An interesting theory: it must be possible to condition a situation whereby you don’t climax through intercourse.
My experience is sadly the opposite. As soon as I have enjoyable playtime with my wife I’m ready to burst. Sex is so frustrating and unenjoyable for her that she rarely allows it these days. Just once in the last 6 months.
We still have a very active and enjoyable sex life, but this activity doesn’t really fit into that.
However, I agree that the conditioning must be possible as it has happened to me in a different way. Our most recent play date involved her blindfolding me and allowing self-pleasure. As much for her enjoyment as my own. I played for a very long time. I relaxed and thought sexy thoughts. I struggled to get anywhere close to the point of no return.
It feels that years of being told not to play alone and how my orgasms are damaging to our relationship have changed me. I am conditioned not to enjoy this moment. My mind wouldn’t allow my body to respond in the same way.
As soon as she placed her hands on it herself, in the gentlest of manners, that feeling dissipated and I was struggling to contain myself again.
We haven’t gone down the same route yet
I’m sure it’s possible.