting a promise is different than doing it. It’s a mind fuck for sure.
But you should give in to what she and your friends want. Don’t push to show it. Maybe you’ll find yourself disappointed you couldn’t show it. Dream of making your wife proud.
You should have a sober conversation.
Do respect your friends wishes.
You are lucky to have such good.....understanding....and most importantly discreet friends. As always I love your posts which are always thoughtful and understanding.
Perhaps @Dss30 could just clarify the motivations he and his wife have for doing this?
It may well be that they simply want to spread the word about the delights and benefits they have found in a Male Chastity lifestyle, encouraging others to consider it an option to enhance their own lives.
On the other hand, it may just be blatant abuse of a friendship for the sake of a quick domme/sub humiliation thrill.
I accept that there may be other reasons and motivations that I haven't thought of, so please feel free to add your own?
It may well be that they simply want to spread the word about the delights and benefits they have found in a Male Chastity lifestyle, encouraging others to consider it an option to enhance their own lives.
On the other hand, it may just be blatant abuse of a friendship for the sake of a quick domme/sub humiliation thrill.
I accept that there may be other reasons and motivations that I haven't thought of, so please feel free to add your own?
Respecting the boundaries of their friends is important. That said, I’ve found most open minded people are curious.
Personally I’d let it go unless they mention it. If they do they’re curious. Then you should have a discussion and see where it goes. If not, then they either aren’t, or they are too timid to ask. So let it go until they bring it up.
Personally I’d let it go unless they mention it. If they do they’re curious. Then you should have a discussion and see where it goes. If not, then they either aren’t, or they are too timid to ask. So let it go until they bring it up.
Don’t expect anyone to keep the info to themselves if they see and understand. I imagine it’s like finding out someone is transgender where people you trusted with your life will betray you by running their mouths. So expect EVERYONE associated with those people to know.
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I agree if anyone in the other couple would like to see it will be the wife. Knowing what it is as a male i would not like to put any ideas into her head. If they ask to see it yes then, but if they don't bring up the subject let it go. Guarantee if the wife really wants to see it she will arrange a private showing for her.
