Half year or just halfway through?

I Think full year is Good for you and him

 

That post definitely brings back some memories

 

I'm the one who vote the first answer: he need a reward for his long path.

 

Dont waste all the effort you have put in, go the full year.

 

He asked you to control his orgasms. You are having a blast doing so. So why should you ruin a good thing by starting all over?
You might as well be honest with him and tell him the truth, your nowhere near ready to reset his mood by allowing a few seconds of bliss followed by days of regret.

 

Ask him if he wants to ruin his record. You may can give him some special fantasy treat that is short of full orgasm that he may enjoy more.

 

I went for your birthday. It's a special day, after all.

 

My guess is that every single guy who's ever done a week in chastity has fantasized about a strong mistress who would take him and tease him and cage him for a year. Can you imagine how excited and fired up you'll both be on Dec 31, 2018?

 

It seems to me like you've established a new normal. You're both enjoying it so why change anything? Maybe even keep toying around with these so-called "release dates," though, just to keep him guessing. I voted for "Does He really need a full orgasm, anyway." I think you guys have probably already figured out the answer to that question.

 

Hello
I explain my vote for 1 year
now it may be too early
for your Bday, it's yours is for your pleasure
for his B.day, I suggest a present as a smaller cage, he will sleep better
for new year, it's good because it's the party to all.
from here, you can still change your mind and wait for Easter (it's the party where we play with eggs)
We men, we like to be surprised by the ladies

respectfully

 

What I love about being caged and denied. Is that I get to feel horny just like a teenager always ready to go at any time. One orgasm in the heat of the moment takes that feeling away.
I still say you just evaluate your relationship, if he is still loving it as much as you are. Then continue on the euphoric high. If it seems everyone has peaked and coming down, maybe it is time for a reminder of what used to be.
Then of course. Start the journey all over as the lock goes shut.

 

I like your idea of asking others when he should be allowed to cum. The thing is none of us know the dynamics of your relationship but you. I agree with @Queensbitch about you evaluate your relationship, if he’s still loving it than continue. Some of us may need an orgasm every few months to keep us motivated or maybe once a year. Every relationship is different. Even though we all appreciate you asking our opinion it all depends on you and how your relationship is @margarett. Speaking from my own personal experience cumming to often isn’t always what we need. To be teased and wet all the time is better is a great way to serve. Good Luck and enjoy the experience.

 

There is perhaps no limit to things that women have and will say to keep their partners locked and denied if that is what they want to do. The negative ways.. stop whinging or else, I am in charge so i choose etc may work based on personalities and especially if your relationship dynamic is predisposed towards controlling and sometimes even aggressive behaviour by you.
But you can catch more flies with honey than you will vinegar.

Positive re-enforcement with encouragement and even gratitude can convince some guys to go another month . week day whatever.
I 'm sure there are lots of women on here that can offer you advice on those approaches probably better as a pm, though.. some of he guys on here have not yet figured out all this stuff happens to them regularly.

 

Excellent point, filltee! I guess I enjoy Margarett's contributions to CM so much because she seems to me to be a very positive person. She seems to really appreciate her partner and locks him with lots of love sprinkled on top. At least that's what I gather. My wife is a very loving domme as well and I'm very happy to be locked for her for as long as she wants.

 

I agree with this.

It appears you are well aware of the effects from positive interactions with your boyfriend and you two seem to share light-hearted fun within your kink. In My opinion, this is crucial for limits to be pushed in a pleasant way for you both!

I agree with some other advice here as well; if you are both enjoying it, dangling that carrot further down the line will likely benefit you both. I didn't vote here but My advice is to enjoy your time and relish in the tease together for as long as you deem fit.

(An aside, we are all quite different... But giving My pet an orgasm on My birthday would be the last 'gift' I'd want! Subdrop on My birthday? Nooo thanks. )

 

@margarett well miss also let CM decide on my fate a year ago. I got the 1 year sentence

 

I look forward to new challenges to serve my Bride, so I voted for a full year. But it is ultimately what will be best for the two of you. Please do let us know how you decide and why.

 

As he is there serving you I voted for your special day in October but frankly a group of strangers are not the best to decide this. Your are experienced enough to gauge how he is dealing with being locked up and denied to ensure the possible aspects are still out weighing any negative reasons to allow his release. Enjoy the game being aware release will have some benefits as well as denial for you both.

 

Why not just keep him in suspense? You'll know when Your ready, he's always ready. Maybe tomorrow, maybe on New Year's Eve. i never know when i'm going to be released and rewarded and it drives me crazy and I love it.

 

Yep just go on any fetlife forums or emlalock public always go towards the maximum.
It’s primarily about the relationship and what both parties consent to and negotiate. If the KH has been giving freedom of control, like any leadership role it’s how you conduct yourself and what power bases you use. Coercion can be used to start with but loyalty will maintain things long lasting! Your authority, knowledge, integrity will play a role in keeping him motivated and happy.

 

I went for June. If his previous record was 3 months it seems fitting to let him have a release at double his previous limit. That being said any answer that works for you is good. In regards to your question above this is one of the things I wish my KH would do.

When playing sexually with me announce that it's my lucky day and that I'll be allowed an orgasm through masturbation. Then very playfully while stroking me say if you'd be willing to wait another month I'll give you a blowjob. Really sell how much better the blowjob would be. Then as she convinces me this is a good idea she tells me that if I really want to wait another month I need to beg her to lock me up and deny me. It would be a real mind ***k to have to beg to give up your orgasm.

 

The longest I have gone was 8 months. Honestly, when I was finally able to have an orgasm, I wished I hadn't.

We're trying for permanent chastity, and I really think that for keyholders who enjoy long term denial, you should deny him for as long as you want. Even permanently if you desire. We have found denial for me to be the most desirable state and I sincerely believe that it is very good for men. Men's access to and use of their penises should be strictly controlled and limited.

 

My 2 cents worth amounts to it being whatever you feel is right. Take your own idea, match it to the outcome of the poll, then make your own decision. I voted toward "Does He really need a full orgasm, anyway" simply because it's still your choice. I left myself to Ms K/H's will at one point. She grinned and I was locked for a full year. Now, she hands me the key at odd intervals and only demands it back after a day or so then I'm locked until she remembers that she has the key.