Often the focus at CM can be on the sheer duration of a given period of chastity, and there is no doubt that achieving a new personal best (personal worst?) length of denial is always something to note. However, my own experience is that in terms of creating an intense experience between me and my KH, variation is much more interesting than sheer duration. So, for example, I recently spent a full month locked without being let out for even a moment, and I found that pretty intense, but it was followed by being let out for short periods a couple times over a two week period, with varying levels of play allowed during each extra-cageual excursion. I then had four days allowed out of the cage, or, as my KH calls it, locked in my "air cage" on the honor system. I actually find it worse to be in the air cage, since i need to spend energy restraining myself. Now i'm back behind my mature metal and i have no idea if it's for a day, a week or a month.
Another aspect of variation is how we play in and around chastity. I get daily maintenance beatings, and those can vary quite a lot in intensity, especially if i've screwed up or neglected a chore. But my KH has also implemented "hump days" on wednesday, where something different always happens, and i never know what, but i can expect it will be somewhat more intense than a typical maintenance session. This creates a lot of suspense and excitement. I also detect that my KH really enjoys springing surprises on me. I like it too.
A final point of significant variation is the degree of arousal and/or release that i am allowed. I've seen quite a few people on CM who say that they are never allowed orgasms any more. But to me, it seems more powerful and more affecting if the allowance of sexual satisfaction is unpredictable, but runs within a wide gamut, from zero to hero, as it were. For me, the very unpredictability increases both the frustration and the eventual satisfaction, as well as the drop after satisfaction when the whole chaotic wheel resets.
Do other people find that variable play is the most rewarding? Or perhaps are there aspects to consistency that i'm missing. interested to see how the community thinks about this dichotomy.
Another aspect of variation is how we play in and around chastity. I get daily maintenance beatings, and those can vary quite a lot in intensity, especially if i've screwed up or neglected a chore. But my KH has also implemented "hump days" on wednesday, where something different always happens, and i never know what, but i can expect it will be somewhat more intense than a typical maintenance session. This creates a lot of suspense and excitement. I also detect that my KH really enjoys springing surprises on me. I like it too.
A final point of significant variation is the degree of arousal and/or release that i am allowed. I've seen quite a few people on CM who say that they are never allowed orgasms any more. But to me, it seems more powerful and more affecting if the allowance of sexual satisfaction is unpredictable, but runs within a wide gamut, from zero to hero, as it were. For me, the very unpredictability increases both the frustration and the eventual satisfaction, as well as the drop after satisfaction when the whole chaotic wheel resets.
Do other people find that variable play is the most rewarding? Or perhaps are there aspects to consistency that i'm missing. interested to see how the community thinks about this dichotomy.
