My unexpected life

lol, xcite, so many ideas in my head. Alas, I'll be good. Your Goddess seems to be thoroughly in charge with no need for more ideas! She has you in a lather! Well done Goddess Mel!

Here's hoping the kids fall asleep early, and the parents have enough energy to enjoy it!

mike

 

I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's not like you were ataully masturbating.. or were you?!?

Perhaps this is a sign that she needs to let you have more spervised releases? Ruined orgasm anyone? :smilies_xxx12:

 

Whoops! :sign0094: heh. Well, I guess you were READY!

I'm sure Goddess will find a way to have you make it up to her!

 

Thanks for the reply. I'm not trying to upset anyone and trust me I am NOT an expert nor a doctor so take everything I say with a huge grain of salt. The things I've read all say frequent ejaculations lower the risk of prostate cancer. I don't think anyone yet has figured out what causes it. I WISH! I have several family members who have died from this shit. I didn't mention it but I've been looking at the way the CB works. Since it clamps the Testes away from the body they can't move up inside you (for Temp control) I wonder if that might also be a health issue? I read somewhere that getting them too warm or cold contributed to testicle cancer. I have to do more reading on that.

I've been curious about this lifestyle since I stumbled onto it thanks to Google. And to be honest while I can't easily see myself having a CB locked onto me its still interesting! I've always been curious about what motivates people. And I don't think having a family that is run by the woman is or should be that odd. In other societies its very common. And if there is some "Boot camp" to re-train a guy in this situation it all makes more sense to me.

Anyway, regarding my "putrifying" comment. Dead sperm and old fluids collecting to me (anyway) seem accurate. I admit this is more my slant and may not be medically accurate as a term but I'll google putrify later and maybe send a correction.

Maybe its just huckster science but it "seems" like having a bloated prostate full of dead stuff would be less healthy then an empty one that is rinsed out regularly. As to the joy of Anal? Well I don't disagree and coming from someone who get either and or it can still be great.

Anyway, thanks for the replies and thanks for letting me spout off my 2 cents worth.

Jimi

 

I enjoy discussion

The report I linked to ONLY concluded that ejaculation frequency is NOT related to a increase risk of prostrate cancer. i.e. Ejaculating more does not increase the risk of prostrate cancer.
The news media twisted it and added the word MAY - Frequent ejaculation MAY be linked to decreased risk ..

They had to say MAY because the data of the study did not show this.

The correlation they made was pretty low (Relative Risk of 0.89 was the strongest for >21 ejaculation/month vs 4-7). No scientific conclusion can be made from that.

http://www.numberwatch.co.uk/RR.htm
...
"As a general rule of thumb, we are looking for a relative risk of 3 or more before accepting a paper for publication." - Marcia Angell, editor of the New England Journal of Medicine"

"My basic rule is if the relative risk isn't at least 3 or 4, forget it." - Robert Temple, director of drug evaluation at the Food and Drug Administration.

"An association is generally considered weak if the odds ratio [relative risk] is under 3.0 and particularly when it is under 2.0, as is the case in the relationship of ETS and lung cancer." - Dr. Kabat, IAQC epidemiologist

Logic says nothing dead remains in the body. It is absorbed into the blood and removed by the liver and kidneys, or excreted. Cells die every day (blood/brain/liver/etc) and are removed. Rotting involve bacterial decay which does not happen unless you are severely ill.

I don't have a reason to pick one side or another, I am just looking at this as an engineer. The results do not support the Media title. They DO support the study Title and conclusions, which is opposite of what the Media says.

Interesting stuff!
js

PS - if the Wife ever takes an interest in milking or Ruined O's I will be on that in an instant!

js

 

I will have to study your relative risk site and yes, I understand how numbers can be used with the right verbage to make a ridiculous point but I would like to quote what I found on the web. Maybe total BS? I really can't say but as a guy who has Prostate Cancer in the family tree?

And for what its worth have you seen ANYTHING posted about medical news that doesn't use the word "MAY" in it? Ever??? XYZ Drug MAY reduce your risk of stroke etc...

"Men who reported between four and seven ejaculations a month over their adult lifetime had an 11 percent lower chance of developing prostate cancer than those who ejaculated no more than three times a month. Every three-ejaculations-per-week increase across a man's lifetime was associated with a 15 percent drop in prostate cancer risk.

The modest effect of occasional ejaculation could simply illustrate that it doesn't raise the risk of prostate cancer, Leitzmann and his colleagues said.

But men who ejaculated at least 21 times a month had a 33 percent lower chance of developing prostate cancer, suggesting that frequent ejaculation does indeed protect the prostate from growing tumors. "

I don't btw disagree that the dead sperm ARE ejected. Dead cells? Putrified Cells? Thats really what nocturnal emissions "Wet dreams" are unless I missed a page. When the prostate is plugged full of "crap" and has no place to go it just gets flushed.

Putrify - "Decomposition (or spoilage) refers to the reduction of the body of a formerly living organism into simpler forms of matter"

I think I used the word correctly. Formerly living cells decomposing into simpler forms of matter. I think anyone who has smelled soiled undies or cum stains can ID that this is "spoiled" or at least smells so.

