As the title says, sometimes I wish I didn't like penetration by my guy so much. Not only the penetration part, but also him finishing in me specifically. Nothing beats it to me, as such it has made long lock-up times difficult. When we are making love, and we get the timing just right, we can finish together and it feels SO amazing. Our longest has been 10 days and we have been doing Chastity for a year now. I love the day to day Chastity - knowing he is going to work locked in his cage and talking to other women and men and that he KNOWS that nobody else has a clue. I can send him little random texts about what I want him to do to me or me to do to him and then he will usually send me a pic of him in the restroom straining in his cage a few minutes later. As the buildup progresses, the need to f**k and feel a real cock instead of a dildo gets more intense. Sex just does not feel complete for me unless I have him finish during intercourse. I am ALWAYS left satisfied, don't get me wrong, but him cumming just makes it all the much better. Sometimes I will be able to let him out during a lockup and have sex without him finishing, then just locking him back up afterward, but it does not happen often since I like it when he finishes. He doesn't have any weird post-orgasm blues, and does not become an asshole afterwards. The only thing that happens is that he isn't as frisky or touchy-feely for about a day after. We had a quickie last night - he came very quickly since he had been locked up a week and we didn't have much playtime since we have both been sick lately. Tonight, I gave him the opportunity to "switch" for the night. Like the old times when we first met and he was Dominant and I was submissive. I used to LOVE pain, restraint and degradation. So I wanted to see if that was still there for either of us. During our sexytimes, he fu**ed me hard, but there was no degradation, pain or restraint. The most he did was give me a couple of little spanks, some light hair pulling, covered my mouth a couple of times and had me on my back with my head and torso hanging off the side of the bed. There was no pain, restraint or degradation. I didn't feel any different during the spanking, hair pulling or mouth covering this time. I used to react to that very strongly and wanted more. Both him not taking FULL advantage of my permission to take control and me not reacting like I used to to the little control he did take tells me that the year of Chastity has had its effect. And I am okay with that since we are both closer now than ever before. Sorry a little off topic of the post, but thought it was relevant to our situation.