Feeling Needy in Chastity

You need to be more affectionate towards her, the more you give her the more she will give you back....you reap what you sow.

 

Can you pleasure her more sexually?

 

well I do things for wifey not only to pleasure her, but in hope for a release and orgasm....which I very rarely get, but that's what chastity is all about, the female ownership and denial of the male penis.

 

Sounds like you need to talk about your feelings to her.

 

just remember to go slow. When she gets comfortable with it look out, you may be in for more that you imagined :spank:

 

I think "SLOW" is the key here.....

You say that You text her all day. You pamper her in every way. No doubt she gets the feeling that you do it to get "something" in return. Don't blame for for thinking that what you want is what You used to expect in return. It is very odd for a female to grasp that everything has turned up side down. You can tell her over and over, but I doubt she will believe You. It will take time for her to understand the inherent powers and advantages for her in this lifestyle....
If You manage to stay cool and perhaps slow down a bit on the attention You are giving her right now - I think things will come Your way...
You can always turn on the service and pampering when she is at a state when she is expecting nothing less from You!

Best regards
BlueEyes

 

If That is what You Call "Slow down", I can't imagine what it will be like when You speed up...
Remember - in order to succeed you have to give in to her pace, her needs, even when they are for You to NOT pamper her, but to leave her alone.... Don't throw Your cock in her face, my friend!

If I had started out doing things in the pace You are at, I am certain we would have failed....
Things will come Your way, and perhaps over time You will find that the reward itself is not only her attention to your "struggle", it is the very fact that You can witness her blossom and transform into a powerful lady.....

It is'nt easy - I know....

Ups- Just read Your latest comment - Good!! Enjoy Your cooking!

 

One more thing....
After 3 weeks of denial You most likely will feel that the urge for attention and stimulation will decrease. That is what I describe as entering "The bubble of submissiveness". I can tell You, - it is nirvana... ;-)

 

BlueEyes is right.

And that Submissiveness will grow...Until or If your allowed to Orgasm then you will need to start all over again.lol

 

All the advice from the great people on here just trying to help and then this last post by you. You haven't heard a word they have said.
Anybody can see that this is still all about you and your little head. You locked up your junk which is making you horny and your motivation is the challenge of when she will get you off. And suddenly you are nice to her and are adorning her with attention in hopes that she will get you off as a reward. This does nothing but put pressure on her. She may feel that your intentions aren't real and she is just there to satisfy your new kink.

If you are truly in this for your relationship, take sex off the table for a while and get to know her again like when you first met her. Strengthen the relationship sex free. Give her time to absorb things. Let her go at her own pace and come to you. No matter how frustrated you get, don't let it show or bring it up.

I see this all the time and until you put her needs ahead of yours genuinely, your chastity life will be a rocky road and could end before the both of you ever truly get to enjoy the benefits.

 

@jameslarkin, I applaud your honesty. Most men never admit that when sexual interest wains in a relationship, in many cases masturbation is the culpret. Those of us who have been married for awhile, can all cite how the interest can peak, and valley. That was the case with dickie....first masturbation, then infidelity, and I was as much of the problem as he was. Boys have their hands, girls do to, as well as great toys. At least in our case, all has turned out just find, as we both now have what we probably should have started 25 years ago. dickie has become the true submissive he always cried out for, and I have now had the chance to broaden my horizons as well. Things can eventually turn out for the best!

 

Now you're catching on. With us chastity came first, and then I started going out. For quite awhile I did nothing sexually, except with my toys. But when ever i was out on a date, I knew it was driving him crazy. At first he always asked a million questions, and i eventually got tired of that. I remember the first time I placed my dates number on the phone and said to dickie "why don't you ask him ow things went?" dickie never was able to call my dates. And while nothing serious took place for awhile, mentally I had dickie right where I wanted. The "fear of the unknown"! Later, when he was allowed to "date' but rarely did, I would give him all the details to the point he would stop asking, but could tell from the scent or dampness when I returned home. Those would be the times I would slip the chastity back on for a few days. So much of being dominant with dickie was the mental aspect, not the pure physical acts.