Ready for a change

[SissyMaxine]

Hello everyone,

I'm excited to join this wonderful community! My name is Maxine, and I'm a married man currently living in chastity with my wife as the key holder. I have a deep desire to transition and become my wife’s girlfriend. While new to cross dressing my wife is hesitant, but supportive and encouraging. Together were navigating this journey with love and patience.

My ultimate goal is to live full-time as a female, including top surgery, while choosing not to pursue bottom surgery. This feels like the right path for me, balancing my identity and comfort. I hope to achieve this while maintaining the support and love of my wife.

I’m here to connect with others who understand this unique journey, share experiences, and offer support. Embracing my true self has been both challenging and transformative, and I’m looking forward to sharing and growing with all of you.

Thank you for welcoming me into this community. I’m excited to learn from and support each other along the way.

Warmly,
Maxine

 

[anasyrma]

Welcome to CM. I have the desire to follow your path to femininity. The idea of top surgery sounds intriguing. Being in a state in between male and female, i.e. with breasts and a penis is exciting for me somehow. I imagine being like my avatar and being able to wear many kinds of attractive clothing as a real woman can without being one.
Do you have similar feelings?

 

[SissyMaxine]

Absolutely, and thank you for your vote! And I absolutely love your avatar! I think trans women without bottom surgery are amazing! I’m absolutely in love with Natilie Mars, she a little more sexually out there than I could ever be but her personal life is one I aspire towards

 

[emily chelsea]

i do hope all goes well for you both and your wife will be happy to help you all the way
i to find some trans woman amazing some are just so so beautiful
i i have know worries and just would love to date one

 

[SissyMaxine]

i do hope all goes well for you both and your wife will be happy to help you all the way
i to find some trans woman amazing some are just so so beautiful
i i have know worries and just would love to date one

Thank you very much. I desperately want us to be happy together. As I stated she is supportive but hesitant.

That said, the wife and I were at diner the other knight at Texas Roadhouse when when seen this stunningly androgynous young trans…we both agreed how beautiful she was. We didn’t get the chance to strike a conversation without being “those people” at a family restaurant where we were all with our families, but god I wanted to talk to her!

 

[SissyMaxine]

I must add that she was a new trans female and not totally comfortable in her feminine flow. As in walking for example, and a not total comfortable in her demeanor. She was masculine and feminine, she was perfect and I wish I could have let her know

 

[TangoSub]

Welcome to CM. Thanks for sharing and good luck!

 

[emily chelsea]

I must add that she was a new trans female and not totally comfortable in her feminine flow. As in walking for example, and a not total comfortable in her demeanor. She was masculine and feminine, she was perfect and I wish I could have let her know

i do hope you get the chance to as i do to
i would just love to meet one chat and see what could happen

 

[SissyMaxine]

i do hope you get the chance to as i do to
i would just love to meet one chat and see what could happen

I have been with trans girls in the past when I was young and single. Benefits of living in a city like Dallas. I don’t know what your geographical situation is, but it does make a difference, but I’m sure as more are coming out, no matter where you live there is an opportunity for these relationships. I have a very keen since for even very passable trans girls. I believe that comes from 1:my desire to find them as well as my ability to read peoples body language stemming from me being an artist and specializing in the human form

 

[MissyB]

Welcome. I hope you enjoy our community. Good luck.

 

[madams-sissysub]

Hi there and welcome to the mansion!

 

[SissyMaxine]

If your wife is hesitant for you to transition, maybe it isn't a good idea to pursue
It ?!
Sometimes you got to look years ahead and invision how this plays out.

hesitant but supportive. I agree and am actively pursuing what I envision to be my future. I’m under no delusions and I’m old enough to understand the consequences of our personal choices. That being said, the wife is intrigued and we’ve had many decisions about this topic. Sometimes you gotta let things run their course. I’m sure wherever this takes us we will be happy just as we are happy now, nothing is being “pushed” on anyone

 

[MaggotNub]

If it's not too intrusive and insensitive, would it be ok to answer something I'm curious about? If you think it is, please don't feel a response is required, just tell me to go away.

Is top surgery a near universal ambition for male to female trans people? I assume top surgery is a euphemism for breast implants - is that correct?

Assuming my understanding is correct so far, I'd also assumed that trans women developed breasts through hormone treatment. Like cis women develop breasts in a variety of sizes, I presumed trans women were the same. Do trans women have less desirable breast development overall compared to cis women, and so is it assumed implants will be more likely necessary to get the appearance that is desired?

I hope there's no offense taken here. I'm genuinely interested and I'm not trying to set any kind of trap in my questions. I'm supportive of trans people. I've never met any trans women except in brief or professional encounters, where it would have been incorrect to ask such sensitive questions.

