The importance of verbal teasing

How important is it to you with 0 being not important at all and 5 very important

  • 1 Meh!

  • 2 Can live without it

  • 3 Can take it or leave it

  • 4 Would miss it

  • 5 Couldn't live without it


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Let's face it. The unchaste man ( I was one myself 2 months ago) will touch himself subconsciously many times during a normal day. I would do it myself without a thought until today.

It isn't always because a guy needs adjust himself or because of arousal. I believe, that sometimes we use it as a comforter, a soother if you like. When stressed or thinking over a problem that needs resolving I would (when alone) squeeze my stuff like a stressball. It relaxes and grounds me, there is no intention to get aroused. When you grow up with no guilt associated with masturbating, touching yourself is the most natural thing. It only becomes a problem when that touching too often leads to the point where you watch some porn and "A wank" is inevitable. Which leads to a downward spiral of excessive use, which ends up being to the detriment of your relationship.

Now, obviously in chastity, I have been more aware that when I do this I'm not able to get the same feeling in my HTv4 Small. My theory is that the beautiful, sexy verbal teasing, and texting that our wonderful wifes, Mistresses, lovers, Keyholders aay and send to us, give us the same feeling when touching no longer applies. It replaces the subconscious self-touching with something better. The thought of things that have not yet come to pass. And is an integral part of the experience in chastity.
 
Being verbally teased fits in with my submissive desires for a long time. Now that i'm apparently caged full time, it is a primary source of erotic arousal. Not relief, just arousal.
And with no arousal there is no want for relief
 
Let's face it. The unchaste man ( I was one myself 2 months ago) will touch himself subconsciously many times during a normal day. I would do it myself without a thought until today.

It isn't always because a guy needs adjust himself or because of arousal. I believe, that sometimes we use it as a comforter, a soother if you like. When stressed or thinking over a problem that needs resolving I would (when alone) squeeze my stuff like a stressball. It relaxes and grounds me, there is no intention to get aroused. When you grow up with no guilt associated with masturbating, touching yourself is the most natural thing. It only becomes a problem when that touching too often leads to the point where you watch some porn and "A wank" is inevitable. Which leads to a downward spiral of excessive use, which ends up being to the detriment of your relationship.

Now, obviously in chastity, I have been more aware that when I do this I'm not able to get the same feeling in my HTv4 Small. My theory is that the beautiful, sexy verbal teasing, and texting that our wonderful wifes, Mistresses, lovers, Keyholders aay and send to us, give us the same feeling when touching no longer applies. It replaces the subconscious self-touching with something better. The thought of things that have not yet come to pass. And is an integral part of the experience in chastity.

The verbal is intimate. Her voice is soft, whispering terribly naughty things in your ear. Things you can't admit, or at least not yet...
Let's face it. The unchaste man ( I was one myself 2 months ago) will touch himself subconsciously many times during a normal day. I would do it myself without a thought until today.

It isn't always because a guy needs adjust himself or because of arousal. I believe, that sometimes we use it as a comforter, a soother if you like. When stressed or thinking over a problem that needs resolving I would (when alone) squeeze my stuff like a stressball. It relaxes and grounds me, there is no intention to get aroused. When you grow up with no guilt associated with masturbating, touching yourself is the most natural thing. It only becomes a problem when that touching too often leads to the point where you watch some porn and "A wank" is inevitable. Which leads to a downward spiral of excessive use, which ends up being to the detriment of your relationship.

Now, obviously in chastity, I have been more aware that when I do this I'm not able to get the same feeling in my HTv4 Small. My theory is that the beautiful, sexy verbal teasing, and texting that our wonderful wifes, Mistresses, lovers, Keyholders aay and send to us, give us the same feeling when touching no longer applies. It replaces the subconscious self-touching with something better. The thought of things that have not yet come to pass. And is an integral part of the experience in chastity.

The verbal is intimate.
"Her" voice is soft, whispering terribly naughty things in your ear. Things you can't admit, or at least not yet.
Or maybe you can.
Either way, "she's" hot.
 
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Verbal is 90% of it. I always said that BKwife mouth is one of her best attributes, and it not because of the oral sex. The things that come out of her mouth are unbelievable. It’s to the point that I am hooked her talking to me and I crave it like a drug.
 
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I think it is important when there has been no "physical intimacy". I know it would be ridiculous to say I NEED some type of intimacy daily, but it does make the day a lot better... So when my wife is not interested in something physical, it is nice when you give me some emotional or verbal intimacy.

No one likes being ignored, but if you get something too much you might take it for granted...
 
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I am in the camp of "I would like more" which was not a choice. lol. Along with the the mental stimulation, it also tells me a lot about her. It can be a re-assurence that my effort is worth it for her and that this path will continue.
 
I am in the camp of "I would like more" which was not a choice. lol. Along with the the mental stimulation, it also tells me a lot about her. It can be a re-assurence that my effort is worth it for her and that this path will continue.

I am in the same boat, I would like more but it's a slow start for my wife. Getting better and better as the weeks gone. Not sure why I didn't have it as an option.
 
My wife clearly prefers to be much more tactile with her teasing. I actually really like how she'll talk like everything's perfectly vanilla while simultaneously groping my caged cock and balls through my pants while we cuddle on the sofa. Then there's the "oops, my hand slipped" as we brush by each other in our narrow hallway.
 
I would love more, much more if I'm honest. @Boudoir_girl teases sometimes via text along with sending pictures to frustrate me whilst caged, I love it when she promises I can have an "o" later in the day and then changes her mind . Or sends sph texts. I love her to bits and I'm so lucky to have her in my life
 
Verbal teasing to us is very very important to both of us, I love madam to tease me, and madam loves being able to make me suffer with just a few words.