Hello all,
Ive just been looking through loads of the old threads and wanted to say just how helpful they were. It's good to know that some of the problems I’m facing have also been problems for others.
So, where I’m at at the moment. Ive enjoyed the thought of chastity for a few years and have often locked myself while my wife was at work but have always either unlocked because I just couldn't help but have a wank or I had to remove it before she got home. That means my average lock up was about four hours tops. I tried explaining it to her but shes never really been on board with it. She actually wants me to take it off because she thinks its uncomfortable for me.
This week I set myself a challenge - I work away a lot and I thought I would use this trip as an experiment to myself. I gave myself one last orgasm on Monday before locking up and putting the key in my bag. I thought I would have to take it off the first night when I just couldn't sleep because of how turned on I was. Thankfully I persisted and found myself waking up at the usual time in the morning with the cage still on and feeling hornier than ever.
We're now on day six and I know this is something I just have to get my wife to do to me! Ive never been so horny! Usually when I work away I have a wank every night before going to bed while watching porn. I’m 29 so I’m still at the stage of wanting to cum at least once a day. I wanted to give this a go because after I cum I almost always have a feeling of shame about my kinks. Not coming in six days is a record for me but I’m now feeling blue balls for the first time - I now see why people say its not a joke. When walking it aches like hell! I’m still not sure if its painful or if I like it. I think both! It doesnt help that I seem to be constantly leaking when soft too! I thought about making myself cum to be sure that it was blue balls and not anything else but I don't want to waste what Ive done. Is there another way to tell if it's something more serious?
Ive attached a couple of pictures for your opinion on how my cage is fitting. Please excuse the fact I couldnt decide how much to shave off! I have low hanging balls (even thought they feel massive after this week.. Not sure if that is a thing?) so I struggled with the cage slipping. I had to up the size of my ring due to shafing, because of that Ive used a shoe lace to keep it against the body. Ive also included a picture from a night time errection. Is it normal for a cage to pull this far away from the body? If the next few months go well, and my wife is up for it, Ill certainly be upgrading to a custom cage, so I just want to make sure what I’m currently wearing is along the right lines.
Ive taken it off to clean just once and I thought I was going to cum from just washing! Ive never been so hard and eager to cum. It took everything in me to not let myself have a wank right there and then. Even if it did take over an hour to be small enough for the cage to get back on.
Ive spent each evening documenting my experiment in a diary that I’m going to share with my wife when I get home on Thursday next week - by which point Id have been orgasm free and locked up for 11 days. If it wasn't for airport security I would have thrown away my key so I had no choice to wait until I get home to the spare.
The main point of me writting this, now overly long, intro was because I wondered if anyone could suggest vannila friendly places for me to direct my wife to for her own research? I’m going to send her to https://happy-marriage.neocities.org as I found it amazingly written (it even told me why I’m feeling certain things). But I wondered if there are more websites like this? I know for sure that anything to do with crossdressing, heavy BDSM, cuckolding or sissying etc will instantly turn her away from the idea. Are there websites that are very image heavy but stay away from this sort of thing? She loves watching porn so I’m hoping that seeing the website above, seeing how horny I currently am, along with some soft (realistic) chastity porn will help her to give it a go. Even if its just a pornhub playlist from a womens point of view?
Id also be interested to find blogs of other young couples who practice chastity in a vanilla relashionship? Even better, if there are any social groups for such a thing in the East of England or online? I think I need to show her that it's only weird if she makes it wired. Id like to show her that other "normal" couples do practise chastity on a day to day basis and that its not a silly bedtime game - which is how I think she sees it at the moment. She has really enjoyed it a couple of times last year for bedroom play - she locked me up and wouldnt give me the key until I made her cum. She enjoyed seeing how I just couldnt handle myself. The problem being that she then made me cum and neither of us were interested in putting the cage back on. I think I pushed a little too often and it became a sore subject. So after some time Id like to show her that I can live over a week with it on and that we should attempt a longer lock up.
We're on holiday in Egypt next week and I think I’m going to ask her to keep me locked until the last day - I’m hoping that the better mood side effects will have kicked in fully by then and that I will want to do everything she wants me to do. We often argue over small things and I think that part of that is my attitude from wanking without her each day. Only time will tell! Part of me is hoping she makes me eat her out every day just to get me even hornier than I already am. We're in a little bit of a bedroom slump so I’m hoping this can help us get back to where we used to be.
I’m also going to show her this thread and any answers you give me - so, if there are any key holder wives out there that didnt want to do it at first but then were totally transformed by giving it a go, please tell me your story to share with her.
Any other advice based on what Ive said above will be very much appriciated. Thank you in advance and sorry for the long read!
Side note - I’m dyslexic, so please excuse any bad grammer and spelling mistakes.
