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The concept of chastity in Christian doctrine​

In Christian doctrine, chastity is not merely abstaining from extramarital or premarital sexual relations; it’s a commitment to purity in thoughts and actions, reflecting a heart aligned with God’s will. The Bible speaks to this, particularly in verses like 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4: “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you knows how to control his own body in holiness and honor.” Chastity is esteemed as a virtue that fortifies marriages, with traditional Christian views upholding sexual expression as a sacred bond exclusively shared between spouses.

The evolution of chastity devices throughout history​

The chastity belt and the chastity cage, widely believed to have been used in medieval times to ensure a woman’s fidelity, are actually steeped more in myth than historical accuracy. These devices have transitioned from their supposed historical use to a modern-day application, often within the realm of BDSM culture. This shift highlights a journey from a supposed tool of oppression to one of consensual exploration within adult relationships, marking a significant change in perception and use over the centuries.

The place of male chastity devices in contemporary Christian marriages​

Today’s use of devices like chastity belts, chastity cages or cock cages, is a far cry from historical connotations of enforced purity. In the context of a contemporary Christian marriage, such a device is not about imposing control but rather about the personal choice to use physical tokens as an expression of commitment and fidelity. Some Christian couples may opt for these devices to deepen trust and intimacy, always underpinned by mutual consent and respect. This decision is a private one, sitting within the sanctity of the marital covenant and aligning with the couple’s shared values and beliefs.

Misconceptions Around Male Chastity Devices​

Chastity devices as symbols of control versus mutual trust​

You might have heard that chastity devices are smack of control. But wait, there’s another side to this coin. For many Christian couples, these gadgets are not about one partner dominating the other; they’re about building an unshakeable fortress of mutual trust and respect. Imagine a space where both partners consent and playfully engage with the idea of chastity, strengthening their bond. Yes, that’s the reality for some. Take Sarah and John (names changed for privacy), who shared, “Using a device for chastity was a decision we made together, and it has surprisingly brought us closer.” It’s a far cry from coercive control—it’s consensual, it’s about power exchange by mutual agreement, and it’s all about trust.

The perceived incompatibility with Christian values​

Now, you might be thinking, “Do devices like cock cages really jive with Christian values?” It’s a valid question. The answer is nuanced. When used thoughtfully, these devices can be a testament to the commitment to purity and faithfulness within the marriage covenant. They are not inherently at odds with Christian principles. Instead, they’re tools that some couples find helpful for reinforcing the marital bond. Like a lock on a treasure chest, they can protect the precious connection between spouses. Remember, the heart of the matter is the intent—to honor and uplift the marriage, reflecting values like love, patience, and self-control.

The stigma of associating chastity devices with kink or fetish​

Let’s tackle the elephant in the room. There’s a stigma that chastity devices belong to the realm of kinks or fetishes, but in the context of marriage, they’re private and personal aids, not public statements. It’s all about the why and the how. In a marriage, a device like a chastity cage can be a shared secret, a personal journey of discovery, and an intimate experience between spouses. The intent defines their use—not the eye of the beholder. As one couple put it, “What we do to express our love and commitment is our business, and it has only enhanced our connection.” Within the sacred space of a Christian marriage, privacy is paramount, and the use of chastity devices remains a deeply personal choice.
Help me. You've told us that you make love with your mouth, that you get one release to every four orgasms of hers, etc. Personal behaviours that are public knowledge to whoever reads this list. But the use of a chastity device is too deeply personal to reveal? And this has something to do with Christ? What did I miss?
 
Help me. You've told us that you make love with your mouth, that you get one release to every four orgasms of hers, etc. Personal behaviours that are public knowledge to whoever reads this list. But the use of a chastity device is too deeply personal to reveal? And this has something to do with Christ? What did I miss?
Not sure I understand your question if this is to me. If you have a question about an article contact the writer. I just found it interesting that a church posted about this. Did I say this has something to do with Christ?? My context was we didn't want this to be beyond what our faith would allow. Did you confuse this post with some other comments from others??
 
If you're wondering if you as a couple will ever stop practicing chastity with a cage at a certain point or age once it becomes part of your lives, I am not sure, but I don't think so. We had a serious discussion two nights ago and the cage came off. Nothing sexual happened, the discussion was too serious. We both went about our day yesterday thinking about the other. When we went to bed last night, we both knew it had to go back on. There were no games being played, we just both knew in equal amounts it had to go back on without feeling any tension toward the other from our conversation, it was an equal understanding.

When I first drove by to see where Ann was for the day, I could see her concern for us. She looked at me and said, You Are Stuck With me. Her context was her concern for us being ok. I knew that maybe I wasn't stuck, but I want nothing else but her.
 
If you're wondering if you as a couple will ever stop practicing chastity with a cage at a certain point or age once it becomes part of your lives, I am not sure, but I don't think so. We had a serious discussion two nights ago and the cage came off. Nothing sexual happened, the discussion was too serious. We both went about our day yesterday thinking about the other. When we went to bed last night, we both knew it had to go back on. There were no games being played, we just both knew in equal amounts it had to go back on without feeling any tension toward the other from our conversation, it was an equal understanding.

When I first drove by to see where Ann was for the day, I could see her concern for us. She looked at me and said, You Are Stuck With me. Her context was her concern for us being ok. I knew that maybe I wasn't stuck, but I want nothing else but her.
This is normal life. We went through something similar yesterday, too. You two "got this"

Yeah the cage is very very difficult to fully pull away from
 
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Not sure I understand your question if this is to me. If you have a question about an article contact the writer. I just found it interesting that a church posted about this. Did I say this has something to do with Christ?? My context was we didn't want this to be beyond what our faith would allow. Did you confuse this post with some other comments from others??
apologies for my confusion.