Let's face it. The unchaste man ( I was one myself 2 months ago) will touch himself subconsciously many times during a normal day. I would do it myself without a thought until today.
It isn't always because a guy needs adjust himself or because of arousal. I believe, that sometimes we use it as a comforter, a soother if you like. When stressed or thinking over a problem that needs resolving I would (when alone) squeeze my stuff like a stressball. It relaxes and grounds me, there is no intention to get aroused. When you grow up with no guilt associated with masturbating, touching yourself is the most natural thing. It only becomes a problem when that touching too often leads to the point where you watch some porn and "A wank" is inevitable. Which leads to a downward spiral of excessive use, which ends up being to the detriment of your relationship.
Now, obviously in chastity, I have been more aware that when I do this I'm not able to get the same feeling in my HTv4 Small. My theory is that the beautiful, sexy verbal teasing, and texting that our wonderful wifes, Mistresses, lovers, Keyholders aay and send to us, give us the same feeling when touching no longer applies. It replaces the subconscious self-touching with something better. The thought of things that have not yet come to pass. And is an integral part of the experience in chastity.
It isn't always because a guy needs adjust himself or because of arousal. I believe, that sometimes we use it as a comforter, a soother if you like. When stressed or thinking over a problem that needs resolving I would (when alone) squeeze my stuff like a stressball. It relaxes and grounds me, there is no intention to get aroused. When you grow up with no guilt associated with masturbating, touching yourself is the most natural thing. It only becomes a problem when that touching too often leads to the point where you watch some porn and "A wank" is inevitable. Which leads to a downward spiral of excessive use, which ends up being to the detriment of your relationship.
Now, obviously in chastity, I have been more aware that when I do this I'm not able to get the same feeling in my HTv4 Small. My theory is that the beautiful, sexy verbal teasing, and texting that our wonderful wifes, Mistresses, lovers, Keyholders aay and send to us, give us the same feeling when touching no longer applies. It replaces the subconscious self-touching with something better. The thought of things that have not yet come to pass. And is an integral part of the experience in chastity.