Pussy free but not with intent :(

sissybetawimp

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Hi everyone, I’m back online. Wife said just before Christmas she doesn’t want to do any chastity play with me any more. In fact I haven’t even had any sexual contact of any sort since the last we tried for sex in November and I couldn’t stay hard. In some ways i wish she’d used it as an out and said she didn’t want sex with me any more, that I don’t deserve her pussy and that would at least make it tolerable. I don’t even get to lick her pussy or see her boobs any more. It’s a real head messer. I’m sure I’m not alone in this situation but just sharing an update.
 
Quick update: today we were both home without the kids and she called out to me from the bedroom. She’d had a shower and was naked when I walked in. I started fondling her boobs, hugging her and eventually rubbing between her legs. I stripped but didn’t have an erection but got her to lie down on the bed and started kissing her pussy. I mentioned something about “what if I can’t get hard?” And she said not to worry, that she was enjoying what I was doing.

I ended up licking her for about 15-20mins, she was so wet and was playing with her own nipples. I fingered her with two fingers, quite deep while also licking her clit and she had a large orgasm. Afterwards we lay there cuddling naked and spoke. I apologised that I couldn’t get hard but she said she enjoyed what had happened. She asked me if there was anything different I wanted from her and I said that I still think about “those same things” meaning chastity and domination, but added that I know how she felt about that.

She said that she doesn’t love it but also said she wants me to be happy so not to rule anything out. We also spoke about how she wasn’t deliberately not wanting sex but how its hard with three busy kids to make time for each other but she wants to make that a priority.

I think it will be a slow journey but that’s a massively positive update - a) to be able to enjoy eating her pussy again and doing so in a way that gave her great pleasure and b) to have the concept of her taking some control back on the table.

She also mentioned that she was wanted to get her pussy lasered as she was sick of going to the waxer. I happily agreed to her doing that and said I’d work extra hard to get the money for it.

Fingers crossed
 
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Why can’t you get an erection? Can you orgasm with a vibrator and limp penis?
I’m not sure why, it happened a bit to me when I was younger first having sex (~20yo) and now I’m 43 and it’s happening again. I can orgasm with a vibrator and limp penis, that might be something else to try and introduce or ask from my wife but not sure how exactly without pushing her too hard or fast.
 
I’m not sure why, it happened a bit to me when I was younger first having sex (~20yo) and now I’m 43 and it’s happening again. I can orgasm with a vibrator and limp penis, that might be something else to try and introduce or ask from my wife but not sure how exactly without pushing her too hard or fast.
Stress, anxiety, confidence, general health and relationship health can all be underrated. And these all feed off of each other. It’s hard to explain to someone when your body and your mind and your emotions are not in sync in their responses. I am wired to “clam up” when a little anxious and it took me a long time to accept this about myself. It was a bigger problem when I was younger too, and then has reared its head a little more lately.

I also would prefer to eroticize struggles to take the edge off. It’s hard to do that than it sounds when everyone is tired and stressed out.

Keep in mind there can be fine lines for some of us between excitement, anxiety and arousal. Not everyone is wired the same way.
 
Erotic humiliation based on some other inadequacy besides a supposedly small penis. Not everyone gets into hearing humiliating things, obviously. Like telling a cuckold that he is an awkward lover.

I see... Yeah, I'm not into that. I did post a couple chastity captions on those topics, but those were for the community more than me. :cool:
 
Well, you have to set up a new dynamic by talking with her on your common goals.
Please her in a lot of way like cooking and cleaning and she may change her mind. See if she has things to reproch that she is not able to say yet.
Also being impotent is fine for chastity, it helps a lot, but don't harrass her on being a KH. Do it gently, stealthy and it may work.

Else, welcome to the mansion.
 
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