There was a spirited discussion in the chat room recently regarding the concept of permanent chastity. As most people here know, that topic has been discussed and dissected in every way possible in the past few years. And yet, there are those who still get upset if your definition of permanent is different (usually less stringent) than theirs. It was therefore suggested that I explain my "permanent chastity" experience in the form of a thread. So, here goes.....
My wife and I stumbled upon chastity almost 8 years ago, while looking for ways to spice up our stagnant sex life. We'd been married for many years and were generally very happy, but sex was near non-existent. One of the reasons was my ED, which didnt respond well to Viagra or similar medications. We came across chastity online and thought "Why not?" If nothing else it takes the ED issue off the table.
As it turned out, we both really enjoyed it! We became much more intimate, much more often. She took on a bit of "domme" persona at times, and I was able to express my latent fantasies about feminization. But only in private-to the outside we are perfectly normal 65 year old retired grandparents. FYI-I wear panties routinely and fully dress up on occasion,(and in private) with makeup, wigs, clothes, shoes, etc. We both get a kick out of it. We even went to a costume party a couple of years ago dressed as lesbian lovers., which was very popular with the (very vanilla) crowd.
About 1 year into our chastity journey, my wife actually brought up the idea of being "permanent". We realized that we have not had traditional PIV sex in that entire year, and that neither of us missed it. In fact, we were both happier than we'd ever been with sex. She then made it clear that she was not interested in PIV any longer, so I could be locked all the time if I wanted. We decided to do that, and even came up with a little ceremony for the locking of my cage for the last time. The ceremony was fun and sexy. Some of you have seen photos.
Now I fully realized that being locked permanently did NOT mean I'd never remove the cage. I'm in an Evotion Bijou, anchored to a Frenum piercing. It's about as inescapable as you can get. But it can retain an odor. After a week, it's quite noticeable. So, every Friday morning she unlocks me and I clean the cage thoroughly. I also inspect everything down there. I then put the cage back on and she takes the key. Altogether, it takes about ten minutes. Also, about a year ago I had a medical procedure which involved that area, for which I removed the cage.
Based on all that, I consider myself locked in permanent chastity and my wife agrees. I don't even know what she does with the key most of the time. Someone in the chat room here(who I won't name) strongly disagreed. This person gave off a "holier than thou" attitude, and described me as a poseur. Well, maybe I am, but I'm also locked in chastity permanently, or at least until one of us (my wife or I) leaves this planet. Please, guys, take it easy on each other in here. It's all about having fun on an adult level. Heaven knows we have few enough chances to have fun in this world currently. Ok, I'm done. Sorry if this rambled on a bit.
My wife and I stumbled upon chastity almost 8 years ago, while looking for ways to spice up our stagnant sex life. We'd been married for many years and were generally very happy, but sex was near non-existent. One of the reasons was my ED, which didnt respond well to Viagra or similar medications. We came across chastity online and thought "Why not?" If nothing else it takes the ED issue off the table.
As it turned out, we both really enjoyed it! We became much more intimate, much more often. She took on a bit of "domme" persona at times, and I was able to express my latent fantasies about feminization. But only in private-to the outside we are perfectly normal 65 year old retired grandparents. FYI-I wear panties routinely and fully dress up on occasion,(and in private) with makeup, wigs, clothes, shoes, etc. We both get a kick out of it. We even went to a costume party a couple of years ago dressed as lesbian lovers., which was very popular with the (very vanilla) crowd.
About 1 year into our chastity journey, my wife actually brought up the idea of being "permanent". We realized that we have not had traditional PIV sex in that entire year, and that neither of us missed it. In fact, we were both happier than we'd ever been with sex. She then made it clear that she was not interested in PIV any longer, so I could be locked all the time if I wanted. We decided to do that, and even came up with a little ceremony for the locking of my cage for the last time. The ceremony was fun and sexy. Some of you have seen photos.
Now I fully realized that being locked permanently did NOT mean I'd never remove the cage. I'm in an Evotion Bijou, anchored to a Frenum piercing. It's about as inescapable as you can get. But it can retain an odor. After a week, it's quite noticeable. So, every Friday morning she unlocks me and I clean the cage thoroughly. I also inspect everything down there. I then put the cage back on and she takes the key. Altogether, it takes about ten minutes. Also, about a year ago I had a medical procedure which involved that area, for which I removed the cage.
Based on all that, I consider myself locked in permanent chastity and my wife agrees. I don't even know what she does with the key most of the time. Someone in the chat room here(who I won't name) strongly disagreed. This person gave off a "holier than thou" attitude, and described me as a poseur. Well, maybe I am, but I'm also locked in chastity permanently, or at least until one of us (my wife or I) leaves this planet. Please, guys, take it easy on each other in here. It's all about having fun on an adult level. Heaven knows we have few enough chances to have fun in this world currently. Ok, I'm done. Sorry if this rambled on a bit.