Ive just been looking through loads of the old threads and wanted to say just how helpful they were. It's good to know that some of the problems I’m facing have also been problems for others.
So, where I’m at at the moment. Ive enjoyed the thought of chastity for a few years and have often locked myself while my wife was at work but have always either unlocked because I just couldn't help but have a wank or I had to remove it before she got home. That means my average lock up was about four hours tops. I tried explaining it to her but shes never really been on board with it. She actually wants me to take it off because she thinks its uncomfortable for me.
This week I set myself a challenge - I work away a lot and I thought I would use this trip as an experiment to myself. I gave myself one last orgasm on Monday before locking up and putting the key in my bag. I thought I would have to take it off the first night when I just couldn't sleep because of how turned on I was. Thankfully I persisted and found myself waking up at the usual time in the morning with the cage still on and feeling hornier than ever.
We're now on day six and I know this is something I just have to get my wife to do to me! Ive never been so horny! Usually when I work away I have a wank every night before going to bed while watching porn. I’m 29 so I’m still at the stage of wanting to cum at least once a day. I wanted to give this a go because after I cum I almost always have a feeling of shame about my kinks. Not coming in six days is a record for me but I’m now feeling blue balls for the first time - I now see why people say its not a joke. When walking it aches like hell! I’m still not sure if its painful or if I like it. I think both! It doesnt help that I seem to be constantly leaking when soft too! I thought about making myself cum to be sure that it was blue balls and not anything else but I don't want to waste what Ive done. Is there another way to tell if it's something more serious?
Ive attached a couple of pictures for your opinion on how my cage is fitting. Please excuse the fact I couldnt decide how much to shave off! I have low hanging balls (even thought they feel massive after this week.. Not sure if that is a thing?) so I struggled with the cage slipping. I had to up the size of my ring due to shafing, because of that Ive used a shoe lace to keep it against the body. Ive also included a picture from a night time errection. Is it normal for a cage to pull this far away from the body? If the next few months go well, and my wife is up for it, Ill certainly be upgrading to a custom cage, so I just want to make sure what I’m currently wearing is along the right lines.
Ive taken it off to clean just once and I thought I was going to cum from just washing! Ive never been so hard and eager to cum. It took everything in me to not let myself have a wank right there and then. Even if it did take over an hour to be small enough for the cage to get back on.
Ive spent each evening documenting my experiment in a diary that I’m going to share with my wife when I get home on Thursday next week - by which point Id have been orgasm free and locked up for 11 days. If it wasn't for airport security I would have thrown away my key so I had no choice to wait until I get home to the spare.
The main point of me writting this, now overly long, intro was because I wondered if anyone could suggest vannila friendly places for me to direct my wife to for her own research? I’m going to send her to https://happy-marriage.neocities.org as I found it amazingly written (it even told me why I’m feeling certain things). But I wondered if there are more websites like this? I know for sure that anything to do with crossdressing, heavy BDSM, cuckolding or sissying etc will instantly turn her away from the idea. Are there websites that are very image heavy but stay away from this sort of thing? She loves watching porn so I’m hoping that seeing the website above, seeing how horny I currently am, along with some soft (realistic) chastity porn will help her to give it a go. Even if its just a pornhub playlist from a womens point of view?
Id also be interested to find blogs of other young couples who practice chastity in a vanilla relashionship? Even better, if there are any social groups for such a thing in the East of England or online? I think I need to show her that it's only weird if she makes it wired. Id like to show her that other "normal" couples do practise chastity on a day to day basis and that its not a silly bedtime game - which is how I think she sees it at the moment. She has really enjoyed it a couple of times last year for bedroom play - she locked me up and wouldnt give me the key until I made her cum. She enjoyed seeing how I just couldnt handle myself. The problem being that she then made me cum and neither of us were interested in putting the cage back on. I think I pushed a little too often and it became a sore subject. So after some time Id like to show her that I can live over a week with it on and that we should attempt a longer lock up.
We're on holiday in Egypt next week and I think I’m going to ask her to keep me locked until the last day - I’m hoping that the better mood side effects will have kicked in fully by then and that I will want to do everything she wants me to do. We often argue over small things and I think that part of that is my attitude from wanking without her each day. Only time will tell! Part of me is hoping she makes me eat her out every day just to get me even hornier than I already am. We're in a little bit of a bedroom slump so I’m hoping this can help us get back to where we used to be.
I’m also going to show her this thread and any answers you give me - so, if there are any key holder wives out there that didnt want to do it at first but then were totally transformed by giving it a go, please tell me your story to share with her.
Any other advice based on what Ive said above will be very much appriciated. Thank you in advance and sorry for the long read!
Side note - I’m dyslexic, so please excuse any bad grammer and spelling mistakes.
