Can't that be skewed though. Say one guy buys six cages trying to find that perfect one.
Sightings - Chastity & FLR in the Mainstream
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I like this. Of course we also know that a large percentage buy more than one cage, but I think we can imagine that few of the multi cage owners are buying multiples in the same year.
So, if you said that roughly 2.5% of men have a cage, I would believe that number.
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Ah, but how many women buy more than one vibrator?
Also, how many men eventually find a device that works for them and don't buy another?
Chastity is such a non-fetishy fetish, that I think it works almost entirely by supernormal stimulation (like sugar and appetite), meaning it probably pushes the buttons of a lot of men.
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But you will always have outliers in any group. Yes, we all know there are guys with a dozen cages. Yes, there are women with half a dozen vibes in the drawer. But the Amazon stats look at current year purchases; *probably* nobody is buying six in one year.
But you will always have outliers in any group. Yes, we all know there are guys with a dozen cages. Yes, there are women with half a dozen vibes in the drawer. But the Amazon stats look at current year purchases; *probably* nobody is buying six in one year.
Yes, that's what I meant. So they probably cancel each other out.
We could also guess that the top selling devices tend to be single purchases.
The new "Dying for Sex" show on Netflix looks slightly deranged, but it also includes a chastity cage:
Oh, great, another depiction of chastity as something fucked up people do. That'll help things...
Interesting. With the placement and key shape that's def what it is.
That's how media attention towards fringe sexual practices works.
1. Complete silence. The general public would only hear whispered innuendo or an oblique reference to a prosecution.
2. Derision and disgust. References are made to identify a fictional character as villainous, weak, untrustworthy, contemptible, etc
3. Mockery. The characters referenced are the butts of jokes directed at their interests, but as a source of amusement more than vilification.
4. Shock value. The references are thrown in to unbalance the audience, to present a flaw in a character, or as a publicity stunt.
5. Pushing the envelope. Some effort is made to make a cinema veritas portrayal. Direct involvement of protagonists, and/or central plotlines.
6. Mainstreaming. The activity/interest becomes a theme permitted to be explored without defining the film's genre as dealing specifically with that activity.
This sounds like the first instance of #4 that I am aware of. Maybe the sex shops in Cyberpunk 2077, but I'd argue that was #2.
To all of you:
So, what is the magic number. How many millions of chastity devices have to be sold? How many actresses have to go on a late night talk show to express how great their sex life is since they locked up their man? What will it take before you can be at peace about your desire to be kept in chastity?
So, what is the magic number. How many millions of chastity devices have to be sold? How many actresses have to go on a late night talk show to express how great their sex life is since they locked up their man? What will it take before you can be at peace about your desire to be kept in chastity?
It is a good question. For men, I don't think it really matters. Except... we want to have keyholders, which means - at least for us straight guys - we need a woman who's special to us to buy into it. And women are much more herd animals. So the more publicly common it is, the more likely the woman we want to be our keyholder will be at peace with it.
So if Tay-Tay is wearing a key around her neck at the next Chiefs game...
I’m confident that women in general (that present as vanilla), are far more kinky and sexually experimental than men. The fact that 50 Shades (a book bought almost exclusively by women) was the highest selling book of the decade, should be a good hint that this is true. Introducing a VERY male-centeric sex toy (while telling women of all the advantages it will provide them) as a couples first exploration of kink as a couple will most always (in my opinion) be the worst way to earn a keyholder.
I highly doubt it
Women are no where near as kinky as men. It's not even close.
I introduced 4 vanilla women to Bondage before I was 20 years old (married the 4th, one). I worked in a female dominated profession for over 12 years and my wife has 30ish female (vanilla presenting clients who tend to talk about EVERYTHING. Most men are porn focused many women are sensation focused and desire in fantasy, in the fiction they read and in real life want to be ravished. Doubt away, my experience says otherwise.
My reply above in addition to 40 plus years in a BDSM relationship plus attending a variety of Kink classes and paying close attention to what the newbie women ask in class versus what the men ask, tells me you’re mistaken.
So what’s your evidence (other than the number of desperate chastity focused men on chastity sites trying to coerce a partner to lock their unit up)?
This is anecdotal but then so is what you’re saying. So it’s a push.
My guess is the reason you think women are more kinky is because they feel more comfortable talking about it than men do.
Women generally love fifty shades and all of the other books where the main theme is the woman being the center of attention of some rich or powerful guy. But that’s pretty tame when you compare it to what men are jerking off to on porn sites.
But most men are not going to talk about what they are actually into because of embarrassment and fear of what other people will think of them.
Like how you just shit on men on this site who are trying to get their wives to indulge in their kink. That’s why it seems like women are more kinky to you.
Men keep their fetishes hidden for a reason.
I have zero issues with men sharing and asking their partner to explore chastity with them. I do have a problem with men who don’t just want participation but want chastity done exactly the way they want it done with no consideration for how their partner might want to explore it. Nor do I think it’s helpful to start a kink exploration with something that will generally be perceived as male focused. Further, jerking off to porn and being willing to negotiate with a partner and explore a kinky relationship are worlds apart. Mainstreaming chastity is unlikely to improve the situation in my opinion.
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Really? You're using your experience with women attending kink classes to make assumptions about the rest of the population? What percentage of women do you think attend kink classes?
Apparently you missed the attached link in my post above. While not conclusive it is consistent with several other sex surveys.
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- •Approximately 65% of adults in the United States have engaged in some form of kink or BDSM activity at least once
- •About 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in the U.S. have tried BDSM activities at least once
You quibble with my evidence but you provide none.
“The most common BDSM activity among practitioners is spanking, followed by bondage and role-playing”
So it’s a bunch of women who like being spanked from the look of it.
You realize a much higher percentage of men then women never have a sexual relationship so do not have the opportunity to engage in BDSM activities, right?
And then what WendyBloom said.
Or just look around here. Compare the (very common) number of posts by guys saying they'd like to introduce chastity into their relationship, but their wife/girlfriend isn't interested, to the (exceptionally rare) number of posts by guys saying "hey, my girlfriend wants to lock me up in a chastity cage and I'm not sure about it but she's really into it so I figured I'd ask about it."