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Hi everyone!
My girlfriend and I have been into chastity for five years.
Currently i will have my next orgasm when I lose weight and smoke less. The rules are simple:
- I obviously always have to keep the chastity cage
-Always wear pantyhose under my trousers and a containment sheath 24/7
- for a few months i'm also, after a lot of training, plugged 24/7
Should we add something more?(no panties, no Bra)
There are specific rules which would lead me to allow myself to remove something that i have to wear but I'm not going to bore you.
When I smoke too much (i have a maximum limit of cigarettes) or break the rules, there are punishments:
-corner time for a maximum of 3 hours without breaks and without being able to move
- writing lines.
My girlfriend is not into spanking and we are looking for some alternative, more effective and imaginative punishment.
Also, I ask for advice because my girlfriend is into PIV and doesn't want to give it up; every time, however, after about a month i can no longer have sex without cumming and she gives me a ruined orgasm; i lose any desire to continue.
Do you think she should force me to drink the cum and then put the belt back on? Do you think she should give up having sex with me? Everything is going good in our couple, we are just looking for more severe punishments and advice on sex after so many weeks in chastity.
Sorry for my bad english.
Thank you in advance.
 
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Eating your cum is a training tool for her. Not sure how far she'll want to with your discipline. Why don't she spank or whip you?

Corner standing is a good punishment. My wife has me wear 4" heels and places paper behind my heels so I don't step back. It's a killer punishment.
 
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smoking is a nasty habit. can not imagine kissing an ashtray. an escalating punishment might help you quit all together. for each cigarette you smoke the first day you will be gagged 10 minutes. the net day 11 and so on . eventually you will quit or be gagged during all your free time and not be able to smoke . if you are still smoking i would recommend soaping the mouth and gag before it is put in. she can call you bubbles!
for weight you should be corseted during all meals and 10 minute a pound over weight before and after meals . so if your 6 pounds over weight that would be 60 minutes before, during and 60 minute after the meal. the tighter the corset the less you will eat. if you are 15 pounds over weight you would be in a corset almost all your waking time.
 
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Totally agree with cum eating and dressing in full sissy maids dresses! This should include a corset, the most frilly panties, stockings, wig and full face makeup. You should also be wearing panties under your work clothes, if your wearing pantyhose then panties (pastel colours) are an obvious next step.
 
Thanks for the replies!
I've two questions:
- do you have any suggestions on how my girlfriend can force me to eat my cum? every time she tells me: drink! i leave because I've lost the excitement
- @Ma'at Rebekah do you have an amazon link for the corset you're talking about?
 
if you are considering taking corseting seriously there are some considerations worth noting.
1. corseting for an hourglass figure takes a lot of time,especially for xy's. to lose weight it is about continuous consecutive hours of wear and learning to eat less forming a life long habit. remember fat cells shrink waiting years for you to mess up so they can grow again.
2. measure you hips, belt line, waist, just under the breasts, over the tits and around the chest at arm pit level before you start. this way you can track your progress. it is good to measure monthly.
3. the size you start with is likely to fit for 2 to 4 months. 2 cheap ones will do.
4. boned corsets are better and metal bone is better than plastic.
5. most corsets are designed for women who are 5' 4" to 5'8". the corset is 13-15 inches long. some longlines are 16" and rarely 17 inches long. puck being 6'2" measures 18' 3/8" from tit to groin just below the belt line. when she started out only custom corsets measured 18 or more inches. to compensate she wore a corset up top and a boned waist cinch to extend the length( to bulky to wear in public)
6. shape wear bottoms and a corset works well too but ball trap cages can be very painful and a fair amount of damage in a short period of time has happen. pa penis sheaths or helmets work well though the camel toe is best.
7. when starting out it is best to wear a cami to protect the skin from the ill fitting corsets. puck still wears one under her corset.
8. go slow at first not too tight and 30 - 60 minute 2-3 times a day. after a week or so start increasing your time and tightness.
9. always check the sizing chart. sizing is not the same. a chinese large is an american small.
10. once you are near your size goal buy a bottom end price range(200-300$) custom corset. you will appreciate the difference.
11. some people sleep in a corset, puck does not. if you consider this i would recommend that you first go a few weeks of 10 hour continuous wear while awake.
12. corseting compresses your organs as well as your ribs leaving less area for your lungs to take in air. over exerting yourself can cause you to pass out. take it easy at first till you learn to breathe faster to compensate. the tighter the lacing the less air you have. eventually with tighter and tighter lacing fast breathing will not be able to keep up. you will need to pace yourself accordingly. i can tell you it was pretty scary watching puck fall to the ground out cold when she was splitting logs tightly laced.
13. exercise your core muscles without the corset on every day you wear the corset otherwise you may suffer from muscle loss you really can not afford to lose.

