I will tell you my story of how i got locked indefinitely after just 10 days of toying with it with my wife. This is not fiction. This is my real story.
She wasn’t fully convinced but agreed. She told me I’d also need to start going to the swimming pool early in the mornings to get fit. I happily agreed. During these last days I have been eating healthy and exercising every day and I have dropped 3 kg already. I also have given massages to her every single night, during at least 30 minutes each session. We also have tried to reconnect, we have been making time for ourselves and enjoyed watching Netflix together. And the most important one, I have really made the effort to try to maintain an organized home, making beds, preparing dinner and cleaning the kitchen after.
She said she was feeling more relaxed and attached to me, and she even asked me to come back to sleep together in the same bed. There we have been cuddling every night, the single moment of the day where she could feel my device between her legs and has acknowledged it.
During this time I had lots of time to reflect on myself, chastity, our relationship and our dynamic as you could read from my other posts:
Specially the watch story has been really powerful for me. I realized that the device is just a tool, an enabler for me to be more attentive and caring and it was actually working wonders on us, so I just treated, at least when I was with her, as just a watch that I wear down there. No need to speak about it, no asking about release, orgasm, etc. And of course, nothing kinky or portraying me too submissive, that would turn her off completely.
So I just focused on our dynamic and the effects of the device on our relationship. I have been consistent taking care of most part of the chores without her having to tell me anything, getting fit, giving massages. That's it. After a few days I think she picked up the idea that this was something for her and for us, more than fulfilling a kink that I might have, and this is actually the most important part.
Then, yesterday we arrived to our big milestone. She raised again the topic that we had to figure it out, because she worried that I’d go back to my old habits the moment I was released. I reassured her that wearing the device wasn’t a a big deal. I told her it felt like a gift from her, one that helped me feel closer and more connected to her. I explained that what mattered to me wasn’t how long I stayed locked but that unlocking should be something we share together during special, meaningful moments when she decides to unlock me. I said I prefer to wait X time longer until she really wants to do it instead of she unlocking me just because I am too persistent or out of pity.
At that point we made the agreement that she would keep me locked for as long as she wants, without any pressure from my side, the only condition is that she made it clear that I would only be unlocked when she decided, though if I experienced pain or discomfort, she would remove it immediately. So we both agreed and sealed our new agreement with a kiss. At that very moment I could see in her face how her hesitation melted away and how she felt more relaxed in her role.
Now I am locked until she wants to unlock me, it could be days or weeks or even months. But I guess that if in just 10 days we have evolved so much, in no time she will start expecting and demanding more and more from me while my unlocks will become increasingly rare and special.
I am not truly sure if this is what I want. For me, it was more of a fantasy/fetish. But I am excited to see her grow in her role and experience first hand how far will she push my own limits.
Where Did We Come From?
Me:- Submissive
- 47-year-old male
- Overweight, unfit, though I used to be good-looking
- Hypersexual
- Chronic masturbator
- Loud snorer (probably because I’m overweight)
- Last orgasm: 11 days ago
- ADHD and messy
- Vanilla
- 50-year-old female
- Still good-looking
- Zero-sexual (low libido, and menopause has dropped it even further to zero)
- Last orgasm: 1 year ago
- Neat freak
- Played with chastity 5-6 times in the past, but only as a weekend game. She wasn’t into it and let me out as soon as I asked.
- Last PIV: 2 years ago.
- No sexual activity with me (not even a handjob).
- I felt increasingly disconnected emotionally from her because of the lack of intimacy.
- My snoring meant we hadn’t slept in the same bed for 6 months, which worsened my masturbation habit.
- Despite everything, we still love each other deeply, and I wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.
How It All Started
Two weeks ago, we had a big argument because I forgot to refill the aquarium, and the water noise annoyed her. The argument spiraled out of control, and we almost broke up. After three days of not speaking, I felt the need to apologize and reconnect with her, so I just put on my device and gave her the key. My motivation wasn't sexual as it had been the other times, I really wanted to apologize and to reconnect with her emotionally.She wasn’t fully convinced but agreed. She told me I’d also need to start going to the swimming pool early in the mornings to get fit. I happily agreed. During these last days I have been eating healthy and exercising every day and I have dropped 3 kg already. I also have given massages to her every single night, during at least 30 minutes each session. We also have tried to reconnect, we have been making time for ourselves and enjoyed watching Netflix together. And the most important one, I have really made the effort to try to maintain an organized home, making beds, preparing dinner and cleaning the kitchen after.
She said she was feeling more relaxed and attached to me, and she even asked me to come back to sleep together in the same bed. There we have been cuddling every night, the single moment of the day where she could feel my device between her legs and has acknowledged it.
During this time I had lots of time to reflect on myself, chastity, our relationship and our dynamic as you could read from my other posts:
Specially the watch story has been really powerful for me. I realized that the device is just a tool, an enabler for me to be more attentive and caring and it was actually working wonders on us, so I just treated, at least when I was with her, as just a watch that I wear down there. No need to speak about it, no asking about release, orgasm, etc. And of course, nothing kinky or portraying me too submissive, that would turn her off completely.
So I just focused on our dynamic and the effects of the device on our relationship. I have been consistent taking care of most part of the chores without her having to tell me anything, getting fit, giving massages. That's it. After a few days I think she picked up the idea that this was something for her and for us, more than fulfilling a kink that I might have, and this is actually the most important part.
The Turning Point
So last Friday, she was sitting on our bed and almost started crying. She said that this week had been amazing, that she didn't have to make the bed a single time and that everything was tidy. She had real tears. She said that this chastity thing is cool, but she was wondering how sustainable was it and wasn't sure about wanting me to wear it for too long. I asked her to remove for a while then, and she replied with an energetic NO!Then, yesterday we arrived to our big milestone. She raised again the topic that we had to figure it out, because she worried that I’d go back to my old habits the moment I was released. I reassured her that wearing the device wasn’t a a big deal. I told her it felt like a gift from her, one that helped me feel closer and more connected to her. I explained that what mattered to me wasn’t how long I stayed locked but that unlocking should be something we share together during special, meaningful moments when she decides to unlock me. I said I prefer to wait X time longer until she really wants to do it instead of she unlocking me just because I am too persistent or out of pity.
At that point we made the agreement that she would keep me locked for as long as she wants, without any pressure from my side, the only condition is that she made it clear that I would only be unlocked when she decided, though if I experienced pain or discomfort, she would remove it immediately. So we both agreed and sealed our new agreement with a kiss. At that very moment I could see in her face how her hesitation melted away and how she felt more relaxed in her role.
Now I am locked until she wants to unlock me, it could be days or weeks or even months. But I guess that if in just 10 days we have evolved so much, in no time she will start expecting and demanding more and more from me while my unlocks will become increasingly rare and special.
I am not truly sure if this is what I want. For me, it was more of a fantasy/fetish. But I am excited to see her grow in her role and experience first hand how far will she push my own limits.
Main Takeaways
- Do it for her: Focus on making the chastity dynamic about her and your relationship, not about fulfilling your own kink.
- Let her take the lead: Avoid pressuring her to unlock you or exposing her to things she’s not comfortable with.
- Don't obsess about the device: For her is no more than a watch in your wrist.
- Keep it simple: Avoid overly kinky ideas like cross-dressing, humiliation, or anything too submissive if your partner is vanilla. These things can be a turn-off for someone who isn’t into that.
- Be consistent: Let your actions (not words) demonstrate how the device benefits her. By taking care of chores, showing affection, and prioritizing her comfort, she’ll embrace the idea of locking you way sooner than you and her expected.
- Be careful what you wish for: You could end up like me in just a week and a half if you do it right.
