Hey everybody, I'm playing with chastity off and on. So sometimes I feel like locking myself up and sometimes I don't. Right now I'm at two weeks locked. And I really like being locked, but theres one problem I have: The longer I'm locked the more lonely I feel at times. And that's not about being horny without having a partner, but I mean emotionally (horny doesn't count as an emotion here^^). Now one could consider this a good thing, since this would lead me to looking for a partner with more effort right? Unfortunately no. I'm not a very social person. All the friends I have, I've known for at least 10 years now. I'm not good in social situations. The longer I'm locked up the more lonely I get, but ALSO the more anti-social I become somehow. And that's quite a problem for me, as I don't really wanna give up chastity. Is there someone with a similar problem, who maybe got an advice for me? Thanks
Uaral, When you're self locked are you afraid of being discovered? Are you ashamed of being locked? Either of those would lead you to stay away from people even more than you may already. If I'm right about that your wearing the cage is sort of a decision to not be with people. Is that what's going on? If yes, you might want to reconsider wearing your chastity device. Or, when you especially want to wear it make the conscious decision that your not going to engage with people then.
It’s not any help but I seem to be particularly antisocial and getting worse as I get older! I general hate social occasions and after coming across as confident and with a few lines of conversation, then hit a wall. I could talk for hours on subjects I know but these are not general social topics. I wish I could be more (any) help!
Well not particularly. I mean I really don't like meeting with strangers or getting to know new people, but it seems to be getting worse when I'm locked up for a few days. But I wouldn't say that I wear the cage just to have an excuse for not meeting people. Sigh.. I don't know. I guess I need to find the reason for this behaviour first for being able to maybe change something. Thanks for the reply That sounds pretty much like me to be honest. Todays society just seems to be really superficial and that just disgusts me. Maybe those thoughts just occur more often to me when I'm unable to masturbate? Because I've got deeper thoughts? Could be... I guess I don't really know myself that good Well what do you mean "I wish I could be more (any) help"? Pretty much every (serious) answer is of help for me. Anything that gets me thinking. So thanks
maybe you should try meetup.com. Just focus on doing the activities you would enjoy then as a benefit, you meet people with the same interests.
Uaral, I am self locked, permanently, but married. I don't have the same situation as you but I have found that it feels better to me when I am around female friends or even women in a random interaction with, work, store etc. I feel more confident, so does my wife, that I can have social interaction but my device reminds me that it is social interaction and that's it, so I end up being more relaxed and that turns in to more enjoyable interactions and the women subliminally end up more relaxed too. Then you appear more attractive. So the lock helps you be confident and well adjusted, which in turn makes you more desirable to be around. Then, who knows...