I've just posted this to my journal but would be interested in reactions/advice so am cross-posting here - I hope that's ok.
We had an interesting discussion about size this morning. Not My Pete's size, but the size of his cage and how it affects him. Since we frst experiemented with a 'toy' cage (which was miles too big) about a year and a half ago, he's had a few models of various lengths.
He recently noticed that there was often a little gap between his tip and the end of the cage and thought it would be easier to pee neatly if he had a slightly shorter model. And he was also finding that his sleep was being disturbed (mostly when he was very desperate) as he could get the beginnings of being hard enough to start pulling. Since the slightly shorter one arrived he's been experimenting with both, two days or so at a time for each. He asked me which I prefer but until we had the conversation this morning, I had no preference - I could hardly spot the difference to be honest, so I've left it to him to choose which he'd like.
He says that the slightly smaller one does occasionally make it easier to pee but actually doesn't make that much difference. He said it's a bit early to say but he thought he slept better in the smaller one because any erections are 'nipped in the bud' so he doesn't seem to expand enough to start pulling. At this point, I'd lost concentration on what he was saying because I didn't really mind which he chose - whichever felt more comfortable. But then he said that he thought they each affected him differently, mentally. That woke me up!
He said that the recent experiement had confirmed what he'd thought when we tried various cherry keepers a while back. He said the smaller one, while physically marginally more comfortable, seemed to suppress his libido. He said he felt that because sexy thoughts are so bound up with his physical response that when the physical side is totally constrained, it seems to affect his mental response as well. And because his physical response was in turn tied up with his maleness, he thought the smaller one made him feel somewhat emasculated and he was worried about this feeling spilling over into the rest of our lives. The slightly larger one, allowing him to get the merest beginning of an erection feels more like the 'caged animal' that we discussed at the outset of our project, rather than having his 'sexuality completely squashed'. He said that with the smaller one, he finds that he thinks about sex less than when he's wearing the larger one!
The difference betwen the two cages hardly seems significant to me - probably about a centimetre, and yet he's reporting a fundamental difference in his mental state! I found this amazing. I said that unless the occasional sleep issue or the pee thing became serious then I'd much prefer him in the slightly larger model - I want him desperate, frustrated and aroused, not squashed and emasculated. He looked extremely relieved! I said I'd keep the smaller cage though, "in case I change my mind and decide you really need it". Cue the frightened rabbit expression!
Sal
(I'm also posting this to the bit of the forum about devices, in case others have the same sort of experiences or can make any recommendations about other things to try)
We had an interesting discussion about size this morning. Not My Pete's size, but the size of his cage and how it affects him. Since we frst experiemented with a 'toy' cage (which was miles too big) about a year and a half ago, he's had a few models of various lengths.
He recently noticed that there was often a little gap between his tip and the end of the cage and thought it would be easier to pee neatly if he had a slightly shorter model. And he was also finding that his sleep was being disturbed (mostly when he was very desperate) as he could get the beginnings of being hard enough to start pulling. Since the slightly shorter one arrived he's been experimenting with both, two days or so at a time for each. He asked me which I prefer but until we had the conversation this morning, I had no preference - I could hardly spot the difference to be honest, so I've left it to him to choose which he'd like.
He says that the slightly smaller one does occasionally make it easier to pee but actually doesn't make that much difference. He said it's a bit early to say but he thought he slept better in the smaller one because any erections are 'nipped in the bud' so he doesn't seem to expand enough to start pulling. At this point, I'd lost concentration on what he was saying because I didn't really mind which he chose - whichever felt more comfortable. But then he said that he thought they each affected him differently, mentally. That woke me up!
He said that the recent experiement had confirmed what he'd thought when we tried various cherry keepers a while back. He said the smaller one, while physically marginally more comfortable, seemed to suppress his libido. He said he felt that because sexy thoughts are so bound up with his physical response that when the physical side is totally constrained, it seems to affect his mental response as well. And because his physical response was in turn tied up with his maleness, he thought the smaller one made him feel somewhat emasculated and he was worried about this feeling spilling over into the rest of our lives. The slightly larger one, allowing him to get the merest beginning of an erection feels more like the 'caged animal' that we discussed at the outset of our project, rather than having his 'sexuality completely squashed'. He said that with the smaller one, he finds that he thinks about sex less than when he's wearing the larger one!
The difference betwen the two cages hardly seems significant to me - probably about a centimetre, and yet he's reporting a fundamental difference in his mental state! I found this amazing. I said that unless the occasional sleep issue or the pee thing became serious then I'd much prefer him in the slightly larger model - I want him desperate, frustrated and aroused, not squashed and emasculated. He looked extremely relieved! I said I'd keep the smaller cage though, "in case I change my mind and decide you really need it". Cue the frightened rabbit expression!
Sal
(I'm also posting this to the bit of the forum about devices, in case others have the same sort of experiences or can make any recommendations about other things to try)
