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The concept of chastity in Christian doctrine​

In Christian doctrine, chastity is not merely abstaining from extramarital or premarital sexual relations; it’s a commitment to purity in thoughts and actions, reflecting a heart aligned with God’s will. The Bible speaks to this, particularly in verses like 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4: “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you knows how to control his own body in holiness and honor.” Chastity is esteemed as a virtue that fortifies marriages, with traditional Christian views upholding sexual expression as a sacred bond exclusively shared between spouses.

The evolution of chastity devices throughout history​

The chastity belt and the chastity cage, widely believed to have been used in medieval times to ensure a woman’s fidelity, are actually steeped more in myth than historical accuracy. These devices have transitioned from their supposed historical use to a modern-day application, often within the realm of BDSM culture. This shift highlights a journey from a supposed tool of oppression to one of consensual exploration within adult relationships, marking a significant change in perception and use over the centuries.

The place of male chastity devices in contemporary Christian marriages​

Today’s use of devices like chastity belts, chastity cages or cock cages, is a far cry from historical connotations of enforced purity. In the context of a contemporary Christian marriage, such a device is not about imposing control but rather about the personal choice to use physical tokens as an expression of commitment and fidelity. Some Christian couples may opt for these devices to deepen trust and intimacy, always underpinned by mutual consent and respect. This decision is a private one, sitting within the sanctity of the marital covenant and aligning with the couple’s shared values and beliefs.

Misconceptions Around Male Chastity Devices​

Chastity devices as symbols of control versus mutual trust​

You might have heard that chastity devices are smack of control. But wait, there’s another side to this coin. For many Christian couples, these gadgets are not about one partner dominating the other; they’re about building an unshakeable fortress of mutual trust and respect. Imagine a space where both partners consent and playfully engage with the idea of chastity, strengthening their bond. Yes, that’s the reality for some. Take Sarah and John (names changed for privacy), who shared, “Using a device for chastity was a decision we made together, and it has surprisingly brought us closer.” It’s a far cry from coercive control—it’s consensual, it’s about power exchange by mutual agreement, and it’s all about trust.

The perceived incompatibility with Christian values​

Now, you might be thinking, “Do devices like cock cages really jive with Christian values?” It’s a valid question. The answer is nuanced. When used thoughtfully, these devices can be a testament to the commitment to purity and faithfulness within the marriage covenant. They are not inherently at odds with Christian principles. Instead, they’re tools that some couples find helpful for reinforcing the marital bond. Like a lock on a treasure chest, they can protect the precious connection between spouses. Remember, the heart of the matter is the intent—to honor and uplift the marriage, reflecting values like love, patience, and self-control.

The stigma of associating chastity devices with kink or fetish​

Let’s tackle the elephant in the room. There’s a stigma that chastity devices belong to the realm of kinks or fetishes, but in the context of marriage, they’re private and personal aids, not public statements. It’s all about the why and the how. In a marriage, a device like a chastity cage can be a shared secret, a personal journey of discovery, and an intimate experience between spouses. The intent defines their use—not the eye of the beholder. As one couple put it, “What we do to express our love and commitment is our business, and it has only enhanced our connection.” Within the sacred space of a Christian marriage, privacy is paramount, and the use of chastity devices remains a deeply personal choice.
Help me. You've told us that you make love with your mouth, that you get one release to every four orgasms of hers, etc. Personal behaviours that are public knowledge to whoever reads this list. But the use of a chastity device is too deeply personal to reveal? And this has something to do with Christ? What did I miss?
 
Please notice the name Apostate Methodist
Worth nothing the methodists are christian in name only. They pretty openly defy biblical statements on homosexuality being a sin, believe trans women are actually women etc. It's textbook cherry picking to suit your needs.
 
Help me. You've told us that you make love with your mouth, that you get one release to every four orgasms of hers, etc. Personal behaviours that are public knowledge to whoever reads this list. But the use of a chastity device is too deeply personal to reveal? And this has something to do with Christ? What did I miss?
Not sure I understand your question if this is to me. If you have a question about an article contact the writer. I just found it interesting that a church posted about this. Did I say this has something to do with Christ?? My context was we didn't want this to be beyond what our faith would allow. Did you confuse this post with some other comments from others??
 
