Do women like this stuff?

I’ve spoke with Mistress about this. I was worried she was merely “role playing” to satisfy me. She said at first it was, but then she really began to enjoy the selfish aspects of it. Now, my Mistress genuinely enjoys the dynamics. She uses me for her pleasure and in return, I get tortured and controlled (which we both love).

 

Yes, of course. We live in a huge and varied universe and it is odd to think women all share the same sexual likes and dislikes.

My GF loves it.

I calculated the odds of finding a woman, the original kind that don't have penises, on a male chastity web site, that doesn't like male chastity, and it quickly approached zero. But I would love to be wrong.

 

Yes they do! Chastity was actually my Madams idea! She discovered it watching femdom and fetish porn on line! We are both in to pain share a whole host of fetishes, latex/shoes/bondage/and many more.
There were several fetishes I had that she would indulge me in, then try it her self and found they really turned her on to!

 

There definitely are women who enjoy it, but I don't think she actually needs an answer. It sounds like she was communicating that she isn't interested in it.

 

My wife has grown to love it after some initial hesitation. So yes some women like it. I tend to agree she's trying to tell you it's not for her though.

 

Yep, my mistress loves it, wouldn't have it any other way. She had a spontaneous orgasm kissing me and feeling the cage a couple of weeks ago, it was a game changer. It takes time and willingness though. She loved the idea from the start of us both discovering it though.

 

To be totally honest, if my partner wanted to be denied penile stimulation longer than I wanted, it might be fun for a couple weeks but in the long term, no. Absolutely not, in fact. I want his dick and I want him to use it on me.

Source: gay.

 

My Queen was a little hesitant at first, but once we tried it she was all in.

 

My wife loves BDSM. Yes, there are some things she does because she knows they make me happy. But the majority of what she does is for her pleasure. She especially likes doing a few things to me that I really don’t care for because she enjoys my discomfort. As for chastity, she does it exactly the what she wants to and has no intention of denying herself the pleasure of playing with me out the device at her whim and putting me back in as soon as she is done.

 

"The Reflexology Handbook by Laura Norman"

 

My better half likes some of "this stuff", but definitely not all of the stuff.

In the past we experimented quite a bit with BDSM things, some she wasn't into, I'm into most things

We landed on chastity and female led as our two main kinks. These seem to be a really a good fit for her personality. She's always enjoyed being a tease and she really likes me doing as I'm told (she's used to being in charge in her career). She's a member of this site, but not curious about what other people do, can't remember the last time she logged in. Mainly she wants house work and foot massage.

Maybe suggest things that might fit into who she is already. To generalise I'd think housework and massage are pretty appealing to most women. The twinkle in the eye sounds promising.

 

I have the same experience with my wife. Her libido is so low, that she could easily go a whole year without sex. She doesnt even mastubrate… We are having sex because she thinks its her duty to do so….but its rare.
Then I introduced her a male chastity….it took me 2 years just to convince her to read some guide. Well things are getting better lately, she doesnt like cages at all, she never touched a cage, but she is starting to enjoy being a keyholder. She likes the effect on my mood due to a lack of masturbation, but there is no tease&denial, and she still gives me the key once a week, because she thinks thats her duty.
But yeah, she was even more vanilla at the start. She wear sexy clothes rarely, since they are “unconfortable”.
Its hard when there is almost no libido…but i cant even blame her - PCOS is probably the reason.

 

Interesting answer to that question on a recent small sex survey based on a podcast about sex from that Podcasts female respondents.

Over 70 percent answered “ I have none.”

when asked later in the survey if there was anything regarding sex they were curious to try over 75 percent said “yes”.

So is asking about sexual fantasies, a loaded question, where asking about curiosity is not?

 

While my husband was the one to bring up the subject, I do enjoy and benefit from him being caged. It greatly depends on the person and what they enjoy. I enjoy experimenting with what I enjoy, but we both communicate when we don't enjoy something, or don't get the pleasure that we expected.

 

We're here for a long weekend, it's not a reheasal yaddi ya. It takes very little effort to keyhold and receive pussy or foot worship... or whatever the preference is. In any case your wife should be meeting you halfway. I have had huge upheaval getting away from people like this but it has been worth it.

 

That's me. I'm was assigned female at birth and I LOVE sharing chastity with someone I'm bonded to. Finding someone available or that doesn't view it as an 'online game' has been my biggest issue.

 

You do realize some get off on being ignored ice princess thing, not me but some do. You're way of doing this isn't the only one. That's why you get the upheaval you speak of. It's all very if you aren't doing x,y, or z it's not worth it. Try respecting that I think problem will solve itself.

 

I can assure you that some women really do like BDSM including chastity. I have met and talked to several women who really enjoy kink. It took my wife some time to get into it but then she really enjoyed putting on sexy and kinky outfits.
A girlfriend would very happily cane me whenever I met her.
Another lady I know is absolutely dedicated to keeping her man in chastity.
I dated another lady who was a Mistress but enjoyed kink so much that she wanted to play when she wasn't actually working.
You only have to read some of the posts on here from women to be sure they enjoy it.

