Phases (and Femininity)

[Chas_Karla]

Hi all - long time reader first time poster.

My wife and I have been dabbling with chastity and FLR for a while now. I was just wondering if others had any thoughts on a couple of things.

1. The phases of chastity. We have noticed that when my wife locks me up the initial (we call it slut phase) is very challenging for me and pesty for her. I want out and want to play and ... well you get it. I then go into a softer (we call it slave mode where I want to serve her and become increasingly submissive. Our record is 25 days - a fraction of a lot of people on here - but haven't gone further to know if there is a phase 3. 1 wondered what other people found and if there is a stage 3?
2. Linked to the slave phase comes my increased desire for femininity. Not in an overt way but as my wife puts it 'I get softer. We are trying to think of ways to represent / enhance that feeling whilst being able to carry out a normal life (kids jobs etc). Basically I can't be rocking a maids uniform around the house on a daily basis. Interested if anyone has any thoughts / suggestions.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Jail Bird]

I think many of us are where you're at. Living in a FLR/WLM as a D/s couple is tough with kids in the house. Tough, but not impossible

Keeping you in slave/service mode is perfect. Not to mention, what an example your kids will see when daddy helps mommy with everything.

Keeping you locked has many advantages across the board.

 

[Chas_Karla]

I hear a lot of talk about chastity increasing productivity etc but wondering when this kicks in. Certainly through the first two phases I haven’t felt any more productive … Our longest stint is a month by way of context.

 

[Chastity2024]

I have been locked 3 months. I really started to want to serve her after about a month locked. Now I love it and sever her in many ways. I would say phase 3 is less and less unlocks maybe. I know for me she would let me out to O every week or so. I haven’t have a really O in a month and a half.

 

[CagedandPantied]

Linked to the slave phase comes my increased desire for femininity. Not in an overt way but as my wife puts it 'I get softer. We are trying to think of ways to represent / enhance that feeling whilst being able to carry out a normal life (kids jobs etc). Basically I can't be rocking a maids uniform around the house on a daily basis. Interested if anyone has any thoughts / suggestions.
Thanks in advance.

Seems like you’re ready to go into panties. For me (and a number of others here), being pantied on a permanent (or at least regular/frequent) basis has been instrumental in deepening our submission and clearly defining you and your wife’s roles in the relationship. Lots of us wear panties with our cage under otherwise ordinary male clothes as a powerful symbol of obedience.

 

[Jail Bird]

Seems like you’re ready to go into panties. For me (and a number of others here), being pantied on a permanent (or at least regular/frequent) basis has been instrumental in deepening our submission and clearly defining you and your wife’s roles in the relationship. Lots of us wear panties with our cage under otherwise ordinary male clothes as a powerful symbol of obedience.

Put me down for panties 24/7/365 with a pad.

 

[Finallycaged]

I wear men’s string bikinis on a regular basis when locked and in locked they feel amazing and I love how they are more feminine and feel amazing and the kids don’t ask questions they are just daddy undies

 

[Chas_Karla]

Seems like you’re ready to go into panties. For me (and a number of others here), being pantied on a permanent (or at least regular/frequent) basis has been instrumental in deepening our submission and clearly defining you and your wife’s roles in the relationship. Lots of us wear panties with our cage under otherwise ordinary male clothes as a powerful symbol of obedience.

we have discussed

Seems like you’re ready to go into panties. For me (and a number of others here), being pantied on a permanent (or at least regular/frequent) basis has been instrumental in deepening our submission and clearly defining you and your wife’s roles in the relationship. Lots of us wear panties with our cage under otherwise ordinary male clothes as a powerful symbol of obedience.

We discussed last night and she is going to think about it so we shall see. Thanks

 

[MicroDikAdam]

Not sure what stage I'm on now, but similar path. Locked for a week, then 2, then a month. Cage is now one off the "flat" models, so naturally started wearing panties, you know... for comfort... Now my wife and I go out shopping for clothes (dresses, outfits, bras, etc.) and come home and try it on together.
I do not go out in public, but in home setting it's a way to express our sexual desires. She was a bit hesitant to get there, but now she enjoys the time we spend together. I could provide more feedback if you like, but it's a common progression. Just don't rush her is the main thing.

 

[Just_Jake]

Hi all - long time reader first time poster.

My wife and I have been dabbling with chastity and FLR for a while now. I was just wondering if others had any thoughts on a couple of things.

1. The phases of chastity. We have noticed that when my wife locks me up the initial (we call it slut phase) is very challenging for me and pesty for her. I want out and want to play and ... well you get it. I then go into a softer (we call it slave mode where I want to serve her and become increasingly submissive. Our record is 25 days - a fraction of a lot of people on here - but haven't gone further to know if there is a phase 3. 1 wondered what other people found and if there is a stage 3?
2. Linked to the slave phase comes my increased desire for femininity. Not in an overt way but as my wife puts it 'I get softer. We are trying to think of ways to represent / enhance that feeling whilst being able to carry out a normal life (kids jobs etc). Basically I can't be rocking a maids uniform around the house on a daily basis. Interested if anyone has any thoughts / suggestions.

Thanks in advance.

I would have to say my wife and I have a very similar if not completely parallel chastity relationship. Slut phase followed by sissy slave phase... I think cuckold might be phase 3