I have four chastity cages: a little metal nub one that is really tough to get on, a pink plastic one that requires a regular lock, a clear plastic one with a side lock built into it and a Cellmate (one of those cages controlled electronically by a phone app).
I've never found much desire in locking myself up. It always seemed too easy to just unlock it and be done with it when the urge struck. It's not enforced that way and therefore, teaches no lesson.
Back in June (on June 9th to be exact), I decided to challenge myself with something different. Instead of locking myself up in a cage and trying to keep it on, I instead aimed to eliminate the orgasm altogether, the thing that a chastity cage hinders the ability to do.
I wanted to see how long I could go without cumming. I edged and edged and edged daily, watching every conceivable kind of porn I could find that detailed male submission and also humiliation. And from this, I have discovered how appealing the hotwife thing is. The only problem is: I'm not married. LOL But the hotwife concept is still arousing.
I wondered if I could beat my record of 17 days in a chastity cage. And I found out that I could.
At the time that I type this out to you, I am currently entering ... are you ready for this ... my 72nd day of being orgasm free with no assistance from a chastity cage. My goal is to get to 100 days.
And there are a few things I have learned along the way. (These are not discoveries of fact. Rather, they are discoveries of self and thusly, may not apply to or be helpful for everyone.)
For those who are doing some form of self-chastity who are bummed out that they have no one to hold their keys:
1. Take this time to keep improving you. Remember the lesson of this sacrifice.
2. Have a goal in mind when you are locked up. A specific time goal. And as you near closer and closer to that goal, re-evaluate and set a new time goal that is further out. By giving yourself a chance to think about it, you will have the ability to go longer than you could have imagined.
3. Have someone to talk with about it, a friend online, a trusted friend in real life who is knowing, whomever. No, you don't want to talk about your chastity all the time with them. But ask them if they would occasionally be a sounding board for you. It has been beneficial for me to have had several people I could message with about this. And some were so devilish as to tease me about it. (I am very grateful to them as humiliation is a wonderful thing to me.)
4. Constantly reflect on the accomplishments you have achieved already, particularly how long you have held out. And when single days turn into weeks and months, you will feel a pride of self that may not have been there before. You will have proven that you are stronger than you believed.
And lastly ...
5. Remember how good that pride of self felt. It will be something you will take into any future relationship.
By typing this posting, I am not trying to present myself as a success story. I'm quite the opposite. I would much rather be in a chastity cage with the keys being held by a woman who teases me and denies me even the privilege of edging.
But from this ongoing experiment, I have learned that absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder. It also helps to refocus priorities. And how absolutely important is that, when meeting someone who could be the missing piece of the puzzle? Wouldn't you want to have learned all the right lesson when you meet that person?
With hope, you are the missing piece of that person's puzzle too.
Best wishes.
I've never found much desire in locking myself up. It always seemed too easy to just unlock it and be done with it when the urge struck. It's not enforced that way and therefore, teaches no lesson.
Back in June (on June 9th to be exact), I decided to challenge myself with something different. Instead of locking myself up in a cage and trying to keep it on, I instead aimed to eliminate the orgasm altogether, the thing that a chastity cage hinders the ability to do.
I wanted to see how long I could go without cumming. I edged and edged and edged daily, watching every conceivable kind of porn I could find that detailed male submission and also humiliation. And from this, I have discovered how appealing the hotwife thing is. The only problem is: I'm not married. LOL But the hotwife concept is still arousing.
I wondered if I could beat my record of 17 days in a chastity cage. And I found out that I could.
At the time that I type this out to you, I am currently entering ... are you ready for this ... my 72nd day of being orgasm free with no assistance from a chastity cage. My goal is to get to 100 days.
And there are a few things I have learned along the way. (These are not discoveries of fact. Rather, they are discoveries of self and thusly, may not apply to or be helpful for everyone.)
For those who are doing some form of self-chastity who are bummed out that they have no one to hold their keys:
1. Take this time to keep improving you. Remember the lesson of this sacrifice.
2. Have a goal in mind when you are locked up. A specific time goal. And as you near closer and closer to that goal, re-evaluate and set a new time goal that is further out. By giving yourself a chance to think about it, you will have the ability to go longer than you could have imagined.
3. Have someone to talk with about it, a friend online, a trusted friend in real life who is knowing, whomever. No, you don't want to talk about your chastity all the time with them. But ask them if they would occasionally be a sounding board for you. It has been beneficial for me to have had several people I could message with about this. And some were so devilish as to tease me about it. (I am very grateful to them as humiliation is a wonderful thing to me.)
4. Constantly reflect on the accomplishments you have achieved already, particularly how long you have held out. And when single days turn into weeks and months, you will feel a pride of self that may not have been there before. You will have proven that you are stronger than you believed.
And lastly ...
5. Remember how good that pride of self felt. It will be something you will take into any future relationship.
By typing this posting, I am not trying to present myself as a success story. I'm quite the opposite. I would much rather be in a chastity cage with the keys being held by a woman who teases me and denies me even the privilege of edging.
But from this ongoing experiment, I have learned that absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder. It also helps to refocus priorities. And how absolutely important is that, when meeting someone who could be the missing piece of the puzzle? Wouldn't you want to have learned all the right lesson when you meet that person?
With hope, you are the missing piece of that person's puzzle too.
Best wishes.
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