Hello all, its been a while since I visited the Mansion. I stumbled across it again the other day and read some posts and looked at some pics and thought that maybe I should start a journal so like minded folks could read it and give some feedback and encouragement. I understand that some of these journals are someones mere fantasies, you can tell which ones because when you are truly into a FLR and locked up, you know its not all about sex. There are days or weeks that go by where you being in a cage is not even mentioned. My keyholder does not always want to talk about it, in fact, at times it annoys her when all that is on my mind is the cage. in a true FLR relationship, the cage is not the most important thing, its Her wishes and desires that come first, that is why I asked to be locked up, so that i concentrate on Her needs. There are many times when Her needs are merely to cuddle or have a foot rub. I am grateful that She allows me to wear it and encourages me to abstain from satisfying myself and save those emotions for Her to benefit from. For me the cage is just a way for me to control my selfish desires, the intimacy we share is what I enjoy the most and when i can relieve the urges that level of intimacy where all i want is to make my keyholdet feel like she is the most important thing on the face of the planet is not as intense. Thats the selfishness that i want to avoid, i truly want to have my keyholder know that her needs come before mine. It works for us, we don't always talk about it but when i am having a hard time fighting my selfish urges, She truly does make me feel like she understands and there are many times that She doesn't satisfy my desire to orgasm but encourages me to fight the urges. There are times when she only has to look at me and know I am having a hard time, in those times, often I just get a hug and i'm told that I'm "a good boy" I love when She says that. It means the world to me when I know She is encouraging and truly wants me to keep fighting the urges. I am a lucky man to be able to enjoy this lifestyle with Her support.
I’m not around to talk about being in chastity just to talk about it. It must be for an actual reason. It can get overwhelming to your KH if it is constant. I’m not aloud to ask to be unlocked without reasons like hygiene or actual soreness or something similar. I am aloud to comment her like call her sexy or beautiful. I’m aloud to massage her whenever I like. She said these things make her know how much I want her and that me asking to stick my penis in her is a disgusting approach and not wise.