Is male chastity the ultimate bottom topper?

Hand up here. My GF introduced me to this lifestyle. She wanted it for years and was very careful/cleaver in how she introduced this. Neither of us can understand why more women don't want this.

 

It takes 2 to tango. I introduced the idea if my chastity to my princess. I have talked openly at every step of the way about what I like and don't like. But I've also asked her the same. I've made it clear this is only erotic if she gets a kick from it. My princess is an amazing woman but she's not psychic. Communucation is the only way to make any relationships work. But you must quadruple that for any relationship where you are dabling in consensual non consent.

 

A guy can always get a set of bolt cutter and file for divorce if he wants. There has to be some level of consent.

 

Of cause but you still alowing it. I think three is a deeper discussion that co7ld be had if you start talking about hormones and mental conditioning. But ultimately if you get in the boxing ring you have to be willing to take a punch.

 

A fair number of dominant women don't like chastity devices for exactly the reasons that you raise. On the other hand, for others chastity is a useful tool.

 

I don't agree with your premise. Many of us chaste husbands are admitted masturbators whose wives are happy to gain control over that behavior.

 

Perfect for some, not for others. Don't project your desires onto everyone. My Wife likes me in the chastity device.

 

Probably because they don't know about it, and women are often alarmed by men who bring up their fetishes quickly in the relationship. So a lot of people get into relationships before these arrangements have been made.
In my experience, only women who are seriously involved in BDSM know about male chastity, women who dabble in BDSM often think that it is supposed to be the woman who's submissive. At least where I live. And also, patriarchy is a living thing and many women don't dare or know how to take up the whip, they are used to submitting and therefore simply never look at the possibility of dominating a man on their own.

Before I got into this kink, I was already into BDSM and also interested in topping. Now I have experience with topping a man, I would not want it any other way. But many women never get to this point, or even close to it.

 

Some time ago my then wife and I accidently discovered male chastity whilst browsing the internet together.
On reflection it was no accident
She got giddy about us trying it................. so definitely her idea.

Not that I'm complaining

 

If you read My profile info you'll see why I embraced it. Unfortunately it failed. I will say all males should be in chastity.

 

...i was certainly one...

 

In our case it was me thatmentioned male submission initially, and very early in our relationship. Miss Amanda had never encountered or considered this form of power exchange before, and was at first non-commital about it.

After about two weeks, Miss A. had read extensively about female control and FLR online, and to be honest had achieved a better understanding of it than I had. She said she wanted to exlore it, subject to certain restrictions, all of which have over the last 6 years been removed.

This has been a journey which continues. We have both learned a lot about ourselves, each other, and how the relationship works for us.

Returning to the original posted question. I initiated the Femdom nature of our relationship, but Miss A. picked it up and ran with it. Not all women would want this, but my guess is that if they all had a chance to experience control, there would be a lot that wanted to keep it.

 

Shame it failed. And all men in chastity will certainly led to a less messier world.

 

It is certainly true that I introduced chastity, and even that she was reluctant to embrace it at first. But that was many years ago now, and it is no longer in my control. I do not decide if or when I am locked or unlocked. If I am unlocked and suggest to her it should be otherwise, it falls on deaf ears. If I am locked and suggest that she might unlock me I am lucky if all she does is laugh it off, as generally that only results in her keeping me locked up longer.

 

You have put into words one of the most exciting aspects of this, IMO. Thank you.