Conversely I have a close friend who's son is a trans man, where he wants top surgery to remove his breasts and is considering bottom surgery too. We're friendly and he's had open conversations with me as he transitions using testosterone. Most recently he asked me if all men get so much hair around their butt hole for example. In my case, yes, I told him. We laughed.

 

[SissyMaxine]

If it's not too intrusive and insensitive, would it be ok to answer something I'm curious about? If you think it is, please don't feel a response is required, just tell me to go away.

Is top surgery a near universal ambition for male to female trans people? I assume top surgery is a euphemism for breast implants - is that correct?

Assuming my understanding is correct so far, I'd also assumed that trans women developed breasts through hormone treatment. Like cis women develop breasts in a variety of sizes, I presumed trans women were the same. Do trans women have less desirable breast development overall compared to cis women, and so is it assumed implants will be more likely necessary to get the appearance that is desired?

I hope there's no offense taken here. I'm genuinely interested and I'm not trying to set any kind of trap in my questions. I'm supportive of trans people. I've never met any trans women except in brief or professional encounters, where it would have been incorrect to ask such sensitive questions.

Conversely I have a close friend whose son is a trans man, where he wants top surgery to remove his breasts and is considering bottom surgery too. We're friendly and he's had open conversations with me as he transitions using testosterone. Most recently he asked me if all men get so much hair around their butt hole for example. In my case, yes, I told him. We laughed.

Hi there, and thanks for your question. This is something I’ve thought about on multiple levels. I thought of hormones but I don’t really wanna mess with all that at my age. I’m already pretty comfortable with myself. For me implants will make my look more complete, helping to balance portions and allow me to feel more genuinely feminine, at the same time I know I will never be a real female, nor does that bother me. It can get complicated as I have friends that are transitioning because they want to absolutely chance sex. I am seeing their struggles and successes. I have a friend, my age, who has transitioned from male to female, both top and bottom surgeries. Now some years later they just had their breast removed. I do feel fortunate I have no desire to really transition. I very much like the in between. There is so much psychology involved in all this, it is interesting but also tiring. I find people talking in circles doing more talking than living. It’s a largely binary word, you either present male or female, or you may not like how you get treated in public. I watched my friend go thou this as their situation was to transition from male to female. They have always been androgynous on the masculine side, and absolutely attracted to females. As becoming a lesbian female, going to the counseling, doing the medical stuff (not all medical stuff goes as planed) and for all that they never really pulled of “female” as they where trying to find that “I’m a manly girl” didn’t work. My friend is a beautiful sole, a clean well keep person…it can be a tough world when you stand out…fortunately my friend is a good strong person, but I see them get tested all the time. At the same time I have to say my friend is finding themselves though art and they have many wonderful experiences that make life worth living! I hope this answers your question, I love to hear your thoughts

 

[SissyMaxine]

just a quick explanation of these statements that I realize can seem contradictory…

"I have a deep desire to transition and become my wife’s girlfriend.”
By this, I mean transitioning in my personal identity and presentation.

“I do feel fortunate I have no desire to really transition. I very much like the in between”
By this I mean I do not see myself as a biological female and I feel that is a reality that can not change, and I’m very ok with that.

I hope this helps clear up any misunderstandings

 

[LockedSissyHusband]

Hello and welcome to the community. Please keep us updated on your progress.

 

[MaggotNub]

Thanks for the frank response.

Simplifying some of what you wrote; it seems you are not actually a trans person in the mainstream sense which would be a person with gender dysmorphia, some one who totally feels the were born in the wrong body.

Rather, your transition is an extension of kink and fetish. You know you are male, you feel male, but want to present as female through a sexual motivation.

I cross dress and get sexual excitement through feminisation activities. My submission is enhanced by the activity of reducing my masculinity. But I don't think I'm anything but a man and have no desire undergo any kind of reassignment.

I'll admit being forcibly feminised and undergoing body modification through domination has cropped up in fantasies. But they're extreme, for me, at least, and are totally accepted as never going to be fulfilled, as is true for many of us.

I don't know if that might appear insensitive, especially to anyone with definite dysmorphia. I'm happy to be corrected by anyone directly experiencing such difficulties.

 

[SissyMaxine]

Thanks for the frank response.

Simplifying some of what you wrote; it seems you are not actually a trans person in the mainstream sense which would be a person with gender dysmorphia, some one who totally feels the were born in the wrong body.

Rather, your transition is an extension of kink and fetish. You know you are male, you feel male, but want to present as female through a sexual motivation.

I cross dress and get sexual excitement through feminisation activities. My submission is enhanced by the activity of reducing my masculinity. But I don't think I'm anything but a man and have no desire undergo any kind of reassignment.

