My journey began a while ago. I posted this in the Foyer almost a month ago. I am nearly sixty and married long term. Last year I had prostate problems which required surgery to repair. I had a Transurethral Resection of the Prostate (TURP) or some would call it a Roto-Rooter. After surgery all seemed well except for the retrograde ejaculation which they said I would have for life. Instead of squirting semen externally it squirts into my bladder and comes out later when I pee. I checked the urine samples and the semen was visible on the bottom. It felt like tickling for a second or so. After a few times, I couldn't really be sure it even happened. No semen visible in the urine sample when I checked. I concluded my body is making very little semen. Not even enough for a little weekly fun. Due to an article I ran across, I am now taking Horney Goat weed, Pygeum, and Lecithin to increase semen production and horniness. Now to chastity. I have lurked on other sites for years fantasizing about FLR and chastity. My wife has never been interested. Too vanilla. It is now time for some new life adventures. Chastity it is. I bought the device and my wife is aware, but not supportive. I hope to convince her it is a good idea. Her usual complaints are I don't pay attention to her and it is always about me. Now I just have to convince her chastity can fix that! My first device was a Bon4MPlus. My avatar shows it. What a waste! Device too large or way too large. Back rings too large or too small. Did I mention the square corners and too few choices for spacing? Round or round and solid or split? I really had to polish it a lot! Did I mention the custom declarations form said "BON4M Device?" I sure got a funny look from my lady mail carrier when she handed it over. I do believe she knew what it said and what it was. I quickly decided on a Mature Metal Jailbird. I followed Pansy Tarts sizing instructions thread. Bad move! I ordered and very impatiently waited. Then I started ordering additional back rings to add to my order. Mistress Mature Metal (M MM) quickly contacted me about the likely sizing error in my orders. We quickly worked out the correct cage dimension. At the last moment, I arbitrarily changed the cage length to a shorter size! Who would ever think the experts would have a clue? So I have a much better cage and a pile of back rings to choose from. The back ring size from M MM's sizing method seems best. The cage diameter is correct. The length works, but might be improved, or not, by purchasing the size determined by M MM's sizing instructions. I have chosen back rings with 3/8" and 1/2" spacing. Right now, 1/2" seems best. Later I'm sure my body will adjust and 3/8" will be fine. I also want to try smaller back rings which will likely work better after my body adjusts. However, the cage size and back ring size identified with M MM's method and sizing rings works very well! I am working on my first week of wear. I even wore it to work my last day last week. Right now, I intend to wear it to work next week to complete my first week of wear. Well Mistress Mature Metal was right! It fits! I was wearing the BON4M small nights and weekends, but not at work. I quit when I felt the Jailbird was likely to arrive soon. My Jailbird from Mature Metal arrived Tuesday of last week and I realized it was here midday on Wednesday. So on it went! I have the keys and I have been trying various rings and punishment pins. I came up with sizes of 1.25 diameter and 2" in length with a 1 3/4" back ring. I arbitrarily decided to go with 1.75" length and the device fits. I ordered all nine punishment pins and single back rings from 1 1/2" to 1 7/8" and a double back ring in 1 3/4" So I am now coming up on a week and here are my experiences so far: I wore it to work last Thursday and I ended up working a 14 hour day. I wore it to work today, too. I wear cargo pocket trousers to work. No bulge at all. I have switched to David Archy pouch underwear to support the weight and keep my leg hair from scratching my scrotum. What I found was to start out, I was very aware it was there and this interfered with my sleep. I like to hang free and I felt the weight of it hanging. I kept waking up and checking that all looked normal. Yesterday, day four of full time wear, it felt normal much of the day with no need to adjust its position by tugging on the scrotum. Last night I slept very well and awakened just before my alarm clock would have gone off. It felt normal most of today at work with no need to readjust its position all day. When I walk around hanging free now, I don't fell any weight, I just feel normal. I think my body may have adjusted to it. When my work week is over, I will try to switch in the next smaller back ring for the whole weekend. If all goes well, I will wear it to work next week. I did have some malfunctions with the punishment pins. I have learned to wait and put them in after the size adjusts to the cage. I have two nice sores where I stuffed my member in and then pinned and locked it. The sores are not under the punishment pin hole. I am wearing a punishment pin while they heal. I'm sure glad I have a tube of antibiotic cream! So when you are new to this, buy the sizing rings from Mature metal to decide which cage size and back ring size are needed. To determine the back ring size, you will be wearing the ring for one or more days. Preferably several days. To determine length and girth will require shrunken, but not microscopic shrinkage, to measure length and girth. Mistress Mature Metal is very easy to work with. I posted this a few days later: I have completed my first week in chastity. I did not wait for the weekend to try a smaller back ring. I got impatient. I tried it Tuesday night, but I woke up about 2 AM and I could not go back to sleep until I removed the 1 5/8" ring and put the 1 3/4" ring back on. I tried it again on Wednesday night with the dame results. So I tried again on Thursday night, the start of my three day weekend, and I kept it on even though I could not get back to sleep. I will wear the 1 5/8" ring all weekend and see if I can adjust to it and get a normal nights sleep. My parts seem to be adjusting to this back ring just like they did to the original ring and the cage. At first I had protrusions and then it settled in and fit nicely! My cage wants to twist. I have read that indicates it is too big. Is that true? I can go down another ring size if my parts fully adjust again. And this: After sleeping with the 1 5/8" ring I downsized again to the 1 1/2" ring on Friday morning. I can fit one finger into the 1 5/8" back ring up to the first joint. I can't fit a finger into the 1 1/2" back ring. I woke up at 2 AM again and I couldn't go back to sleep. I changed back to the 1 