What is important to you?

Chastity & Denial are important to me, because for years I was a compulsive masturbator and it literally controlled my life. Chastity has changed that, but I still watch porn while locked up because I since found that I love wanting to jerk off & cum and not being able to. I used to drink, smoke & inhale and it cost me a small fortune over the years, but not being able to jerk off & cum when I have an urge to, gives me an even bigger high than polluting myself with a substance. I've been clean & sober for 3 years and chastity & denial are making it easier for me to stay that way. :+1:
 
B. BDSM first
C. The device is a tool to enforce bondage of sadomasochism.
D. For me there's no denial without the device (or some other restraints)
M. Martinis are also important.
 
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Femdom - even without BDSM, I lean towards being in an FLR (female led relationship)
BDSM - I am kinky, though
Denial - my initial experience was quite heady
Chastity - device-wise, it seems to be an expensive hobby to get into before one starts progressing properly
 
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Very difficult to separate these out.
1) chastity
2) denial
3) femdom
4) bdsm

We did all back to front actually. Torture then her settling into control, choosing our sex life then finally we both found chastity together and it became the above list. Only if I abide by chastity, denial, femdom do I earn punishments which are considered a treat for me to be administered sparingly. I suppose there is some degree of femdom in chastity enforcement.
 
Femdom
BDSM
Chastity
Denial

Having said that this is all in my head only as my paertner has no interest at all. This is ll simply simulating my biggest sex organ.
Yes my brain I may be ancient but I am still turned on by these things
 
For a long time my answer would have been completely different, but as my wife is now really owning and imposing denial in a responsible manner I’d have to go fully just D.

It just makes everything else work out so much better.

The femdom is taken care of by her control of my orgasms (or lack of). The decision on what and when anything happens. She doesn’t deny herself. She doesn’t have to play act through the day. She wears some of her sexiest lingerie knowing it will make it all the harder for me.

The cage becomes irrelevant because I submit to her requests of ‘no masturbation’ when she decides it’s time for a period without it. She left me 4 days without my cage recently, that was a worse torture than if she had left it on. She had sex with me repeatedly without my orgasm.

The slightest BDSM we currently embark upon feels better than if she had whipped me repeatedly whilst calling me a sissy faggot.
My hands and legs tied down whilst she pleases herself by bringing about my ejaculation through minuscule caresses to my penis and ensuring I finish by just stroking my thighs. That tops anything, it’s pure cruel frustration… she knows it, she owns it, she laughs when I beg for her to go further, but it’s the denial that makes all that work.
 
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