 

Much about wearing a chastity cage is from the male perspective. The thoughts, the feelings, the curiosity of what something would be like. Case in point…erections and orgasms.

I will generalize here and say that most boys and then men, will get hard and cum, whenever they feel like, and I know I was a one to two per day person. I touched it whenever I felt like, loved the feeling of being hard, and of course the thrill of an orgasm. Then once I saw a cage, and it prevented erecections, touching and orgasms, I went “omg I wonder how that would feel not being able to do that?!”

I had never went a day that I could remember without an orgasm since I knew how to get them. I wondered how it would feel to be unable to get hard, I wondered how desperate and excited I would build up to. Would it be like a constant fore play high?

All this ran through my mind the instant I saw a cage. My girlfriend (wife now) just said “won’t that hurt?” “Why? Couldn’t you just stop touching yourself or stop getting excited and hard?” And “do you have like a self hate thing about yourself?”

I myself directly went towards a curiosity, an unending foreplay session, and she went in a direction that very much showed she had no idea what it is like having a penis.

Does she enjoy being my keyholder, prefers me locked, and completely demands that we will not be departing from this lifestyle? Yes. Did she have a clue why I was curious about it, what it feels like, and what it would do for me? No.

If I would not have brought it up, she would never have heard of it, and was more of a submissive in the bedroom department, mostly because she had thought that is how women were supposed to please men. Sometimes people need to be shown something different, and know their choices.

 

I must admit, I do like this stuff.
We are into male chastity for a year now. Have been complete newbees then. I still consider that we are playing (or living meanwhile?) it relatively mild but consistantly.
Our previous sex live was right but since we are focussing on my orgasms but his submissive needs, too, it feels right for both of us.

 

I’m not even a woman and so don’t really qualify to answer this question, regardless I’m just going to waffle on about my wife.

I can agree with that. My wife would never have been interested in chastity if I hadn’t pursued it (almost relentlessly). It was only when I was fully off-board with the cage and completely relaxed about living in freedom than my wife truly got the choice… she chose the cage and everything that comes with it.
Does she enjoy it? That’s hard to tell. What actual enjoyment does a woman get from the day-to-day of their man wearing a cage? It just becomes normality.

On the sexual side of things. That’s a mix. There’s pros and cons to denying orgasms and restricting your sex life. What she does love is how easily she can bring me to the edge.
Pre-chastity she gave nice handjobs, incredible blowjobs and enjoyed playing with my cock. My wife loves cock! (What a contradiction to then keep it contained more often than not.)
These days, she loves my cock even more so due to how easily it can give me pleasure. No more worrying about technique or putting in lots of effort, every act brings an overwhelming level of pleasure to me… and that is the reason she is playing with it after all.

Obviousy, that comes with a price. Being borderline premature every time isn’t great for her own satisfaction. It is a nice little element of the lifestyle that she likes to tease me over, so there is fun in that to her.
What has happened however, is a resignation to the fact that this is how it has to be if she wants everything else from the cage life. I think moreover when I discuss what she gets from it these days, I’d say she likes to see me being more productive and content. She doesn’t care much for me doing chores etc. I still do them all and she appreciates that, but she really considers how it has changed me in general, commenting “would you have worked out today if I’d let you free or would you have wasted the day watching porn?”. Comments like that indicate that the cage is still a lot for me, even if it was her choice. The choice being to prevent me from orgasm and masturbation.
So with this resignation there has come an acceptance to an act that she previously considered ‘kinky’. Using Emla cream during sex is no longer to reduce my satisfaction and feed into my fantasies, it’s an aid to ensure we have substantial sessions of ‘love-making’. To enhance her experience and give a real opportunity to feel that special level of intimacy. It just normalised in her head over time.
The frequency of our sex has reduced completely. She is currently restricting that to once a month. Restricting me. I actually feel she’s very comfortable with that time scale. It’s different this way than it was… sex has become something we both look forward to now that we don’t do it so often. We don’t look for extra elements to make it exciting. Just the feel of each other and the closeness is enough. I’d say she enjoys it far more now that we wait.

Now, that pretty sums up the main elements of our sex life except one..

Pegging. She fucking loves that! I can’t explain it and she certainly won’t ever give me the details, but it was always as much her idea as it was mine. She instigated the purchase of our first strapon barely a month into our relationship and I’m still yet to see her as aroused as the first time she wore it. I’m talking dripping from her vagina onto the bed excited, which would be normal for some women… it is not for my wife!

So I guess that’s my waffle over. Do women enjoy all this stuff? Some of it, yeah.

 

with one exception, all of my closest intimates enjoyed this.

 

I guess I’m just lucky but yes she loves it. She likes keeping me in chastity, spanking, pegging, oral and everything else that goes with it. We’re not into feminization which for us is good. She still wants to walk around outside of the home with a hunk holding her hand. But the alpha male gets left at the front door when we walk through it lol.