5/8" back ring. Wow! It feels so roomy now! I suspect I will end up at the 1 1/2" back ring eventually, but it might take a while to adjust down that far. The 1 5/8" back ring got to othering me, so I went back to the 1 3/4" ring, the double ring version. I am nice and comfortable now. This 1 3/4" ring is what worked with the sizing rings from Mature Metal. Maybe I can go smaller when I really get used to wearing this Jailbird. Maybe I will try smaller when I reach the one month mark locked up. I sure think the ticker is cool. I don't have to remember dates or do the math. I am really liking my Jailbird from Mature Metal. So now for an update: I have a doctor's appointment today, so I have removed the device today. Otherwise, I have worn it full time for nearly a month. I am going to try the smaller back ring again, but every time I have tried i have reverted to the back ring size identified with the Mature Metal sizing rings. I have learned a little lube is needed on the scrotum for the back ring after I exit the shower and dry off. I am still trying to decide if I prefer the single back ring or the double back ring. I'm just not sure yet! I am pretty sure that I will order another device. I am happy with my Mature Metal Jailbird, but I wonder if I would be happier still with the size identified with Mistress Mature Metal's sizing instructions before I arbitrarily decided to have it made 1/4" shorter. As it is, it is a dream to wear! If I add that 1/4" I can have another ring added. I can also get padlocks as well as security screws I believe! Who knows? I have also experienced my first morning wood in the cage. What a neat feeling! No growth allowed in the cage, but firm as a rock behind it. Peeing did make it go down. No ejaculations for about six weeks or so. Soon I should know if the Horney Goat weed, Pygeum, and Lecithin are working to increase semen production and horniness. I sure know the horniness is increasing, but is it the Horney Goat weed or the lack of activity? I tried a little vibrator play with a rabbit with my wife while locked. She told me, "This isn't working for me!" She wants regular intercourse. So I will probably have an answer to my question in the next week or two. Many people complain about constant precum leakage, but with retrograde ejaculations I will never know if I am leaking or not. When I was much younger, I would have wet dreams about every three weeks if I did not masturbate. I have not had any wet dreams. The adventure continues and I hope to convert the wife to a vanilla FLR with chastity.
I forgot to add this part, I tried the largest ring I have with the 3/8" spacing and it quickly became unwearable. Only the 1/2" spacing seems to work for me.
I got out for a little fun and frolic last night. PIV was the intent, but I didn't last long enough. About 30 seconds, maybe! A month locked and weeks before that so almost two months since the last ejaculation. It sure felt good. Since the TURP surgery I have doubted I was capable of really enjoying one, but I sure did. I checked the urine for evidence and there was a lot there, which is a big change from last time when none was detected. Was it two months or was it Pygeum and Lecithin. I don't know, but I am restocking and relocking! My wife wants to try for the PIV again tonight.
A little fun and frolic last night. Pleasant PIV with a little evidence in the jar afterward. Not a lot, but enough to be fun. Mistress Mature Metal explained the gap is the gap at the bottom, so I did some measuring. My double back ring is 3/8" spacing. It works. The 1 7/8" back ring is also 3/8" and doesn't work quite so well. Other back rings are either 3/9" or 1/2", all just as I ordered. I'm starting to learn a little about this stuff, finally! I bent the 1 5/8" back ring to increase the gap to 0.6" spacing. I have been wearing it since last night. Much better. I am beginning to suspect how likely they are to slide down is the issue. More contact and less free space seems to be better. I suspect I will be gravitating toward double and triple back rings in the future.
Changed my avatar. Posted photos in gallery. Ordered another Jailbird from Mature Metal sized to the length and sizes measured per the Mature Metal instructions rather than the length I ordered first when I arbitrarily subtracted 1/4" from the length. I also ordered the extra ring in the cage and triple back rings with 9/16" spacing at the measured size and 1/16" smaller. Now I will have two really nice cages and no reason to be unlocked for any significant length of time. Whoopee!
Well, I have changed my mind again. I adjusted one of my existing rings to increase the gap to 9/16" and I had a nut pop through. Very interesting feeling. Just imagine the other one following and the cage landing on the floor at work with a loud clanging noise. I don't think that would end well. I tried the 1 3/4" ring with the 3/8" gap and it worked well, even better, possibly, than the 1/2" gap. So I contacted Mistress Mature Metal and had the gap on both triple rings changed to 3/8". When I did the sizing ring measuring, a 1 3/4" ring worked and a 1 5/8" ring almost worked. I suspect a 1 11/16" ring will be great. So I now have single, double, and triple rings coming in 1 11/16" and a triple ring in 1 3/4". Also punishment pins which are sized to be between the short and medium punishment pins I already have. I am told the pins are made to fit the individual cage and the old pins might not fit the new cage and vice versa. The new cage will be 2" with an extra ring built in. I suspect it will be here soon. I will post photos of all the goodies together and the goodies in use. I'm sure glad I contacted Mistress Mature Metal before the triple back rings had been drilled to fit the cage! That would have been an expensive error. Mature Metal is awesome to work with!
My new cage arrived with two triple back rings. I tried it on and then I put it away and took a break from chastity. Now I am on vacation and I have been playing with it at home. Triple rings are so different from single and double rings. I posted a bunch of new photos and some descriptions in my photo album. Please read and comment.
My body has adjusted to wearing a cage. I posted some new photos taken after more than a week in my smaller back ring. Do check out the photos. I found I can now wear my smaller ring. A few months ago I was not able to. Now I can. Eleven days straight so far and only out twice for play with the wife. I even went to see the Dr caged. No one checked. Now that I have managed to fit inside a smaller back ring I am wanting a much shorter cage. Definitely another Jail Bird from Mature Metal! One inch? One and a quarter inch? For cages that short punishment pins are not an option. Ideas? Suggestions?