I am afraid of my sexual activity

Sounds like the key holder needs to take more control. When you are released hands may need to be cuffed behind your back, so you are not tempted. When I get to a frustrating point of wanting an orgasm, Mistress cuffs my hands behind my back and I am released from my cage and then I am told I have a certain amount of time to be free and I am aloud 1 orgasm in that time if I can achieve it and Mistress has to be able to watch. Not an easy task. After the time is up I am locked back up and if I failed at my task given then I am punished with a spanking. It does helps with the frustrations especially for next time.

 

Your idea is not good, in my opinion. Masturbating whenever you want is not chastity in any definition. When your done and wear the cage, you are just also sexualizing your refractory period. You are using "chastity" for constant sexual simulation. And your wife will again be serving you and your constant desires.

I don't know why you are trying to go for weeks or months. Respect your KH. Don't masturbate. And start with lockups that give you a release nearly every day. The device will keep you from masturbating without her. Eventually get to a point where you only get to cum once or twice a week. That's not only a substantial reduction, but you should aim to eliminate masturbation (which is a big step).

 

sounds like quite a problem, could be hormones. While you wait to stretch your PA and a new cage to arrive, why not try a KTB from Male Chastity Now? I think that will provide a change in mindset, and will certainly take the fun out of things. If nothing else you'll gain some humility as you will learn all about heartfelt begging of your wife for the keys. You'll quickly learn not to pursue orgasm and your 'suffering' will cetainly be redirected.

 

How are you going to practice chasity and cum whenever you want? The cage is basically an accessory at this point and in no way serves its purpose.

 

Hi Dragos! It's been a while since I posted here. Last year, my girlfriend and I started practicing chastity. At first, I was really immersed, and we gradually increased the duration from one week to two, then to three weeks. However, when we reached the goal of one orgasm per month, I completely lost control. The drop was so intense that I started to feel desperate, and not in a kinky way.

I've also posted here a few times about how I wasn't very open to giving up my other fetishes. I wanted to find a middle ground with my girlfriend and see how we could incorporate them. However, most of the responses I received accused me of "topping from the bottom" or of being overly focused on my desires.

I recently read another post where someone described this forum as being full of "survivors," people who have managed to commit to chastity, at least according to certain standards set by others. So, if you express any dissatisfaction, you're often met with criticism.

In my opinion, it's important to adapt chastity to suit both partners. It's a consensual activity, and even if you're interested in relinquishing complete control, the reality of practicing it can be quite challenging. Therefore, I suggest starting by gradually reducing the frequency of masturbation and trying to go without it for a few days. As someone mentioned here, it's a good starting point. I don't believe the ultimate goal should necessarily be to eliminate masturbation entirely if you're not comfortable with that. Perhaps you'll find that you enjoy periods of abstinence for a week or two, finding a comfortable balance with your partner. And if you ever stop enjoying it, you should feel free to stop, simple as that.

I'm currently considering trying chastity again with my girlfriend. Last time didn't end well, and I have no desire to repeat that experience. However, those months we spent practicing chastity keep replaying in my mind. After discussing it with her, she made it clear that if we were to try again, I would need to fully commit. For her, this means abstaining for two to three weeks, as she believes in the benefits of the post-orgasm refractory period. I'm still uncertain whether I can handle that, but I assured her that we've learned from our previous attempt and can address any issues that arise.

She's given me some time to think about it, and after two months, I told her I was interested in trying again, but with certain limits and conditions. One condition is that if we decide to stop again, we won't give up simply because it didn't work out. I believe that with time and experimentation, we can find a balance that we both enjoy.

As I mentioned before, I don't view my girlfriend as an all-powerful goddess whom I must serve unquestioningly. I see her as my best friend, someone I want to share experiences and enjoy life with. Therefore, chastity should be something that brings us both long-term enjoyment.

 

It's just a minor addiction, no more difficult to quit than coffee - which often results in a week or two of horrific headaches and other negative symptoms.

Sadly. we make too much of a big deal of minor addictions and their symptoms.

If you realy wanted to quit masturbating then you would.

When we first started chastity and we went 30 days without using the key, I went crazy. Hot flushes, insane thoughts. I jiggled the cage and ejaculated a few times, which made me feel worse and ashamed.

But it passed. I went from ejaculating around 7-10times a week before chastity to zero, and I feel stronger and better for it.

It's not easy but it's not impossible either. Have faith in yourself and push through the discomfortto discover what is on the other side.

 

What happens with allot of guys is they finally confess their kink to Wife or Girlfriend and She says She'll try it. She might even say it sounds like fun.

Then the guy tries to get Her to go all the way in it and fast. She just gets overwhelmed. Then it falls apart.

Guys aren't the only ones, though. A couple of times I went too fast or too far with husband. I was so excited about it I forgot to consider him. I also went too far a couple of times. What worked best was going slower and letting him get used to everything. Early on, I tried to lock him up for a whole weekend. I kept him locked up but it didn't go so good. In those first days, I had to agree not to lock him up for more than 24 hours.

Eventually, I gently prodded him into longer lock up times, 2 days here and there, then a weekend here and there then a whole week. When I'd got him to 3 weeks for a while, I decided to try a Locktober. Near the end, he was begging to be let out. I responded with a caning. But the whole feeling of power and Authority got to my head and even though I did let him out, I went too far after that and it almost cost me my marriage.

The point is don't try to do everything at once and remember this isn't pornography, it's reality. Don't let it get to your head.

 

I have to say your symptoms that you had experienced from long lockups seem more like withdrawal symptoms.

For me, I was addicted to masturbation, not just the motion of it, but the endorphin rush I would receive at the end of it.

When I stopped masturbating and the time between orgasm lengthened, I did notice symptoms such as yours. Irritability, minor body aches l, obsessive thoughts. I do believe that I was and still am addicted to the endorphin rush I get from orgasm.

Perhaps by slowly increasing the time between orgasms you'll be able to lessen the effects you are feeling.

For myself to go from masturbating everyday 2 to 3 times a day, to once a week or once every two weeks was a huge adjustment and big step. I had often wondered and wished that We had gone a little slower and gradually increased the time between orgasms.

Honestly, it was hell.



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