since puck has been wearing custom corsets for many years i can only tell you what younger ma'ats have told me.
for acquiring your first corset cheap is best and places like ali express have cheap corsets in every way(10-20$). you will have to replace the lacing with something much stronger. simple is best. when you find one you like buy one or two more they do not last long and models come and go quickly . while there you might get the next size down in the same model. i am told walmart website has been selling a 18 inch cheap corset (under 40$) for a year or so. same model is on other sights for more. when it comes to custom corsets it is best to use a local maker that can measure you in person. then wait. if there any good you could wait 6 to 12 weeks depending how many orders in front of your's.
 
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ctity95 said:
Thank you Ma'at!
The main problem is how can she force me to eat my cum.
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Firstly, she needs to find a boyfriend. Second, she needs to have sex with him for each smoke you have. Third, you need do drink his cum from his condom, until she allows him to go bareback and then you can get it fresh from the pie. Lastly, she needs to give you a carton of smokes and let you go your hardest.
 
ctity95 said:
Thank you Ma'at!
The main problem is how can she force me to eat my cum.
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Restrain you either by arms or legs. When told to, I cum on my KH/wife's body where I'm told to. Usually her belly button (so it holds my cum like a little bowl) I stand next to the bed where she's moved close to the edge and do as I'm told.. Once I have cum, she tells me to clean it all up. I do it while she watches and makes sure I don't miss a drop.

At first, restraints were used to make sure I was not walking away until I did it. Simple. I'm no longer allowed to masturbate to cum. I have to use her Wand vibrator to do it.
I can give you some advice my KH/wife gave me the first time I ate my load. I stood there (restrained) just looking at it. I had zero desire to eat it or did I want to! I just stood there looking at it. She was laying there waiting. Finally she said this, "it's better warm, don't let it get cold" I finally knelt down and licked it up. She was right, cold cum is not as good as warm.
Once I licked it all up to her satisfaction, she unlocked my restraints.
To this day, I would not say I love eat my cum. It's just something a sissy, sub, slave does when told to. get use to it. Like most of us, you'll never want to eat yours after you cum. LOL That's the last we want to do.
The taste in your mouth after you're done sticks with you. At first , I was sent to a corner to "savor" the taste as she put it when i was done. She shared a girl trick with me (I'm thankful to this day for the tip) drink a Coke afterwards, It takes the taste away. Water really does not do it.

PM me if you want to chat
 
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the first question is are you a submissive or not? if yes then submit and stop your whining.
second question are you being bratty for her attention? that would mean you want her to serve you and your wants.
then there is the possibility that your gf is not into being in control. maybe she does not care if you disobey her. if so then you will need to train her to perform in a manner that suits your wants and hope she serves you well.
on the other hand maybe she does want a very dominant role and she is not sure how to implement it with a unruly brat or she lacks the experience to confidently take the reins and form the flr life that she desires that are not your porn related concepts that you feel should be implemented.
creative punishment take time , like setting up the onion for insertion takes days of freezing each layer. even 3 hours in the corner means 3 hours less of your devoted service. like it or not the cane is quick and effective. if done correctly the welt will be there for days to remind you obedience is the correct behavior. you might consider a cnc relationship where your roles are permanent giving her the confidence to enforce her will on you.
so you want her to force you to eat cum. that is simple. she cuffs your hands behind your back then ties a rope around your package making sure to cut off all blood circulation. time starts ticking away when the rope is being tied. 20 minutes and permanent damage can occur. just how stubborn do you think you will be. now it is your choice eat or lose your prized possession. oh...... it is far easier and quicker to tie a knot than it is to untie one so do not wait till the last minute that might be too long. bon appétit
finally, when it comes to piv no punishment ever involves me going without. if anything the reddening of her ass makes me want it more and most of the time i expect service immediately after.
 
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but I think you are making is very complicated you should just keep it simple as possible by only letting you cum only once every three months until you give up smoking and about you girlfriend looking for piv you should be using Lydicane in a condom when ever she wants it. You cannot give up control and expect everything as you want it and by the way once you give up smoking then you can concentrate on getting into shape and looking like someone she wants to be seen with.
 
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If you gf is not into spanking, how about nipple clamps? Or bondage in an uncomfortable position? Or spicy hot cream on your scrotum?
 
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