What about stamina

After 11 weeks of denial I hardly have any stamina. When my wife tries to tease me, I'm ready to ejaculate fast. Since my wife doesn't want me to have orgasms outside the cage anymore, that stamina level will probably become nonexistent. I'm fine with this, or I'll have to be, since my wife is finally and seriously into the chastity and denial kink and loving the whole process.
 
It's highly variable and unpredictable with me. Sometimes after a long lock-up, I can tell I've gone over the edge before the first thrust is done. Other times, I can thrust away for as long as I want and no orgasm is going to happen. And most of the time it's somewhere in between. But either of the extremes is quite interesting, the realization sometimes I just can't cum is a real trip.
 
After 3+ years of 24/7 …. We’ve found that it’s now just controlled by her words… it would be true to say that at any time, if I decided I was not obedient to her, then I could probably come whenever I wanted.. but having truly given her the ownership, then I’m finding that I’m able to completely shut it down until she commands release …. At which point it takes seconds !!!!
 
An interesting theory: it must be possible to condition a situation whereby you don’t climax through intercourse.

My experience is sadly the opposite. As soon as I have enjoyable playtime with my wife I’m ready to burst. Sex is so frustrating and unenjoyable for her that she rarely allows it these days. Just once in the last 6 months.
We still have a very active and enjoyable sex life, but this activity doesn’t really fit into that.

However, I agree that the conditioning must be possible as it has happened to me in a different way. Our most recent play date involved her blindfolding me and allowing self-pleasure. As much for her enjoyment as my own. I played for a very long time. I relaxed and thought sexy thoughts. I struggled to get anywhere close to the point of no return.

It feels that years of being told not to play alone and how my orgasms are damaging to our relationship have changed me. I am conditioned not to enjoy this moment. My mind wouldn’t allow my body to respond in the same way.

As soon as she placed her hands on it herself, in the gentlest of manners, that feeling dissipated and I was struggling to contain myself again.

We haven’t gone down the same route yet
I’m sure it’s possible.
 
Back when we first started male chastity, my Wife (KH) would either have me cum as fast as I could or, tell me not to cum at all.
Sometimes she would tell me I have 15 second to orgasm and I would masturbate for her. Many times, I would cum within 10 seconds. After a long denial, it wouldn't take much.
Other times, she would tease me and tell me not to have a orgasm. She would edge me several times, but I couldn't have a orgasm. I have been locked back up many times with a errection.
Now, after more than two years orgasm free, I think a good stiff breeze would have me exploding...
 
It does not seem common to train the male to be a useful non-ejaculating self-moving dildo.
Just use numbing cream.

It’s not really that pleasant to have to restrict your own excitement anyway. Holding in an orgasm stops you enjoying the other aspects of the situation.

He might appreciate it.
 
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Just use numbing cream.

It’s not really that pleasant to have to restrict your own excitement anyway. Holding in an orgasm stops you enjoying the other aspects of the situation.

He might appreciate it.
We have done this, worked well. Sleeves do a great job as well.
But in both cases he may fell back in his old behaviour and just humpng me, without caring much about his self-discipline. I admit, I enjoyed it most times.
But to display my dominance, I want him to perform well but under my conditions. He shall feel all the good things but he shall not finish himself.
I think, I will support this with some edging sessions.
 
Most guys think their sexual stamina comes from having frequent orgasms, but that's just desensitisation.

True stamina means keeping going despite everything telling you that you can't.

As with all things; Perfect practice makes perfect implementation.

It's been a long time since I had an orgasm and whenever she unlocks me, which has been 3 months already, I have to focus every neuron on not orgasming. Sure, I have had some accidents in the past, and I am a long way of mastering it, but nor orgasming and lasting a long time when making love is very doable.
 
An interesting theory: it must be possible to condition a situation whereby you don’t climax through intercourse.

