Another name for 'ruined orgasm'?

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A rare success the other day (see my journal) giving him a ruined orgasm. But... I don't like the phrase 'ruined orgasm' because it feels so negative. Or at least, I wish there could be another phrase to use instead from time to time, when I just want it to be a positive thing, rather than totally disappointing (although I know there are times for that as well!)
I'd like ruined orgasms to be something we can enjoy and at least a bit of a release for him, even if it's not a properly satisfying one. I called it just 'a release' the other day. I also wondered about 'a trickle' or 'a seep' or 'a burble'. I think I like 'trickle' because it describes it, and it incorporates the word 'trick' - and I think when we did this, we were tricking his body. A 'minicome'? A nanogasm? That one looks fine on the screen but I can't imagine saying it. Whereas, "have you had a little trickle", or "I think you deserve to come... [pause]... but only a little trickle for now" sounds better.
Grateful for any other ideas. <evil grin>
Sal
 
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We’ve used “release” and the word “leak”… as in “please let me leak a little”…usually that’s a heat of the moment deal, where release is planned more, as in she has the intent on playing with me and letting me have a ruined or partial ruin - which is her new favorite thing…mainly just involves that razor thin edge between pre-cum and the actual ruin, and when done right is what we consider the perfect ruined orgasm. It’s like the pleasure switch totally flips off, yet you (I) can feel the fluid trickling out.

I see so many descriptions and even videos of “ruined orgasms” and frankly they just look like full releases without the continued striking based on the volume of semen and the way it comes out. Definitely an art to doing it right!
 
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To be perfectly fair a ruined orgasm is not exactly a good thing for the receiver. You are on the cusp of the single best feeling a man can have and it never happens but you get the mess anyway. There really isn't a female equivalent I can think of. I guess the closest thing would be if Pete brought you right to the edge of an orgasm and stopped and you body shuddered but with zero sensation or feeling and then promptly stopped all further action. I wouldn't consider that a "good" experience.
 
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It's just an ejaculation, or emission, since when done properly it has none of the orgasmic euphoria associated with orgasm.

It's a runny nose for a dick.
 
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I find the whole concept strange. So it’s hard to define a nice term. Ruining appears to suggest that you would be allowed to have an orgasm in the first instance…more of a sadistic act. So it’s fitting if that is the case.
But what’s true of most of the relationships I read on here is that a ‘ruined orgasm’ is more an intimate act without leading to any sort of drop. It’s agreed to keep the effects of chastity in place.

The actual act of dribbling or burbling as you say is more just a conclusion to the enjoyable act. So in my mind the name for such (to keep things positive) should veer away from the actual finale which is not relief or orgasm. A release is literal in that the semen is expelled, but not in the mind set of release from the frustrations….

For me a nice term I use when I want some attention is ‘playtime’.

That way she isn’t saying I’ll have an orgasm. It will be ruined. I’ll still be frustrated. As I don’t know the conclusion so there is some degree of hope*

If I was to put the terms into a conversation here’s now they might go.

Me: can I have an orgasm
Wife: yes but it will be ruined
Me: damn it

or

Wife: shall I make you dribble
Me: I’d prefer to shoot it all over the bedroom
Wife: no!
Me: damn it

or

Wife: do you want some playtime
Me: yes! Get my key!!
Wife: just kidding. I’m tired
Me: damn it

It’s quite clear to me that all of the options lead to disappointment, but ‘playtime’ at least created some excitement.


* this hope is misplaced as I will never receive anything more positive than ruins!!
 
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NowIveDoneIt said:
I guess the closest thing would be if Pete brought you right to the edge of an orgasm and stopped and you body shuddered but with zero sensation or feeling and then promptly stopped all further action.
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Pete learned his lesson, he's not going to try that again, lol !!!
 
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Sal, I think "release" is as good a term as any. As others have described, there's no "orgasm" as such, but you are keeping the juices flowing, so it's less likely that he will leak in the traditional way. And if you make the process of getting to a release as pleasurable as possible (HJ, BJ, etc) they're still worth it. Oh, and as there is a release, you do have the option of having him eat it. I don't think you're there yet, but it is one more tool to help get him back into sub space.
 
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Chaz69 said:
I think "release" is as good a term as any.
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Along the same lines of a "ruined orgasm" are similar boring terms like "abandoned orgasm", "minimized orgasm" and "stifled orgasm".

It's also kinda hot when she "collects a specimen".
 
Sal,
I like where you are going, and having read your journal and sensing your long terms plans, I think a new term is in order for you. I just don’t have the creativity to help you.

I DO like @stallionBoi suggestion of “stifled orgasm”. I also like “abandoned orgasm” too but that word “abandon” doesn’t seem right for you.

Maybe another euphemism altogether? Something like “devotional release”?
 
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BarbCD said:
Sal,
I like where you are going, and having read your journal and sensing your long terms plans, I think a new term is in order for you. I just don’t have the creativity to help you.

I DO like @stallionBoi suggestion of “stifled orgasm”. I also like “abandoned orgasm” too but that word “abandon” doesn’t seem right for you.

Maybe another euphemism altogether? Something like “devotional release”?
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I like 'devotional release', and I like 'stifled' too. The trouble is, I can't quite imagine myself saying them. But then again, as I'm typing this, I'm beginning to rather enjoy the prospect of offering him a 'devotional release'!
Sal
 
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Goddess enjoys ruining me, but hasn't yet perfected it. For us currently, It's pretty much the beginning of an orgasm without enjoying the stimulation that prolongs it until I'm finished throbbing. A true ruined orgasm (which I've achieved by myself only a few times) is not that. It is not pleasurable, it is disappointing. And for that, the hottest term I can think of would be 'chastity tears'. If you can manage to ruin it where just a few drops come out, those are genuine tear drops.
 
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I've seen sometimes ruined orgasms reference as "phantom orgasms". I've also heard it called a "denied orgasm". For the last 2 weeks or so, I've been giving myself ruined orgasms in my cage by edging the tip of my clitty. I'm trying to practice edging again (unsuccessfully) but I really turning a ruined orgasm into a more positive outlook.
 
maid julie said:
Maybe we should give you a draining tonight
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Like that one too...
Have also heard of a "slow drain".

Doesn't really matter what it's called - But certain trigger words can evoke things in the mind of one person and not in the other.

As long as she's giggling, teasing, and mocking my predicament - It does the job!
 
I often see this as being referred to as a spill, or spilling.

Side note, I once had five spills in a row. Was quite an experience.

I would spill, once spill stopped, stimulation was resumed until I spilled again. After first one, subsequent one didn’t take long.
 
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