Should I be honest?

Honesty is always the best

 

I vowed to always tell me wife the truth so personally I would own up. She has a way of finding out eventually. Besides, if I could make her lock me up and provide oral I'd be more than happy.

 

Being truthful is always the best option. My domme finds it very disrespectful if I don't tell her the truth. All it took was 1 time. I eventually cracked and told her. She was disappointed, but let me make up for my mistake with a punishment. Ever since I have been 100% honest with her. It will only benefit your relationship with your kh.

 

You should tell her. When you are not caged you are a cumpulsive masturbator. She needs to know that and you need to own it.

 

Own up your mistakes, tell her and accept the consequences.

Maybe if you’ll be on your best behaviour and do your best to make up for your transgressions, she might have some mercy on you… Or maybe not.

 

There is no right or wrong way to incorporate male chastity into a relationship if both people are ok with everything. The only way to get there is through communication and compromise... You are going to see a lot of people on this forum who say the female's decision is absolute, but that really isn't the case for all couples.

There are a lot of things more important than orgasm denial in your relationship, but it does sound like you broke the trust you had with her. I would start having more open communication and set some better guidelines so you aren't living on pins and needles with made-up rules on the fly like it is the Wild West... Unless you enjoy that.

 

In August I was allowed out of my cage for an entire weekend for a camping trip. (I am otherwise locked 24/7/365 with the exceptions of the times Goddess wants to play, cleaning/shaving, and doctor appointments) I was good on the trip, but that weekend Goddess and the kids spent the weekend at Her sister's house. During my time at home by myself, I took advantage of my freedom 3 times. When Goddess returned home, I was locked back up and She asked if I had been good. I told Her I had masturbated 3 times, to which she responded that I would be facing 3 major punishments. Like many of our Wives, Goddess is nowhere near into all of this as I am, and so those words could have ended up being empty without a reminder. Some days later, I reminded Her and asked if She wanted some assistance in thinking of suitable punishments. She said maybe. Some days after that I asked again and She said yes. I started with it probably being best for her to catch up on orgasms before considering allowing me one. We agreed that She was to have 2 for each 1 of my unauthorized orgasms. It has been a little over a month and she has had 4 so far. It will likely be mid to end of the month before She reaches 6, and when She does, I am going to request that I spend the remainder of the month locked in observance of Locktober. I asked for 24/7 chastity, and I got it. If I were in your shoes, I would not have had an opportunity to masturbate 130 to 150 times, because I am locked day and night. Unless your wife is way more into this than you realize, I doubt she would make you wait 3 years for your next orgasm. However, If She was genuinely upset that you masturbated 10 times, and you confess the 130-150, you may end up caged 24/7 as well. It's up to you to decide if that's what you want. Personally, I would confess.

 

The joke answer is 'yes you should tell the truth and accept your fate'. But, without knowing the dynamic it's hard to say.

Like Hippo says, sitting and having a conversation on guidelines and how you play this is probably the best idea now. Probably the best time to have it too.

Can see if you get let off some of them for owning up.

 

@Andylocked please it always best to tell a Lady the true what happen. Cos if you dont and They find out after that you have told a fib then you be in lots of bother. and what will happen to you will be lots worse than if you telled the truth first. and i think They alwasy find out

 

I’m a personal believer that the punishments will be far more ‘satisfying’ if she had instigated them them herself. My wife too was not as into it. I never suggested caning but that’s kinda where we’ve got to.
Give your wife the tools. Paddles, keys, candles… whatever you would seem a suitable punishment. Give her some ideas. Maybe write a list on ways you could be punished.
Then sit back and allow her to punish you in any way she deems appropriate.
This way, yes you’ve given her ideas etc, but she’s still controlling which one she undertakes and for what reason.
She’ll grow more into the role you’d like this way rather than simply instructing her in what to do.

 

Keep your mouth shut about it.

Honesty is best but you don't run around being honest all the time as you would be sure to get a punch in the mouth quite regularly.

 

This made me laugh out loud, thanks for that! But in all seriousness, this is his Wife we're talking about, not a stranger that would punch him. And this proverbial punch in the mouth is one that he potentially wants to receive, is it not?

 

always tell the truth, even when you lie

 

‘People who do what’s right, never fear the truth.’

Just stop masturbating and you’ll have no issues. It will also make her think twice about her rules as you’ll have no obligation. She’ll wield no power over you… that’s what you want right?

 

You should tell her you didn't quite understand the question when she asked it and on more reflection, this is the real answer. Then you accept whatever She decides.

If I find out husband's masturbated it's almost always an immediate lockup. I ALWAYS schedule him for a Disciplinary Session. I have surprised him in the act a few times. In those cases, Discipline has been immediate. I have him put on only bra, panties, stockings, garter belt and heels. I decree an implement he brings me, then it's panties down and across my lap he goes. After the spanking, there's supervised masturbation. He eats the results and is given 25 strokes of the tawse. After Corner Time, I almost always give him a sentence in Chastity for whatever time I decree. Lockup is, of course, immediate.

 

Well she may have meant in the last Day!! I. Which in that case 10, you should be given a medal and that punishment is probably justified.

Sheesh, when I was free the last year would have been at least over 1000, so 10000 orgasms for my partner would be 20000 weeks or 400 years till my next orgasm there about.

Maybe to get to the truth of it when the time is right, ask her for clarification was she talking about the last year or the last day or the last week, or since you were last wearing the cage.

Then accept your fate.

truth of it is wives are not usually absolute, if it’s a big number it’s unlikely it will be enforced and if it’s the last day you will grateful for it to have been clarified I think you have to trust your wife’s decision to give you justice

Commit the crime do the time has a whole
New meaning for you eh

 

I wouldn't say a thing. Play your chastity games however you feel comfortable within your relationship. There is nothing wrong with masturbation especially if you are not getting suffiient and/or adequate sex. Unless you want to be, why should you be punished if she can't meet your needs. Relationships need to go both ways.

 

please Mistress. i wud not ever do it and please why dont he stop do it if he know what gonna happen to him like that.

 

I think the medical term for what you hope to describe is "chronic." I've explained to my wife that when I'm uncaged, it is just too tempting. Sex is a powerful drug. When my cage comes off for travel, I may or may not spend a whole lot more time applying soap to that area.

You have been punished and you have been caged... do all you can to maintain the current status quo starting with your thanks to her for wanting to help.

 

She'll find out in the end and be more upset than if you tell her now...

 

"Miss Cecilia", please, rather than "Mistress". I'm more a Disciplinarian and less a Dominatrix

Since I started spanking him and putting him in chastity, his masturbation and pornography has gone way down.. It happens mostly when I'm not around. If he's not under Discipline or in Chastity, if he wants some, all he has to do is ask. I don't always look at his computer history so I don't always notice. Sometimes, I guess it just gets too much for him to control himself. Eventually, I'm hoping he'll learn. Until then, I'm going to control him.

 

i sorry bout that Miss Cecillia. thank You for tell me.

 

If you're feeling anxious about 2 months, why would you want to make it much, much longer? Just use your tongue for pleasuring your wife instead of digging your hole deeper.