My experience is sadly the opposite. As soon as I have enjoyable playtime with my wife I’m ready to burst. Sex is so frustrating and unenjoyable for her that she rarely allows it these days. Just once in the last 6 months.
We still have a very active and enjoyable sex life, but this activity doesn’t really fit into that.

However, I agree that the conditioning must be possible as it has happened to me in a different way. Our most recent play date involved her blindfolding me and allowing self-pleasure. As much for her enjoyment as my own. I played for a very long time. I relaxed and thought sexy thoughts. I struggled to get anywhere close to the point of no return.

It feels that years of being told not to play alone and how my orgasms are damaging to our relationship have changed me. I am conditioned not to enjoy this moment. My mind wouldn’t allow my body to respond in the same way.

As soon as she placed her hands on it herself, in the gentlest of manners, that feeling dissipated and I was struggling to contain myself again.

We haven’t gone down the same route yet
I’m sure it’s possible.

Lucky for you
 
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My stamina has dropped for sure, however I am able to keep myself from accidents when having piv. It does require change of pace and even occasionally stopping and holding still, but it works for us. My Wife over the last decade really doesn’t enjoy “fucking”, she really prefers tightly pressed together, slower grinding together, especially with a bullet vibe pressed between us. So my having to change pace, angles and stopping occasionally is all fine.
Now when she gives me a handjob tease, I feel like I’m going to explode after just a couple minutes, but I’m usually allowed to have at least a ruin when she does this, and sometimes a full if she feels like it. So I think I’ve just trained myself mentally that piv is almost exclusively for her to cum and that’s helped me to keep some stamina for her to get hers still.
Huge changes from years ago when 45-60 mins of multiple positions and harder faster fucking was a more normal thing, but I honestly rarely miss sessions like that. And it’s nice that when my Wife wants to make me cum, she can make it happen as fast as she desires. Keeps me in my subby place and I love that!
 
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I should add, there have been times I’ve had to use 5% lidocaine on the glans, and we’ve used a couple different sleeves occasionally, especially earlier on in chastity life. But my Wife prefers the real thing
 
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After 3+ years of 24/7 …. We’ve found that it’s now just controlled by her words… it would be true to say that at any time, if I decided I was not obedient to her, then I could probably come whenever I wanted.. but having truly given her the ownership, then I’m finding that I’m able to completely shut it down until she commands release …. At which point it takes seconds !!!!
I can’t believe I’m absolutely fine after 11 weeks of denial in this last try (the first 4 seemed darn long), and now I’m likely looking at never releasing outside the cage again. Her choice. But I’m in my mid 50s and we have been playing with chastity off and on for a decade. She never called it a wife led marriage but it certainly is. She’s boss. It’s incredibly sexy and kinky to me for an attractive mature loving woman to do this. She told me felt bad depriving me though, but we’ve had such awesome kinky intimacy I told her I cannot disobey her. If she ends my orgasms it will be another chapter in our intimacy.
 
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I learned how not to finish for a long time. This is a psychological setting. First, a complete ban on jerking off your hands. Wear the cell constantly. Enjoy only from a rubber member in my anus.
Yes. My wife doesn’t not tolerate masturbation. She’d just yell in the beginning. Then she notched it up and punishment for me was both verbal and sleeping in the floor in the walk-in closet (my choice, or it would be grounding for something I really wanted to do). Not finishing is a mind thing for me provided my wife doesn’t go overboard teasing me. Even verbal teasing breaks the concentration. But after 11 weeks of denial there’s no way i could last long with PIV sex.
 
We have done this, worked well. Sleeves do a great job as well.
But in both cases he may fell back in his old behaviour and just humpng me, without caring much about his self-discipline. I admit, I enjoyed it most times.
But to display my dominance, I want him to perform well but under my conditions. He shall feel all the good things but he shall not finish himself.
I think, I will support this with some edging sessions.
Ever tried an electric shock collar? Maybe it coud controlled like the edge-o-matic.