Bf loves the idea of cuxkolding but I don't. Help!

spider203 · Apr 30, 2016

Do you know that he is controlling the lifestyle again, my advice is to go out on a date even if nothing happens, It would let you boyfriend know who is in charge, for at the moment he is and he is craving for you to take charge and and tell him what is happening, he will not admit to it but that is what he is looking for.
what will happen what he have another idea like threesomes or girl on girl bdsm will you say ok or will you be able to say no.

Joroincharge · May 15, 2016

BoyfriendinChastity said: ↑

My bf and I are in a chastity relationship. I love having control of his cock. Teasing him and denying him. Keeping him locked until I feel otherwise. I do not like him watching porn bc it makes me feel like I'm no longer his focus. It's not me teasing him and keeping him bulging from his cage. I like to always know what he's doing online or on his email and phone. I know all the passwords and do not allow him to change them or create any new accounts on anything where he has access to other key holders or mistress. He has gone behind my back in the past and talked to mistresses and that is not allowed. I think I should be the only one who teases him and frustrates and is thinking of unless I decide otherwise.

So it's a bit obvious that chastity can lead to other things like cuxkolding. My bf loves the idea and fantasizes about being cuckolded. He loves watching and reading the porn about it. The idea of me being fucked by someone with a bigger cock arouses him. He has a 5.5-6 in penis erect and to some it might be surprising but his cock makes me cum many times when I have sex with him. I feel like his size isn't technically too small to satisfy me. My reason for locking him up was for his chronic masturbation. When we started he couldn't even get hard to me bc he needed porn. Now we have no problem with that. Another reason he is so into cuxkolding is because he has told me many times before and currently that he feels like he doesn't deserve me because I'm so good for him. In the past he would lie to me constantly even about things that didn't matter. I hate liars and didn't know what to do so he would stop. At the beginning of our chastity journey it wasn't easy because we didn't know much about it. So he still lied and even cheated on me (no sex involved) by talking to other girls in his class and texting with them. Going on dates when I was at work. Trying to find another key holder. I was furious but I was and am in love with him why idk maybe bc I knew deep down I could make him what I wanted even before chastity. He felt like I would be so nice to him and sweet that he even felt guilty bc he was still lying to me when I was being nice and sweet and good to him. He believes he deserves to be treated badly and broken. Over the year of using a cage and chastity he has changed. He knows I'm in control and it's what I say. He no longer lies to me nor does he even talks to another girl.

im not interested in cuxkolding because I don't care for a bigger cock because he does satisfy me. And I do not want to go outside our relationship especially if I marry him one day. im not the type of girl who loved fucking around when I was single. I want one man not many. We talked about it and I told him I would role play with him and tease him with the idea of cuxkolding him to satisfy his fantasy without me actually having to fuck someone else. He asked me if I could talk to other guys and tease them at bars and flirt and I agreed only bc when I drink I like flirting and kissing other guys and did it before many times. This is to make him jealous and see how much I'm desired by other men and also to play role the cuxkolding idea for him. Let him know that if I felt like it I could always get someone better.

We share this account and he's not allowed on it without me but I am without him. We sit together and go through the site and sometimes we end up looking at some chastity porn together or look for ideas. But lately everytime I let him be the one who types it's always cuckolding stuff. He told me that's the only thing right now that he finds so hot and arousing for porn. Chasity stuff works but this is like more stimulating for him. In my other post about cuxkold porn i mentioned how he asked to read a story about cuxkolding and I added days to his time every time the word cuxkolding or cuxkold or any word that included that was going to be a day added to his lock up bc I had said no so I just used it as chance to add more time. I used to be ok with him watching porn sometimes but lately when I go to work I know he just sits there for hours looking at cuxkolding stuff.

What I don't want is for him to watch and read and make his desire grow for this and tell me he wants to be cuxkolded and if I can't do it he wants someone who will. So what I did was block his porn. I used a web browser protection for all of his devices so he won't have access to any porn unless I want him to read a story or watch a video or I send him stuff when I'm at work but I choose what porn he gets to see if I want him to. I hope that this could help his desire not grow since he won't be looking at this for hours and kept horny by this instead of me.

I know for a fact this is not what I want for us. And he seems to not believe a perosn can be so sure they don't want something bc from what he has read many people say no and eventually end up doing it. Especially if they have been married for so long. He told me that maybe I'll just need maturing. He thinks I need to mature into it. That made me mad. He kept talking to me like he was trying to convince me and I told him if he wanted to be my sub he had to stop fighting me on what I want and don't want. He apologized but his desire is still there. He told me he was going to miss the cuxkold porn and I said too bad it's all gone now. I don't want taking the porn away to backfire and make him crave it more but I think if I role play with him it work and just stay as that.

I need advice and help from the domme side and the sub side. I want advice from a cuxkolded relationship and not a cuxkolded relationship. I want to know what I should do or say for his desire to minimize or go away entirely. I know it's about what I want and what I say but i can't have that worrying me. I know why the key holders and mistresses and dommes cuxkold and its bc their man has a small dick that can't satisfy. But if mine does why even cuxkold?

Is it possible to just live a chastity lifestyle without having it escalate to cuxkolding. It seems like it always does from what I've read and noticed? What can I do or say to him so he can just forget about it? Will he ever forget about it? Will he always want it even when he says he doesnt and see me as weak or think that he needs someone else? Do the wife's or girlfriends fall out of love when they cuxkold? What are the reasons behind doing it? Have the wife's or gf who have a serious relationship just start seeing their men differently bc of chastity and no longer as their lover bc they control him?

Please help me! Any advice would help.
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I suspect he is topping from the bottom. If a road's not for you, don't go down it. But there's no harm you going out from time to time without saying where and leave him guessing. You can of course have been just with a gf or two, but then again....he can imagine out his fantasy..;...

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