If you're wondering if you as a couple will ever stop practicing chastity with a cage at a certain point or age once it becomes part of your lives, I am not sure, but I don't think so. We had a serious discussion two nights ago and the cage came off. Nothing sexual happened, the discussion was too serious. We both went about our day yesterday thinking about the other. When we went to bed last night, we both knew it had to go back on. There were no games being played, we just both knew in equal amounts it had to go back on without feeling any tension toward the other from our conversation, it was an equal understanding.

When I first drove by to see where Ann was for the day, I could see her concern for us. She looked at me and said, You Are Stuck With me. Her context was her concern for us being ok. I knew that maybe I wasn't stuck, but I want nothing else but her.
 
If you're wondering if you as a couple will ever stop practicing chastity with a cage at a certain point or age once it becomes part of your lives, I am not sure, but I don't think so. We had a serious discussion two nights ago and the cage came off. Nothing sexual happened, the discussion was too serious. We both went about our day yesterday thinking about the other. When we went to bed last night, we both knew it had to go back on. There were no games being played, we just both knew in equal amounts it had to go back on without feeling any tension toward the other from our conversation, it was an equal understanding.

When I first drove by to see where Ann was for the day, I could see her concern for us. She looked at me and said, You Are Stuck With me. Her context was her concern for us being ok. I knew that maybe I wasn't stuck, but I want nothing else but her.
This is normal life. We went through something similar yesterday, too. You two "got this"

Yeah the cage is very very difficult to fully pull away from
 
Not sure I understand your question if this is to me. If you have a question about an article contact the writer. I just found it interesting that a church posted about this. Did I say this has something to do with Christ?? My context was we didn't want this to be beyond what our faith would allow. Did you confuse this post with some other comments from others??
apologies for my confusion.
 
Chastity is already part of our life because it contributes to a better and more trusting relationship.
Last Saturday my wife released me in the morning. Nothing happened between us but I was out of the cage. I don't know why but finally I was playing with myself and finally I ended alone. I felt really bad and told my wife what I have done. She told me it was unacceptable. Them I put in on the cage and in the the night I told her I was already wearing it. “That is what you have to do” it is all what She said. And I have to admit that I feel better and safe from masturbation when I am caged
 
Yep absolutely agree again. It may be difficult for me to give complete autonomy up of my own sexual activity to someone else, I wouldn't trade the intimacy my Wife and i share for anything, let alone going back to Her feeling obligated to "get me off"

So yes, while most would reject how we are giving our Wives, what we are giving our Wives, some would be curious and secretly want to try. Some further would try it. Those will find what we have found. The intimacy levels available to practitioners of chastity
Not everyone wants to be a samurai, a monk, a top-flight research scientist, or a pro cyclist. The blessed of us find a cause (spouse) to pour our devotion into.

Peace!
 
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Way back in February, you posted some very insightful, constructive comments. But by April, you reverted to slamming the notion that male chastity could have a spiritual significance: In a thread started by an unapologetic person of faith with many posters who also incorporate chastity into their faith.

You and The Jay's (c) consistently apoplecticly decry, disparage, and dismiss this view and, just as consistently, demand we leave religion out of the ongoing discussions. In effect, we're asked to go make our own threads and stop inserting our beliefs into somebody else's conversations.

That's what @John&Ann did. Why do you feel compelled to insert your unbelief into this particular ongoing discussion? You've got the entire rest of CM to work with. If course you're as welcome as anybody to say what you want when/where you want. But why would you choose to hound and goad in this particular thread?

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I think you're better than that (not sure about The Jay's (c). Lol, kidding)

I actually have agreed with (and even liked) the vast majority of what you contribute to the Mansion. You have a very straightforward, no nonsense thinking/writing style that is quite often intelligent and insightful, and you have a very keen sense of humor. If I still drank, I'd probably like a chance to have a beer together.

Maybe we can spar about beliefs in other threads?
 
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Way back in February, you posted some very insightful, constructive comments. But by April, you reverted to slamming the notion that male chastity could have a spiritual significance: In a thread started by an unapologetic person of faith with many posters who also incorporate chastity into their faith.

You and The Jay's (c) consistently apoplecticly decry, disparage, and dismiss this view and, just as consistently, demand we leave religion out of the ongoing discussions. In effect, we're asked to go make our own threads and stop inserting our beliefs into somebody else's conversations.