 

I won't tell you that some of the stories make me warm but... I must be honest. I guess my interest is more academic since I first came here. Its clear to me that some points about this are the same for many relationships. I would like your feedback if I've got this right.

Chastity and denial are tools to re-educate men into a new sort of lifestyle. Some go beyond this and add physical punishment like whips etc.

The early stages are either serious denial for rather long terms as a sort of boot camp or... Its highly filled with kinks and sex to encourage the male to accept increasing controls.

more advanced stages increase the denial and make almost total the service aspect of the male so that he becomes less a factor in any (typical male) decision making, sex, finances etc.

At some point in this the male is broken fully and gladly (or not) accepts his fate. Some own their new position with such gusto that they hate orgasm because it may lower (for a short time) their desire to serve their dominant female.

The female part of this I'm not fully understanding. Clearly its good to be King (or rather Queen) but having a neutered male for a lover can't be that good no matter how well he does oral sex? Or Maybe I don't get that part.

Another stage for some (many?) is that the male is feminized. This maybe part of the males wish? (*Or is just a way to humiliate him?) To aspire to what he thinks is perfection? ie the Female? Or is it the woman dom that wants him put in his place or? Again, I'm not clear on the motives.

Cuckolding seems like a natural next step when the woman seeks a 100% all male companion in bed to give her what she is by now lacking from her chastised (and possibly feminized) male. The chastised male who is now totally devoted to his female dom is more then happy to see this, assist her and even watch and clean up (Cream Pies) Some even participate with the male bull to give the female dom a visual thrill and to add to his humiliation.

Or course there are wide variations on this. I've seen blogs from couples that never use Chastity or denial but are very active in Cuckolding which seems a more advanced stage. I've also seen posts from people who use Chastity for very short term control then have wild sex together on a very regular basis.

The part that puzzles me is that so many follow the basic pattern and I wonder if thats the real goal of either of both of the people in a couple doing this and if everything else is just a short term error?

I think you have to be in "subspace" to "get" subspace. Correct?

 

Wow Jimi... all I can say is I think you totally missed the mark! I would say that many of your conclusions seem to be based on half truths and internet fiction and hence are erroneous. Those that are based on what might be more truthful content are too generalized to be truly useful. The bit about subspace is correct, the rest... well, I'm not so sure.

Keep in mind that those of us that post here (and on other sites) are a SMALL sampling of people involved in this lifestyle. From the small sampling of people I have meet in real life (and those online that I get a sense of realism from), chastity, tease and denial and cuckolding are all just games that are played as part of a greater BDSM lifestyle (even if they don't call it BDSM). Feminization is a different matter and I don't feel qualified to talk much on that subject.

In all honesty these activities defy true explanation. My attitude is that you ether get it or you don't (and most people don't). There are simply too many factors that make other people tick and action B does not necessarily follow action A.

Feel free to ask questions of me and my lifestyle if you like, but not on this thread if you please, I would not want to hijack Xcite's journal. I will answer as best I can so you might figure me out. Just keep in mind that what makes me tick is probably not going to apply to others.

 

Sorry I didn't mean to redirect this thread and I'll take your advise and post on a new one. I'm glad you both replied. I had a fair idea that I just didn't "get it" and your right. I've collected most of what I "thought" this was about by reading posts from others.

I guess I'm a bit like the chipmunk that looks up out of a sewer pipe grate and sees a lot of cars zipping around and makes conclusions of why these things are speeding by. ;-)

BDSM being the greater part of this I really (truly) didn't get. I know (and have read) even less on that aspect of things. Pain? I just don't enjoy getting or dishing out. Never have and I think never will.

As to the try it you will like it (Or at least will understand it) I admit to being a complete and total chicken! I really haven't the slightest inkling that my wife would enjoy taking control of my orgasms and doing "whatever" with me but... She might!? And as the forum says "Be careful what you wish for" I ahh... tip my hat to those of you brave enough to ask your wives to own your sex lives. I'm not mature enough (I think?) or brave enough (I'm SURE) for that. I think I understand that when a very beautiful woman says "Come here I want you to do XYZ" it would be very very difficult to not do XYZ and any other letter she might. And some of the pix of the women on this forum are quite attractive btw. Ok, I'm into hijack mode again sorry :sign0007: sorry!

Anyway thanks again for replying I am still curious and enjoy finding out more about this.

:ciao:

 

I feel exactly the same way about sport! And pet feels exactly the same way about gardening! And my kids feel exactly the same way about tidying up.

Look forward to you new thread, so we can all dig in!

Let us now resume our normal :haha4: service "My unexpected life"!!!!

 

Ooooh. a tight leash. That reminds me of a toy we haven't played with yet *wink*

 

Oooooooh! :sex007:

 

Best wishes to all concerned. Sometimes the end is better than lingering on. I am sure we are all with you.

 

xcitex, all the best to you and your family.

Peace,
mikecb

 

soeey to hear about you dad hope u and your family are well

 

Dollyanne is so sad to hear this, xcite. Definitely spend this quality time with your dad and take all the time you need. We will be right here, hoping that all is well for you and your family and that your dad recovers from this.

Warm Huggs,
dollyanne