Hi guys,
a few years ago I became very much attracted to the thought of having my dick locked up. I had fun trying out different cages, found my beautiful wife which is into BDSM as I am and I got a PA piercing (mostly because I'm a curious person and wanted to feel how that feels, lol).
After about 5 years on and off chastity, it turns out that I can specifiy the thing I'm attracted to: I am attracted to the thought of being controlled when I may have an orgasm. It turns me on when I think of a scenario where only my wife can allow to deny me an orgasm. And there the problems start...
...I can't wear the cage for longer than perhaps 2 days because I want to be able to be as clean as possible down there.
...I don't want to wear a cage secured with my PA piercing because I always need assistance with closing it again (tbh probably solvable by buying another one)
...I can't wear it too long because my wife simply enjoys riding it too much
...biggest problem simply is that wearing a cage simply doesn't prevent me from orgasm. If I use a vibrator I literally can cum within 2 minutes.
I came to the conclusion that this whole chastity thing for me doesn't work because it doesn't offer the possibility of 100% orgasm prevention. I know that there is probably no such thing but in my head it was THE goal/phantasy at the beginning and it still is. And this goal won't be fulfilled it seems.
I wanted to share this with you. I think for a lot of people these thoughts could be interesting in our space. In this case I need to face reality. And reality differs too much from phantasy. Nevertheless, personality and individual characteristics play a huge role here. A lot of you guys wouldn't value those so called problems as problems. A lot of you guys are ok with those issues which is great! Unfortunately I am different. For us it isn't about my free will to give up control. Me and my wife know that the kink here is to be forced not to be able to do something. Probably a good description...
Have a nice guy folks!
a few years ago I became very much attracted to the thought of having my dick locked up. I had fun trying out different cages, found my beautiful wife which is into BDSM as I am and I got a PA piercing (mostly because I'm a curious person and wanted to feel how that feels, lol).
After about 5 years on and off chastity, it turns out that I can specifiy the thing I'm attracted to: I am attracted to the thought of being controlled when I may have an orgasm. It turns me on when I think of a scenario where only my wife can allow to deny me an orgasm. And there the problems start...
...I can't wear the cage for longer than perhaps 2 days because I want to be able to be as clean as possible down there.
...I don't want to wear a cage secured with my PA piercing because I always need assistance with closing it again (tbh probably solvable by buying another one)
...I can't wear it too long because my wife simply enjoys riding it too much
...biggest problem simply is that wearing a cage simply doesn't prevent me from orgasm. If I use a vibrator I literally can cum within 2 minutes.
I came to the conclusion that this whole chastity thing for me doesn't work because it doesn't offer the possibility of 100% orgasm prevention. I know that there is probably no such thing but in my head it was THE goal/phantasy at the beginning and it still is. And this goal won't be fulfilled it seems.
I wanted to share this with you. I think for a lot of people these thoughts could be interesting in our space. In this case I need to face reality. And reality differs too much from phantasy. Nevertheless, personality and individual characteristics play a huge role here. A lot of you guys wouldn't value those so called problems as problems. A lot of you guys are ok with those issues which is great! Unfortunately I am different. For us it isn't about my free will to give up control. Me and my wife know that the kink here is to be forced not to be able to do something. Probably a good description...
Have a nice guy folks!