Hello to all. At first, i wish to appologise for my not so good english – it is not my native languange. This is my first post. Why I am whriting here? Because i have strong feeling that i must share my thoughts with people who understand this way. In my friends circle i am a little bit affraid, that they could not show understanding. So about me. I am a 31 years old man who lives in happy marriage. I think, that my journey, that lead me into a chastity is maybe a little bit different from some of you In the past i was attracted to strong, dominating woman. Not dominating in way of clasical BDSM, but i liked when the woman can be something like a leader and that goes for the sex things too. My biggest dream was that i will have a woman witch controlls my orgasm and allowes me to hawe orgasm only wen she will. I had some relationships that where better some not, but i could never really find woman with real interrest fot such things (that time i did not know nothing abou chastity devices ect.). One day I come to a new job and met my currently wife. She was pretty, smart and really funny. We did start dating after 3 years that we know each other. We became friends at first, so in the time we started to date i know a lot about her. I did know that she was from a relativly strict christian relligious family, but she was tollerant (they go to church relativly ofte i go wit them only on christmas and easter, they dont force me to and i am happy with it). Because of this she was not so horny into sex things – she dont show much intterest in it. She was not a wirgin (i am her second partner), but we had sex relativly rare, once in month, or two months (it deppended). We used condom, but she was not happy with it, because her strong christian bellief. The intteresting thing was, that the denial, that she gave me most of the time was in some way wery exciting for me. I tried to have sex often because she is sexy for me and i was horny relativly often, but she shay no. It was in some way frustrating but in other way wery exciting feeling that i am not in charge. In this time i masturbated relativly often – aproximately 3-5 times in week. My wife did not like it and so i must do it so that she will not know about it (this was the time that we were still only dating). To make whole picture – she is a lovely person who cares really about me, she is only strong denyal in bed and sex, and i lovved her in past and i love her in present and i am sure i will love her in the future. The gamechange came as we started to talk about wedding. One day she came to me with a relatively strict face ant tell me that if i will marry her i must obey her rules about sex. She tells me that she knows that a healthy man need sometimes a orgasm release but she is really uncomfortable with the idea that I masturbate ewerywhere in our house and she don’t like it really deeply. She told me that she was thinking about it and she knows that I can made prommisses that I will not masturbate, but she knows that as a man, when I will be horny, it will be impossible to hold my word for all the time. So she came with the idea she will lock my in – that was the first time I heard about chastity devices. I was really confused. On one side – I had feelings that she will get some part of my manhood away on the other way – this was my dream in some way come true. I take some day to think and then I agreed. It took some time to find passing device. Starting weeks if feel wery unconfortable. But I get used to it. I am not locked all the time. I am locked most of the time when I am allone – for example when she is on a work trip (she is travelling more often than me) – it is the time when she can not really controll me, or in situations when she decides that it is nessesary. I have all the times a sealed emergency key when I am alone – to be sure (no one can know what can happen). From the time I was locked in before wedding we had no sex after all (2 years) until last month (I will get to it later). My wife decidet that the sex will be for making kids only from the time of locking me in chastiy. I had some releases in the time – for example the wedding night. The wedding night was from the sex point of view a little bit strange. She did want that I have a orgasm. So she decided that I should masturbate and to make it better I could touch her naked breasts. Oh man, it was strange but on the other hand I had a really strong orgasm. In our “standard life” I am allowed to masturbate from 1-3 times in month (most of the times in bath). Sometimes (every 2-3 month) I can masturbate and have her with me and touch her body by it. Don’t get confused. In normal life we are werry intimate. We hug every day a lot, we lay down in bed often naked and hug and kiss and touch each other and talk a lot (I must be locked in this situations). She is really relaxed that I will not push her and I find that the way that I and we behave to each other is more romantic and gentle than in the past. The situation changed last month – she came to me and said that she will have a baby and so do I. But in the terms of sex she said that after this 2 years she has no big intterest on it. We talked relatively lot about it how to made it comfotable for her and in the end we decidet that before sex I can masturbate to the edge (I do it in the bath) and then I will go in our bedroom and I will cum inside her quickly. We had this kind of sex this month 5 times. Non of them lasted for more than 20-30 seconds, but for sure I know that this was the best and strongest orgasm I had. Now we are waiting, if she will get her periode. So what do you think? Please dond judge my wife bad – she is a lovely person who make, in a strange way, my dreams true (to be honest – there are some times that I am really, really horny and it is really frustrating to can not have an orgasm, but wen I take the owerall of our life together and the overall of our sex life and my desires I am happy). I hope that my bad english did not cause to many misunderstanding.
Somehow I find this a little strange and quite unconventional. If the wife has NO sexual desire, then what right does she have to lock up her husband? As a woman with a higher than average sex drive, I just find this strange. I know most people would agree with me that it if a wife has no sexual desire, then why not let the husband jerk off to his heart's content?! At that point it wouldn't hurt the wife anyway since she doesn't want sex, and if his drive is decreased because of masturbation, then who cares? Maybe she can do a "no masturbation with porn" rule or something. That way her ego wouldn't be hurt. I know this is like COMPLETELY against all rules of chastity, but just my humble opinion.
Whenever I see a new member that writes a story, I reserve judgement until I see further posts. The broken English seems a little too contrived just like the bad English like in those emails from Nigerian princesses who want to share their fortune with me.
I agree with Vinny but you mean to say that the Nigerian princess really isn't in need of my bank routing and account number? She said she'd come to the US and unlock me if I sent it to her!!!
If I read it without a benefit of a doubt, I could see this maybe happening. I am Christian. So the masturbation thing is in my opinion probably real. Its something that is laid out early on in my religion. The fact she knows about chachastising could be from history in school. That's where this story gos south for me though. I knew about chastising from history but never thought about it until I was able to indulge in my kinks. My wife is my one and only partner. I have never been with anyone else. To go from virgin to chastity is a bit of a stretch I think.
Hello to all. At first again i apologise for my bad english - it is not my native languange. I had only few lessons of english in the school, so i apologise that i can not whrite better. IF it is a big problem, i Will not whrite further posts and make you feel bad. As for the things of the desire of my wife - she truhly has only little or sometimes non sex desires. as for the masturbation - it is a little bit complicated. she has a strong inner belief problem with it. i love her and in the other things in our life she tries her Best to make me happy. and I love her. so i Will stay with her and stand by current stand. and as for the chastity things - she is not from jungle. she can use internet - there she find things about it and information in the time in past as she was thinking about it.