My wife and I have experimented with chastity off and on for more than 10 years. Usually she loses interest in the "game" after a couple of weeks even though she admits that she gets turned on by my being denied. I'm hopeful that this time she has a better understanding of how deeply rooted in my psyche my need to be controlled is. We've now invested in a Bon4 Micro. I was intrigued by Bon4's relatively new "hinged, swivel ring" which makes it a lot easier for some of us to use compared to a traditional one-piece ring. The swivel eliminates the pinching problem that has always plagued hinged rings. Bon4 provides 7 differently sized rings which makes fitting easy. It's a bit on the heavy side, but I don't mind that and it's very nicely finished, no rough edges, etc. I recently went through 3 weeks of being locked up without relief using my previous cage which was a typical inexpensive Chinese one. Even though I'm still adjusting to the massiveness of the Bon4, I'm confident that I will be able to wear it for longer periods without relief. Personally, I'm one of those guys who would prefer to be caged and teased rather than being allowed to cum. Being controlled and denied is the greatest turn-on for me. This time around I've learned more about how to properly treat the whole subject of chastity with respect to my wife. I recognize that it isn't her central focus even if it is mine! LOL I let her take the lead. In the meantime I have take up most of the housework, laundry, etc, without being asked to do so. She seems to enjoy that change in the relationship. We'll see how it goes!