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Mr_anonymous

Mr_anonymous

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So genuine question that's had me curious. So many people make being caged the focus of their lives it seems, why? I'm a father, husband, have a job and things I enjoy. Honestly I'm busier then I want to be. Just so happens I'm caged as I do these things. It's not really a focus for me, just what it is. We have our playtimes here and there but adulting way supercedes. Trying to understand with all your roles in life. Why make chasity your identity or what have you? No I'm not better then anyone, just accepted my fate I guess.
 
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Well...I would say honestly for me priority 1 is taking care of Mistress/Wife and whatever that entails. If i was told no more chastity, I would give that up. If I was told no more dressing, I would (reluctantly) stop.

I didnt say those were not important to me and I am not naive to think I would not miss/think about those, but I have reached a point in life of sacrificing for what is most important.

There is a lot I don't share here about my relationship and history with Mistress/Wife...family...career...etc because as mentioned it is after all "Chastity Mansion". That said, I fully understand and respect all others views.
 
I don't share much personally hence my name. Also yes I realize it's a chasity site. It just strikes me odd when chasity is about removing your dick from the equation. Seems weird making it the focus.
 
Mr_anonymous said:
So genuine question that's had me curious. So many people make being caged the focus of their lives it seems, why? I'm a father, husband, have a job and things I enjoy. Honestly I'm busier then I want to be. Just so happens I'm caged as I do these things. It's not really a focus for me, just what it is. We have our playtimes here and there but adulting way supercedes. Trying to understand with all your roles in life. Why make chasity your identity or what have you? No I'm not better then anyone, just accepted my fate I guess.
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Sounds to me you're just alot busier than the average locked up guy so you have less time to focus on it, unlike alot of us in the lifestyle.
 
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Sounds to me you're just alot busier than the average locked up guy so you have less time to focus on it, unlike alot of us in the lifestyle.
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Not really it seems quite a few of us here have careers, family etc. If anything it being a lifestyle means a part of it, not the entire focus of it.
 
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For us FLR and chastity is just one thing we do, a sort of couple connect thing. Chastity is a little seasoning added to an already great dish.

This site is focused on some pretty specific kinks, so it is not going to be fully representative of peoples entire lives. I go to other sites to discuss my other "hobbies".
 
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Ok I thought of something nicer to say!

You are so right man, priorities!

So I consulted the Wife and decided yep, we gonna try a whole different direction with the cage still but just out more frequently!

And you know how She celebrated that? She took the cage off and stroked me to sweet sweet completion.

So. Yeah we gonna take a nice long break from here. Enjoy!
 
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Aside from the sexual side, occasional verbal reminders, and the FLM, life continues as normal.
Reminders through the day during toilet visits or occasion pinching or discomfort.
The submissive thoughts that spring to mind during the day.
But we still have to work, care for family, walk the dog etc. If it dominated our lives totally, we'd never get anything done, haha.
 
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Most probably do, but this is a site about chastity so that is what they talk about it.
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100% this.

I am a member of a bunch of online communities and it's the same. On the land management communities we discuss land management and it would appear that is all consuming to folks on there.
 
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denied_one said:
No shit. I really think the OP is throwing shade tbh...just to get a rise
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Why is everything an attack? Is a legitimate question. So many people do chasity to stop jerking off, be more productive, be a better husband, more attentive etc. Then they spend just as much time still focusing on their dicks. I'd be cheating myself if I just made my focus a cage. I'm so much more.
 
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Why is everything an attack? Is a legitimate question. So many people do chasity to stop jerking off, be more productive, be a better husband, more attentive etc. Then they spend just as much time still focusing on their dicks. I'd be cheating myself if I just made my focus a cage. I'm so much more.
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I too am doing all those things. I fail to see anyone here discussing their full lives on here no? Am I missing it? Please show me.

No sir, what I see is a bunch men and a couple women who are on her discussing chastity and here's the kicker...

We are all individuals...so CHASTITY (not Chasity)...effects each of us differently. What a novel concept...

Why don't you tell us why everything has to be an attack. Why don't you just log off and go away
 
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denied_one said:
I too am doing all those things. I fail to see anyone here discussing their full lives on here no? Am I missing it? Please show me.

No sir, what I see is a bunch men and a couple women who are on her discussing chastity and here's the kicker...

We are all individuals...so CHASTITY (not Chasity)...effects each of us differently. What a novel concept...

Why don't you tell us why everything has to be an attack. Why don't you just log off and go away
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I should log off because you can't ignore a post? I ignore plenty and scroll on. I've said repeatedly there's no wrong way. So not exactly sure what the issue is here honestly.
 
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I should log off because you can't ignore a post? I ignore plenty and scroll on. I've said repeatedly there's no wrong way. So not exactly sure what the issue is here honestly.
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Ok who makes their cage their 100% focus of their lives? Share with us an actual example, please. You cannot cos you simply do not know. You are just throwing shade. Log off ...go away
 
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denied_one said:
Ok who makes their cage their 100% focus of their lives? Share with us an actual example, please. You cannot cos you simply do not know. You are just throwing shade. Log off ...go away
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When entirety of posts of I'm dying in my cage kinda sums it up. Last I checked you can't tell me what to do. Feel free to leave my post at anytime.
 
I guess that some people who post about how difficult it is to be in chastity just get off on talking about it. Cos if it was all that difficult they could just NOT be in chastity.
At the same time there is a tendency in all online discussions for folks to assume their interlocutors have one dimensional lives because we only see that dimension. I am frequently called a “sad, lonely man in a basement”, and occasionally a “Russian bot”. But my house has no basement and I’m generally gregarious, so it does not compute, comrades.
 
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Mr_anonymous said:
Why is everything an attack? Is a legitimate question. So many people do chasity to stop jerking off, be more productive, be a better husband, more attentive etc. Then they spend just as much time still focusing on their dicks. I'd be cheating myself if I just made my focus a cage. I'm so much more.
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Pal, no offense (really none intended) but you do have a history of belittling other members and asking/suggesting things that are well out of their norm. When you say something like "I'm better than that." or "I'm more than that." of course people are going to take that personally.

Like many others in this community, I get frustrated, pent up and impulsive and often need to vent. You've see that before with a number of my posts. You just gotta let people be and let them do what they think is best.
 
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Pal, no offense (really none intended) but you do have a history of belittling other members and asking/suggesting things that are well out of their norm. When you say something like "I'm better than that." or "I'm more than that." of course people are going to take that personally.

Like many others in this community, I get frustrated, pent up and impulsive and often need to vent. You've see that before with a number of my posts. You just gotta let people be and let them do what they think is best.
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I've never tried to stop anyone from doing so. I'm not one telling people to f off now am I? It's called conversation and adults should be capable of it.
 
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