That's what @John&Ann did. Why do you feel compelled to insert your unbelief into this particular ongoing discussion? You've got the entire rest of CM to work with. If course you're as welcome as anybody to say what you want when/where you want. But why would you choose to hound and goad in this particular thread?

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I think you're better than that (not sure about The Jay's (c). Lol, kidding)

I actually have agreed with (and even liked) the vast majority of what you contribute to the Mansion. You have a very straightforward, no nonsense thinking/writing style that is quite often intelligent and insightful, and you have a very keen sense of humor. If I still drank, I'd probably like a chance to have a beer together.

Maybe we can spar about beliefs in other threads?
I've actually by and large left this thread alone. Even agreed with it until mental gymnastics to make wearing a sex toy biblical came to be. Aren't there plenty of genuine christian sites to discuss these things? Oh that's right you all know it is a kink and it is a sex toy and how that conversation would go.
 
I've actually by and large left this thread alone. Even agreed with it until mental gymnastics to make wearing a sex toy biblical came to be. Aren't there plenty of genuine christian sites to discuss these things? Oh that's right you all know it is a kink and it is a sex toy and how that conversation would go.
Sure, there are plenty of, ostensibly, Christian sites. There are also plenty of agnostic sites, atheistic sites, irrelegous sites, faithless sites, irreverent sites, anti religious sites, ad infinitum.

Those other sites would have a point in rejecting openly faith-based ideas (proselytizing, you might say) because of the site's specific intent.

This site is intended to exchange, explore, and examine aspects of male chastity. Perhaps one could say *all* aspects of it, even ones viewed through the lens of personal faith.

There is a demonstrably higher ratio of folks here who are already familiar with chastity (100%) than on sites to which you would relegate any mention of spirituality. That makes it an appropriate site for this particular aspect rather than sites where male chastity is nowhere near as commonly discussed.

Your view that it is a toy-involved kink is, to me, only as valid as you allow others to have a different view. Neither view outranks the other. You very often correctly point out that there is no "right" way to do chasity. Why is it, then, that there is only one way to view it: yours?
 
Sure, there are plenty of, ostensibly, Christian sites. There are also plenty of agnostic sites, atheistic sites, irrelegous sites, faithless sites, irreverent sites, anti religious sites, ad infinitum.

Those other sites would have a point in rejecting openly faith-based ideas (proselytizing, you might say) because of the site's specific intent.

This site is intended to exchange, explore, and examine aspects of male chastity. Perhaps one could say *all* aspects of it, even ones viewed through the lens of personal faith.

There is a demonstrably higher ratio of folks here who are already familiar with chastity (100%) than on sites to which you would relegate any mention of spirituality. That makes it an appropriate site for this particular aspect rather than sites where male chastity is nowhere near as commonly discussed.

Your view that it is a toy-involved kink is, to me, only as valid as you allow others to have a different view. Neither view outranks the other. You very often correctly point out that there is no "right" way to do chasity. Why is it, then, that there is only one way to view it: yours?
I observe let's call them bar rules here, no politics or religion. Faith is like a dick have one don't shove it in people's faces. When people are being caged, pegged, nipples tortured and balls crushed in name of god I'm going to have some fun with it. Because we all know if we admit it or not how ludicrous it actually is.
 
Faith is like a dick have one don't shove it in people's faces.
I agree, but you came into the thread pushing your ideas in people's faces.

When people are being caged, pegged, nipples tortured and balls crushed in name of god I'm going to have some fun with it. Because we all know if we admit it or not how ludicrous it actually is.
Sounds like some of those folks are having fun too! Lol

Why do you get to define what's ludicrous and what isn't? Opinions are like belly buttons: everybody's got one. Why is your belly button better than So-and-so's? (And I'm begging you, please don't post a picture of it! 😂😭)

Isn't the general rule to "not yuck someone else's yum?" Why is that a selective rule? Spanking is great, months of denial are celebrated, but God isn't welcome? Isn't the overarching theme of the Mansion that all opinions are welcome as long as expressing them stays inside the ToS?

Disagreeing about opinions is wholely separate from being disagreeable and combative Belly button lint notwithstanding, of course. 😁
 
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I agree, but you came into the thread pushing your ideas in people's faces.


