I think a lot has to do with your age and testosterone levels. Also how much you're being teased. For me I start to feel the effects on day four, but the heightened level of excitement doesn't kick in for about two weeks.
Miss loves to play and tease, and this brings things to a 'head' sooner.
A fur glove fondling the balls, slowly dragging an ostrich plumb up and down the legs, or one of our favorites is a slave kneeling, widely spread, trying to get a look up her skirt while she uses her foot in slippery stockings to play with the family jewels. This while she reads or watches TV. A towel is needed to catch the drippings....
I've learned to love the frustration. The sexual excitement, while less, is longer and more pleasant that a mere quick cum.
FN