I'll admit being forcibly feminised and undergoing body modification through domination has cropped up in fantasies. But they're extreme, for me, at least, and are totally accepted as never going to be fulfilled, as is true for many of us.

I don't know if that might appear insensitive, especially to anyone with definite dysmorphia. I'm happy to be corrected by anyone directly experiencing such difficulties.

Thanks for your responses. You are correct in your regards; I am not the mainstream definition.

You’re partly right in the second part, and I think it’s safe to say it is “an extension of kink and fetish,” but my desire to present as feminine full-time is more than just “sexual motivation,” and it’s not about a desire to submit. I genuinely want to look the way I feel inside.

I will admit it’s super sexy and hot that my wife is actively participating by buying me clothing and giving me tips. I believe she is secretly enjoying it because it gives her an excuse to get dolled up with a “girlfriend” who shares the same interests.

I honestly don’t know how far it will go, but the statements I made about where I would like to be and how I see myself are accurate. However, I live in reality and I’m patient. I’ve put it out into the world, I’ve said it to my wife, and she is perceptive. Now I’m sharing it with you fine people…manifest destiny, baby!!

 

[MaggotNub]

I understand your feminisation being motivated by your submission.

I'm similar. For whatever reason, I've internally associated masculinity with dominance and femininity with submission.

Before the ladies attack me, i recognise that this is not my view of women in society at all, and am absolutely a feminist.

But my own personal sense of self links my masculinity with dominant trates. I've spent 3 decades of my adult life with a sexuality that defined my self a male dominant attracted to submissive women.

In my late 40s my orientation unexpectedly changed and I found myself submissive. Since then I've found that it feels right for me to express my submission by diminishing masculine traits and adopting feminine elements into my identity.

Not full time, not publicly out, and not trans. I just feel more submissive when feminised and emasculated. Inverted cage removed my penis from my appearance. Body hair removed. Feminine clothing items like frilly knickers being frequently worn under my men's clothing.

 

[SissyMaxine]

I understand your feminisation being motivated by your submission.

I'm similar. For whatever reason, I've internally associated masculinity with dominance and femininity with submission.

Before the ladies attack me, i recognise that this is not my view of women in society at all, and am absolutely a feminist.

But my own personal sense of self links my masculinity with dominant trates. I've spent 3 decades of my adult life with a sexuality that defined my self a male dominant attracted to submissive women.

In my late 40s my orientation unexpectedly changed and I found myself submissive. Since then I've found that it feels right for me to express my submission by diminishing masculine traits and adopting feminine elements into my identity.

Not full time, not publicly out, and not trans. I just feel more submissive when feminised and emasculated. Inverted cage removed my penis from my appearance. Body hair removed. Feminine clothing items like frilly knickers being frequently worn under my men's clothing.

I understand where you’re coming from and appreciate your insights. I think many “sissies” feel the same way. I was very hesitant about using “sissy” in my title because I don’t really see myself that way, and my wife refuses to call me that, at least for now, lol. But just “Maxine” was taken, so I made a quick decision.

I see my wife’s strengths and weaknesses, and she sees mine. I am the same person, whether dressed or not; I do not suddenly start acting out of character because of my clothes. I do not feel weak or submissive because of what I wear. What I do feel is comfortable, relatable, and on the same level with my wife as a partner and lover in our dynamic of dominance and submission, which has been our situation since we met. We lean on each other and support each other with love and understanding that goes beyond kink and fetish...but hey, we like to have fun too!!

 

[SissyMaxine]

I’ve made a tread in “Crossdressing in all it variations” and shared a video that feel is worth the watch if your interested in this topic. Let me know your thoughts

 

[Shepherdsflock]

I didn't vote in the survey because I don't identify as a sissy. I am a woman who happens to be transgender. Sissy has a lot of stuff associated with it that doesn't represent me. But if I can be helpful on the topic of transitioning, I will do my best to be helpful.

 

[jemima]

hello @SissyMaxine and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well.

 

[SissyMaxine]

I didn't vote in the survey because I don't identify as a sissy. I am a woman who happens to be transgender. Sissy has a lot of stuff associated with it that doesn't represent me. But if I can be helpful on the topic of transitioning, I will do my best to be helpful.

I totally understand that and I made a statement in this thread earlier about “sissy” being in my title (if you didn’t see it)

I was most definitely asking people “sissies”where they where in the Crossdressing phase of their lives, I guess I felt like it was a broader term, especially for this site but…
I didn’t realize how strong a word “sissy” can be. As I stated earlier my wife isn’t a fan of the word or image it gave her. So that helps me see myself in a certain light, as I now only where panties and we wax and get nails done together, I still am the same person to everyone in public and with my wife in private.Thanks for your comment here!

 

[LesterBallard]

Welcome