Sounds like some of those folks are having fun too! Lol

Why do you get to define what's ludicrous and what isn't? Opinions are like belly buttons: everybody's got one. Why is your belly button better than So-and-so's? (And I'm begging you, please don't post a picture of it! 😂😭)

Isn't the general rule to "not yuck someone else's yum?" Why is that a selective rule? Spanking is great, months of denial are celebrated, but God isn't welcome? Isn't the overarching theme of the Mansion that all opinions are welcome as long as expressing them stays inside the ToS?

Disagreeing about opinions is wholely separate from being disagreeable and combative Belly button lint notwithstanding, of course. 😁
It's your own book that doesn't agree with these things. We both know this. Belly buttons haven't had mass genocide in their name either. Talk about whatever you please expect people to disagree though. Like the journals, everyone gets mad it's not an echo chamber while posting for the whole world to see. You want a personal echo chamber keep your journal in your nightstand.
 
It's your own book that doesn't agree with these things. We both know this. Belly buttons haven't had mass genocide in their name either. Talk about whatever you please expect people to disagree though. Like the journals, everyone gets mad it's not an echo chamber while posting for the whole world to see. You want a personal echo chamber keep your journal in your nightstand.
What you know about my Book is different than what I know about it. Sure, I encounter folks every day with whom I disagree. Only a tiny fraction of them are needlessly argumentative, and often just for the sake of being argumentative.

Perhaps everyone else gets mad, I just accept disagreement. I don't see any reason to get upset by some rando on the internet who locks his junk in a metal tube.

It seems you're compelled to denegrate people of faith - disagreeing isn't enough. I wonder why that is. I wonder what you hope to achieve. You're not likely to be talked into having faith, and believers are not likely to be talked out of it. Particularly by constant combativeness.

I've seen very few instances of folks saying, "you have to follow my religion." Nearly every post referencing faith has been, "I have found meaning and purpose, and would like to share it." Why is that so very irksome? Much of what you post could fall into the "meaning and purpose" category as well.

Does tearing down somebody else build up the demolitioner, or does it reveal part of their character?

Sorry for wall-of-text postings today. I'm off work for a dr appt have a lot of idle time. 😊
 
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What you know about my Book is different than what I know about it. Sure, I encounter folks every day with whom I disagree. Only a tiny fraction of them are needlessly argumentative, and often just for the sake of being argumentative.

Perhaps everyone else gets mad, I just accept disagreement. I don't see any reason to get upset by some rando on the internet who locks his junk in a metal tube.

It seems you're compelled to denegrate people of faith - disagreeing isn't enough. I wonder why that is. I wonder what you hope to achieve. You're not likely to be talked into having faith, and believers are not likely to be talked out of it. Particularly by constant combativeness.

I've seen very few instances of folks saying, "you have to follow my religion." Nearly every post referencing faith has been, "I have found meaning and purpose, and would like to share it." Why is that so very irksome? Much of what you post could fall into the "meaning and purpose" category as well.

Does tearing down somebody else build up the demolitioner, or does it reveal part of their character?

Sorry for wall-of-text postings today. I'm off work for a dr appt have a lot of idle time. 😊
I have no problem with people of faith, though most people claim to be pious are some the worst degenerates I've ever met. I've had people of faith here talk way worse to me in mail hiding of course. Then I've ever spoken to anyone. It's more time and place personally, a kink site ain't it. Not to mention religious trauma is a thing. Again not personally, but it exists. Fact is none of you will stand at those gates and say i took that dildo while caged for you lord. Its trying to reconcile the irreconcilable.
 
I guess I'll just leave it as an agreement to disagree.

At least if we wind up in the same place after those gates (even if thats not scriptural) we can look at each other and say, "I told you so." By God's grace, we'll need shorts and sun glasses rather than asbestos and ice buckets.

(I'd be happy to tell you what I know about that Grace if you ever want to consider it)
 
I guess I'll just leave it as an agreement to disagree.

At least if we wind up in the same place after those gates (even if thats not scriptural) we can look at each other and say, "I told you so." By God's grace, we'll need shorts and sun glasses rather than asbestos and ice buckets.

(I'd be happy to tell you what I know about that Grace if you ever want to consider it)
No thank you I did my time and learned all I needed to.