Tell me your success story

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socksandties

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Hello all,

So I’m curious to hear about people who have found good, healthy and sexy female led relationships.

Personally, I joined this site back in a particularly lonely, rather desperate period in my life. It was the start of the pandemic and I was still a virgin in my late twenties. For whatever reason, something clicked in my brain that caused me to go all out in my pursuit of losing my virginity and finding a kink partner. It was a bad experience… I was scammed by a few people, lost thousands of dollars, and never met anyone in real life.

Fortunately, I met a girl through the fet app a couple years ago who agreed to become my slave. We had a wonderful relationship for over a year before life took her out of state. Needless to say I was no longer a virgin, and I learned a lot about how to practice kink as a Master of a sex slave.

However, she’s been gone just over a year now and I have had no real luck in finding another kink relationship. My original goal was always to be a sub, and so I am pursuing that in addition to possibly still becoming a dom again. But my experiences trying to find a female domme are once again disappointing… I know it’s always difficult for a man to find a domme female. There just aren’t many out there. The majority of so called female dommes also set off my finely tuned scammer radar that I honed about 4 years ago. There may also be legitimate ones, however they come on very hot and heavy. “I’m seeking a sub to fully submit to me, mind body and soul. Worship me 24/7. Do anything and everything I say.” Forgive me, but as a former Master of a slave, that’s not how I approach it. I got to know my slave first, then when we both felt comfortable with each other and were ready to take the leap, she signed a slavery contract. Even then, we made a clear distinction between time she was serving me and her personal/professional life. I was not allowed to interfere in either, and I had no desire to.

All this to say, I’m curious to hear of any success stories out there. How did it go for you? How did you find your partner and how did the relationship develop? I’m curious to hear about your experiences
 
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Interesting. If i were one to give advice i'd say go Dom. Obviously you're on fet so you know the subs out number the Dommes. Plus the pay for pay (would be) Dommes are everywhere. The only thing they want to dominate is the cash flow. Years ago i met a lady and i introduced her to FLR. She had never considered it but found that she liked it. We had a few good years till she moved away. If you want success stories you are in the right place, there are many here. But i assure you there are far more failures that successes. Go dom.
 
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Sounds like you enjoy power transfer. You might even enjoy the concept of "switch", in which a relationship will occasionally swap between who is dom and who is sub.

Now you just need to find someone special to explore it with. That can be hard, of course, but you've done it once already, so you know you can!
 
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true42 said:
Sounds like you enjoy power transfer. You might even enjoy the concept of "switch", in which a relationship will occasionally swap between who is dom and who is sub.

Now you just need to find someone special to explore it with. That can be hard, of course, but you've done it once already, so you know you can!
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Yes I definitely am a switch. Just curious to hear stories of males who have found females that domme them in a safe, healthy way. I appreciate the encouragement!
 
In your case I'd say specifically search for a female switch.

They are out there, just like people who practice chastity, they don't tend to advertise themselves, there's many more than you'd guess from the profiles!

From your protential female mate's point of view:
Admiting that you're a switch, or that you're willing to experiment with either side of a sub-dom relationship is probably a lot easier to do when responding to a date request than saying that you're only sub or dom. Just one or the other can raise concerns about just how extreme are they? Whereas being a switch implies a certain amount of discretion, experimentation, discovery, a lot more flexibility and a willingness for both sides to accept, reject or compromise on whatever is suggested.
It's probably also a more interesting dynamic if you can both alternate, as while you either of you may have a preference, in doing both sides you'll both have a much better understanding of all aspects of a sub-dom relationship.

My feeling is that you'll not only find it easier to actively search for another switch while making it clear that you are one too, but you'll be much happier with that when you find that person.
 
My wife and I have had a FLR for half of the 40 years we've been together. But it really isn't based on kink or an hour-by-hour presence of this type of relationship. We just sort of grew in to it and it's really not that intense day by day.

But there are reminders every day. A snap of her fingers brings me to the side of her chair, for a sudden cock inspection. A thud of her glass signals her desire to have it filled. There are all kinds of small moments like that. But most of the time, we approach each other as equals. Well, just about. She always has 51 percent of the vote.

And in bed, she owns my cock and will remind me of it.
 
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Finding a genuine female-led relationship can be really challenging. I had a similar struggle until my partner and I decided to visit https://tosituhma.com. It turned out to be a great way for us to explore our dynamic in a safe, welcoming environment. Meeting others who share your interests in person can sometimes lead to more meaningful connections than online interactions. We took our time to build trust and really understand each other's boundaries. It might be worth exploring different settings or communities where you can meet people with similar interests face-to-face. It helped us a lot in finding the right balance and building a strong connection.
 
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Our marriage was a traditional marriage for the first few years and then I confessed my desire to be submissive to my wife. Fortunately she was open to the idea. It was not easy transitioning to the FLR as it took a lot of trial and error and commitment to find the right balance. After about 5 years things started to really click and now (15+ years later) our FLR is in full force and a natural way of living for us. I absolutely love it!

Sorry this does not help you. I’d be clueless on how to find a partner for FLR. Just don’t rule out that a vanilla person may be able to delve into the lifestyle if you open their eyes to it. It’s certainly not an easy path but if you really connect with someone it is a possibility.
 
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I met my girlfriend on tinder. No mention of bdsm. We got on well and had a couple of dates without sleeping together just enjoying each other's company. Couple of regular type dates sleeping together. 69 and she put her finger up my bum. Rest is history. This is an adventure for us both compared to what we experienced before. Both had very stilted and traditional sexual relationships and like the freedom of pushing the boundaries. So I guess the moral of the story is work on yourself, stack up dates and don't show your hand too early.
 
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Our relationship started as vanilla, both very equal partners and both quite dominant personalities.

The kink developed over time as we found new ways to play together. Bought the usual on-line couple toys. Cheap restraints led to research on dominance, submission and role play. Initially I was the dominant. We went through a big edging period, taking it in turns to tease, both getting very good at it. Which led to more switching of roles and chastity cages. I would love to get her into a chastity belt but she was never interested.

As our games evolved she enjoyed the dominant role more than being submissive. I always felt I was a switch and was happy with either role, I just love play. More research on Femdom led to reading about Female Led Relationships. She's always loved being in charge so it seemed like a good fit.

Most of the time now we practice a Female Led Relationship, including chastity and orgasm control. She always states that her favourite thing about kink is that I obey her, meaning kink is now mostly chores, though the power play makes the chores fun.

Occasionally we go back to being vanilla for a change of pace and I get to be more dominant in bed, which is fun for both of us. It seems to last about one or two weeks before she wants to go back to a female led lifestyle. She has a little phrase she uses after she locks me back up, "all is right in the world again."
 
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